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I'll be the odd one out. You don't have to go to PT. Sometimes, they don't help. Sometimes, they make it worse by doing the wrong things. You might want to try a different PT place. Ds went to one place that was making his problems worse. I took him elsewhere after several sessions. The therapist at the second place was flabbergasted at what the first one had him doing. It was the opposite of what he needed. Sure enough, the second PT did not make him worse. He improved. This spring, I went myself. I could tell what they were doing was helping me. But, it was all stuff I could do on my own. Once I learned the routine, I hit a week where I couldn't make it in for therapy. I did do it myself at home. I didn't see a point in paying so much money for stuff I could do on my own, so I didn't go back.
So, I would recommend trying someone else first. Then, listen to yourself. I think we know our bodies best. If you are able to do the things you need to do without therapy and therapy seems to be making it worse, I wouldn't go back. I would do it on my own.
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But even if the professor does not set an official textbook, there is nothing to prevent student from acquiring a book and using it to supplement their studies.
It seems completely nonsensical to learn A+P from listening to recordings of lectures. Students need to be resourceful and get a text and simply pick out where the professor disagrees with the text info. Or get two texts and correlate, to eliminate errors. I cannot believe students are actually relying on the lectures only without taking the initiative to find themselves a book or several - whether the prof mandates one or not.
Could be an episode of Ripley's....Believe it or Not!
I think some of the students probably are consulting the book anyway. Most are not. They are strictly going by what he gives them to work with. Normally, that is lecture in class. Some stuff, he is just making up his own information. For example, last semester dd was really confused about their "properties of water" they went over in class and came to me. This was something he had completely come up with on his own. It didn't make any sense. I did consult the book that was assigned by the department to the class. I searched other places online. Not there. (Dd sometimes cannot pull the information from a text easily.) I sort of figured out what he was going for, but it was just...weird. She hasn't brought anything to me this semester. Guess what he has been teaching has made more sense. Honestly, correlating two science textbooks would be beyond dd. (She really is just going for an AA degree. She will possibly try to move on for a bachelors after that, but it is a slim chance.)
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So, second request would be a definite no. First request will probably be denied, but we have nothing to lose by asking. Given her disability, it might be accepted. Now, this is IF she will even step up and say anything. Part of me doubts it.
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In all honesty, you are fine to just start him next year in R&S3. I wouldn't worry about it.
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Does your daughter have accommodations through the disability services office? If so, it might be worth her touching base with them about the situation and how best to handle it.
If the class is graded on some kind of curve (and IME, nearly all are, whether it's mandatory or not), then it is difficult to make a case that a grade should be erased because the class was taught badly. However, if your DD is being disproportionately affected because of a diagnosed LD, she might have a better chance. At a minimum, perhaps they can help her figure out what to do if this sort of thing happens again.
She does have accommodations. He will not curve the grades. It is a possibility.
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Why is it "not allowed"? Back in the dark ages, I took college courses where we were tested on material read but never discussed in class.
Definitely a reason the avoid that instructor in future courses and be very honest if there is an end of course survey, but I don't really see eye what you or your DD talking to someone higher up would accomplish.
The not allowed is having class (in this case tests) during finals week. That is specified in the school policies.
In this particular case, there is no book. The professor decided to forego using it because, according to him, it is full of errors. Their only source of information for the class are recordings of him speaking that are put up and only accessible after he has activated them for the class. For this next test, they have over two hours of material to listen to and learn. They have two days to do this. In an A+P class, this is extremely difficult. Next to impossible for someone who is dyslexic. It isn't against any written rules, but it is an unreasonable expectation and poor practice.
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Is there a class meeting during the week of final exams (in which an exam was given) and a final exam time period?
Do you know the exact rules for exams within the last week of the semester? I have taught at different schools which have much different rules. Where I now teach there is no restriction on graded material that week (we have to dead days in which no classes meet). I have taught at school who allow "quizzes" but not exams. So, some would depend on how it is calculated.
If there is a university policy that was violated, then there is a greater chance for an appeal. If university policy had been violated, she could request that she receive and "incomplete" in the course and then take the course next semester and have that grade count. Some schools would be open to this type of arrangement; others would not. She would need to emphasize that a policy had been violated or that the professor greatly steered away from the expectations set forth in the syllabus--the complaint needs to center around that, not whether she is happy with her final grade or not.
There is a class meeting to take a test during the week of finals, and then a final during its assigned time slot. It is definitely against university policy. No question about it. What she requests will depend on if she passes the class or not. If she passes it, she won't need to retake it. She won't need to add an extra semester to add in this class. That is why so many of those students you (oops not you, G5052)mentioned didn't take the opportunity to drop the class. As you know, these kids are on a strict schedule to get classes in. In addition, there are financial aid options that can be devastated by dropping a class. Her grade would not be mentioned in her appeal. If she will even appeal it. Her choice would be just to sweep it under the rug and retake it. I am trying to figure out how hard I should push her to appeal. If nothing else, it needs to be reported so that this insanity will STOP. If nothing else, he needs to have someone monitoring his progress for a few semesters. I'm afraid the poor man has gotten too old to teach. I have no doubt he used to be excellent.
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The first thing the department chair will ask is whether the grading has been consistent with the syllabus. Ordinarily, there is no requirement that a course grade be calculated on work spread out throughout the semester.
ANd, it has been. Other than breaking the rule of giving a test during finals week in addition to the final. So, you don't think that it will be recognized that having half of the course material shoved into two weeks will be recognized as being unreasonable? I guess they should have been going ahead and learning it all on their own ahead of time. Only, they were told not to consult their textbook because it has too many errors. You are probably right though.
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Dd made a huge mistake. She signed up for the same prof for Anatomy 2 that she had for 1. Last semester, he didn't manage to finish the material for the class. The students had to cover two complete units on their own and take the tests for those units during finals week before taking the final for the class. I told her at the time that he wasn't allowed to do that. But, he is so nice, and it wasn't his fault.........In her defense, there were only two options for teachers, and the other has a horrid reputation.
So, this semester, it was even worse. They are only having to take one additional unit test during finals week (which is not allowed...but...). BUT, they have had FOUR unit tests this last two weeks. Basically, they are somewhat covering a unit during class and taking the test the next class period. over 50% of their test grades (and there are no homework grades) will have been during the last two weeks of class. Turns out that this is just the way this teacher operates. Until these last tests, she had a B in the class. Now, she is at a low C. Most likely that will fall after she takes these next two tests and the final. This is my dd with dyslexia. There is just no way she can deal with this huge amount of learn on your own huge amount of material. It isn't fair to anyone in the class, but it is even worse for those with lds. She has very little hope of passing this class. I think I have talked her into going to the dean of the department. If she doesn't pass this class, I want her to request the class be wiped from her record. I also feel like the school should allow her to retake the class for free. Are both requests reasonable? Just the first?
Update: Dd made an anonymous report. Turns out there is no rule against giving tests during finals week, even though the dean thought there was too! Not following the syllabus for grading gave her the option of protesting her grade, but she managed to pass with a C, so she just kept it. She would have done much better, and honestly needed to, if he had done things correctly.
However, now she has been contacted by the school and asked to become un-anonymous. They are letting this prof go at the end of this semester. He is suing based on them fabricating student complaints. Pretty certain he was told he had to keep a decent rate of progress in his class in order to not just give tests at the end of the semester again and was being monitored this semester. In order to share her complaint, they need her permission. She has given it. Turns out there were multiple complaints, all anonymous of course. In fact, they are receiving them again already this semester because he is pushing it all to the end again. Good to know the school takes the student responses seriously!
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My honest opinion? Group projects in school should be banned if they are for grades. Period. I am glad the teacher would listen to you when you called. I hope she doesn't grade them more harshly because of this.
Dd may have to retake a class in college and add an additional semester (this was supposed to be her last one) because of a group project. THis is a girl who is graduating, or would be, with a 3.8 overall gpa. The teacher is horrid. HIs grading is odd and unpredictable. ANd, this is the one and only group project in her college career she didn't just do by her own self. She made sure everyone had their stuff together. It was to be submitted as a video presentation. They met and made the video a week in advance. One of the guys insisted that he was editing it and submitting it. She was quite relieved because she had a surgery right before it was supposed to be submitted. AND...he submitted it 3 hours after the time it was due. They may have a zero on the assignment. No grade has been assigned. They have no clue. Now the odd part, this was used as part of a competition the school is taking place in. Her group won the first section of the competition and is having to go forward to the next/final step this week. Yet, they don't know if the teacher is accepting the work for a grade... She is upset because the work wasn't good in the first place by her standards. She is embarrassed to have to present it to a very real company. She has way too much work to get done because finals are next week, lots of tests this week, and she has been sick the last two months (and still is) with stomach problems that the surgery didn't fix. Add in more doctor's appointments to that list...Not to mention the big one, the job she has lined up...
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I wear clothes until I go to bed. Then, I take them off...I guess I wear sheets.
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I think another pp mentioned this as well. Sorry for being dense. Could you explain this for me? Thank you, G5052.
I believe that was me. My dd was majoring in business administration with a minor in business law. She wanted to also major in Japanese. That required her to chose a second minor to go with it, so she decided to minor in international business to to with the Japanese major. (Each major required a minor to go with it.) This meant X hours were required for the additional minor. At first glance, it looked like she could get it with only a few extra hours because it required many of the same electives as her business adm and business law (counselor at school told her this). Later, it came out that she was not allowed to use those electives for both degrees. If she used American Lit 2 as a humanities elective for one, she was not allowed to use it for the other. This meant the number of hours of required electives she needed to take doubled.
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What makes it difficult is that he honestly doesn't need his own bedroom, but he really needs access to his own bathroom. If four guys are sharing one bathroom, that probably wouldn't work for him because....
He ties up the bathroom too much
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when he needs to go, he absolutely needs to go. There is no wait time.
If that makes sense?
I considered a regular dorm room right beside a hall bathroom but he goes several times at night and he barely makes it (and sometimes doesn't make it) now and the bathroom isn't that far from his room. His bathroom issues can be embarrassing and privacy at time would be a huge plus.
ETA: He has a specialist appointment this month and I plan to get his input.
The set-up I am describing has a central sitting room with two bedrooms attached. Each bedroom has its own bathroom. Normally, you would have two students to each bathroom, but your ds would be in the bedroom alone and thus have his own bathroom. He would share a sitting area with two suitemates. Not all colleges will have this setup, but I've found that many do. While he may not technically need a private room, he really does because that is the only way to get a private bathroom.
The apartments have two bedrooms each with their own bathroom also. Truthfully, I would consider this option. His bathroom would be two or three steps from his bed. Almost all of the colleges my kids looked at had these types of off campus apartments available very close to campus. One of my girls went straight into them because she has severe allergies and needs access to a kitchen of her own as well as her own bathroom. She cannot share a bathroom with other girls due to her allergies to chemicals, hair sprays, lotions.... Plus, if she does eat something by accident she is in that bathroom for the entire night.
I think that you will find that it isn't as difficult as it might seem like it would be. I was absolutely terrified when dd left home. So was she. She had nightmares that she died in her bed and wasn't found for a week...
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All you need is a doctor's note stating what his needs are. They are moved to the first choice slots for room assignments. My suggestion would be to try to find a dorm that has two rooms that have separate bathrooms but share a common area. That way your ds will still have roommates, just not in his bedroom/bathroom. Usually, the bedrooms have two people, but he can have it as a single with a doctor's note (or sometimes more money). We were willing to pay the single room amount, but the school only charged us for the single since it was doctor prescribed. Not sure all colleges will do that! Also consider him living off campus in an apartment. Most college apartments that we looked at are set up with single bed with bath and a shared kitchen and den area. Many times, they are right off of campus so walking/biking is not a problem. They also can place with roommates if he doesn't have people he is wanting to live with. My dd has had excellent luck with the roommates she has been assigned.
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There is no correct answer. Unless when they seem to be ready is correct. Dd23: I let go when she was about 10. DD21a: pretty much around 16. Dd21b: 18.
Ds19: began the process/not there yet. And, the funny thing is that ds has graduated and is soon going to be self supporting. I anticipate that by the end of the year I will have let go completely. As it stands right now, he is allowed to make his own decisions. However, I do give guidance and reminders. I still have to move his laundry and finish it occasionally. I no longer wake him for events, but I do say something in passing about the next day's events to make sure he remembers them. We will be guiding him through separating his paycheck out at first. We have set up an appointment for him to talk with our financial advisor so that we know he fully understands how much he needs to be setting aside for his future and how to accomplish it. He plans to live at home in order to bulk up his savings and retirement funds quickly.
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Ds, my youngest just to make things funny, is my first graduate. He received his combination welder degree on Thursday night. He would have graduated with honors, but he had a new instructor this year who didn't understand the timeline of things and didn't cover the required material in the right order which kept him from having a grade in metallurgy 2 months before graduation which is required for honors. He finished in only two semesters since he had DE credit. Overall grade was a 94%, a 4.0. He is hoping to hear back and be gainfully employed sometime next week. I have my fingers crossed. They did pick him out from his work and asked his instructor about him a couple of weeks before graduation. So, he ran off to the beach with a friend the day after graduation so that he could have some vacation time.
Edit to add: He got a call back from the company he wants to work for. He has a test weld (standard for the industry/you have to prove your ability under pressure for each hire) next week. If he doesn't get a case of the nerves, he should have the job he wants after that! Now, to hope he doesn't get nervous! He's off practicing this morning on thick walled pipe!
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Dd tried to major in two areas. It was going to add a year to her timeline. We gave the go ahead. She started taking the classes for it. Each major required a minor to go with it. Then, what she was told suddenly changed. It seems that she wasn't allowed to double dip on required electives. The second major would require 2 1/2 or 3 years extra...No freaking way. Add in that the second major was Japanese which is easily proven by a proficiency test and isn't something that actually requires majoring in to work in...No way. It ended up adding a year to her undergraduate degree because she had taken up her time taking all those other classes for international business (the other minor to go with Japanese). She did go ahead and take all the Japanese classes she could take also. Just because she wanted to. She will end up with one major and two minors.
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The program I use to write up the transcript does give me the option for writing it up by subject, but I guess i always figured it would look suspect if i gave credit for middle school subjects. He would end up with a crazy # of credits and I wouldn't want it to look like i was padding it
Pretty much all colleges want 2 or 3 years of a foreign language in high school. Just give one year of credit before high school. They will see that he has 5 years from the final level he has reached. You usually only give credits for math, foreign language, and occasionally science (if at high school level) taken in middle school. If they have done more than that, you should consider just considering 8th grade as 9th grade and graduate them a year earlier than you planned. Personally, if they have 4 yrs of high school math credits, but took algebra in 8th, I would not count the alg 1. 4 credits is enough. Colleges will make the assumption that it was taken in middle school. If my dc have 4 years of sciences in high school, but had a high school level bio in 8th I don't count it. 4 years of science credits is ample. etcetera, etcetera, etcetera
edit to add: you might want to consider giving 3 yrs of credits in Latin. Then, follow it with a more modern language. That would look absolutely awesome on a transcript and might feed into helping them if they are required to take a modern language in college.
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I am sorry. My belief is that (absent an accidental pregnancy) the choice to make a baby is dependent on both wanting one. If one does not want, their want should prevail. I wanted as many as would come. Dh wanted 2. I got #3 because I was pg with twins. I told dh that since he didn't want more, he was responsible for preventing it. (I had undergone many years of fertility treatments and miscarriages to have the ones we had.) I was done with medications and surgeries. He said that was fair. He figured, I admit I did too, that getting pg without help wasn't an issue. #4 came fairly quickly. Dh immediately got a vasectomy. So, I vote that you tell him that since he doesn't want any more it is his responsibility to prevent it. Get that iud out.
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I would figure out how much $ I could reasonably contribute and give him a monthly allowance for the time it should take him to complete his training/schooling plus an additional semester (just in case). Hopefully, it will be enough to meet his needs. If not, he will have to make the rest.
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I would not have been concerned about discussing the topic.
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I'll bet she doesn't have to take comp 1 at all. Dd was given the credits based on her ACT score. She went straight into comp2, which she could have easily done without too... But, it is good for a gpa boost.
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My girls all got a ring and a necklace. They are held precious to them to this day. I think they will be forever. The boy got a welder on a big ol' trailer.
I guess that puts us at over $500.
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Medical reasons started us homeschooling. A nurse suggested it to me. It isn't the reason we continued. It is most certainly a valid reason. I want to is a valid reason too.
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Take her in. Call pediatrician first to see if they want to deal with this. They might prefer for her to see a gyn. They won't need to do anything invasive. It will most likely just be a talking consultation with clothing on the whole time. The solution is generally easy. BC pills. I would just go ahead and eliminate her having her period completely with them. This was the solution for my dd23 when she was younger. There is no risk to not having periods.