I was wondering about the censoring thing. Hmmmm.... I'll have to look into that. Honestly, I think I would like it as there are so many movies we don't go to these days because of language or sex. Maybe it would open up my choices more. :D

I absolutely do not think we are immune. In fact, my personal belief is, given a certain set of circumstances the majority of men would cheat. My father was the youth pastor of our church and he cheated on my mom for years. I don't put it past any man (or most women for that matter). So we do have to guard ourselves from certain situations and take action. That's why I said the OP's dh needs to take action if he feels this woman is flirting with him. But I don't think that means never speak to a person of the opposite sex. As far as "fighting" with another woman for my marriage? Forget it. Do you think I am going to sit there with my hand up saying "Oh please pick me, pick me" like I am a contestant on The Bachelor? After everything I have done for him all these years? After I have been a good and faithful wife to him? After I gave birth to his child? FORGET IT. If there is a "choice" to be made in his mind, then there is no choice. I would be out of there so fast the door would NOT hit me on the way out and I would not shed one single tear. HE would be the one crying.

I could just hug you! I limit my kids TV-viewing to practically nothing unless it is educational. When it comes to mindless Wii games, they limit them elves...they just get bored easily. But the other amazing things these kids are doing on a computer? I am loving it!

I've lived in Michigan my whole life and I have never seen the UP for this reason.

I have never heard of this before and it sounds like a FABULOUS IDEA!

Both my kids have a Nintendo DS and we have a Wii. I do not want to have to buy these again in Malaysia so I guess we will have to go with ordering from amazon or something similar. :glare:

I feel the same way. I complain about bridges all the time and my dh always said I was being irrational...until that one collapsed a few years ago (in Minnesota I think?). He doesn't say that anymore!

Promise??? This is ALMOST enough to make me want to call it off. Ok, not really. But I can foresee myself NOT visiting mainland Malaysia very often.

I tell ya what... I will have my kids videotape me as we go across it for the first time and if I barf I will post it on my blog. :lol:

I found these awe-inspiring pics of the Penang Bridge in Malaysia. They are on my blog. This bridge is over 8 miles long and connects mainland Malaysia to Penang Island (where we will live). I have a bridge-phobia. I HATE them. When I saw these pics I seriously felt overwhelmed with nausea. :tongue_smilie:

1. Is there a delay for movie releases in the theaters? 2. Is it true that videogames are ALSO coded so that if we buy one in Malaysia it will not work on my children's game system? 3. Is there any way to ship packages to Malaysia without it costing a bloody fortune? If my mom wants to send a birthday present to my ds it could cost her $50 or more! Seriously?

If it were legal, if the pay was worth it, if I made the decisions (curriculum), if the mom enforced my decisions...yes.

The other thing I wanted to mention was that men DO have a responsibility in this situation. If your dh feels uncomfortable with her then he should do something about it. You should not HAVE to go "flatten" her. You should not HAVE to go up there and "mark your territory". A grown man should be able to repel the advances of a woman. We should not act like they are poor, helpless creatures that can't control their own impulses. I will NOT "fight" another woman for my husband. I will NOT live in fear and worry wondering if my dh is cheating on me. If she can "get" him, she can have him, because if he can stray that easily than I don't want him.

I gotta tell ya...I LOVE technology! I love that I can use my cell phone to videotape my boys saying "Hi Daddy! We miss you!" and send it to my husband's cell phone when he is working late. I love that even though I will be on the other side of the world, we can turn on Skype and video chat with family and friends back here. I love that I can share pics and videos via the web, watch TV shows I missed, and shop so I don't have to waste time driving to the store. I love that I can download books onto my Kindle in less than a minute and that I can take them with me on it and save the money from shipping them to Malaysia. I love that I am doing my second master's degree ENTIRELY online and that I will be able to continue working on it even though I am moving to another country. And I love that my kids are growing up "comfortable" with all this technology. Those teachers retiring because they were afraid to touch a computer really stuck with me.

A little encouragement....I had the "too many books" meltdown last year. I ended up culling about 200 books and I had a book sale at my house. Homeschool friends came by and I made $400!!!

As a female in the workplace...I agree with PP that it just depends... We have males and females working here and we are all good friends, chat about our weekends, laugh about the silly things our kids do, etc. None of it ever gets too personal...like I would NEVER talk about a recent argument I had with my dh, etc. We chat, we do NOT "confide" and I think there is a difference. Also, it is a lot about body language and the "feel" of the conversation. Does your husband "feel" like he is being flirted with? If so, the conversation topic is less important than the "vibe" he is getting from her. If there is no flirty vibe and the topics are harmless then she should not be villified just because she is a woman. Not all females in the workplace are out trying to steal someone else's husband. If I did not talk to men at work I would be very isolated indeed as more of my co-workers are male than female.

Honestly? Both of my boys started playing on computers around age 3. They do play on noggin and pbskids and JumpStart learning games. Both of them read well at age 4 and are ahead in math for their grade so I don't think computers hampered them at all. Both of them like to to do things like CLub Penguin, too, but I find it doesn't keep their attention long. Another example: my 5yo taught himself how to open Microsoft Word, type in sentences, change the font, bold, center the sentence, etc. He loves writing stories on it. And the spellcheck is actually helping him learn to spell! The other day he was writing something down during lesson time, caught himself spelling it wrong, and said nope, the computer said it is spelled with an e not an a. My kids have their own computers so they will stay off mine! :tongue_smilie: They are not allowed to surf the internet though. Websites have to be purposeful and preapproved by us. I was at a conference once that discussed the use of technology in education. The speaker asked us, "How many of you have ever played a board game with a child and LET them win?" Most of us raised our hands. Then he asked, "How many of you have ever played a videogame with a child and had to LET them win?" No one raised their hand. It's like their brains are wired differently than ours. When the school district I worked in went all digital for attendance and grading we had many teachers RETIRE because they would not touch a computer. Yet my 5yo embraces it. It's a whole new world.

There are MANY views on eschatology. The books I suggested admittedly come from my own perspective (pre-trib, pre-mill). For my own reading, I would pick the MacArthur book too! :D The Pentecost book was interesting but it is A LOT of information....very thorough but very dense.

Let's state the obvious and get it out of the way so that it does not hamper the discussion: it is not a great idea for kids to sit and watch TV all day or play video games all day. Moving on... I've read several threads here and other places over the years where parents talk about not exposing their kids to "electronics" and about how much "computer" time their kids get. I would like to move this topic forward a bit to talk about computer literacy. How computer literate are your children? Every time I read those "electronics" threads I feel like a bad mom. Those who only let their kids play with toys made out of wood come across like they are somehow more virtuous?? So then I start hounding my kids about their computer time for a few days until I give up again. So today I am watching my 10yo talk to his friend on Skype. He has made an animated video of his legos...took the pics with the digital camera, uploaded them to the computer, resized them, and used some kind of animation software to turn it all into a movie, uploaded the movie, and shared it via his blog. Now they are both on Skype talking and watching the video at the same time. I never taught him to do any of this. He is completely self-taught. He picked up my Kindle and in 5 minutes had changed the text size, ordered a free copy of Lord of The Flies and was using the text-to-speech function to hear it aloud. He builds these amazing robots out of legos and programs them using their software to do all sorts of cool things like talk and play basketball. I guess I just don't understand how any of this is bad for him? How would limiting his computer time to one hour make him smarter? Yes, of course he still reads books (but now he likes reading them on the kindle...so do I). He still likes to ride his bike and go swimming, loves karate and sharpshooting, etc. I guess I get tired of those people looking down their noses at me for letting him do something he loves that is ALSO very educational. (Can you tell I have had a recent run-in with this? :tongue_smilie:)

Well, I don't know about the "easy to read" factor :D but I personally like "Things to Come" by J. Dwight Pentecost. It is the book my college professor assigned for our eschatology class (I'm getting a master's degree in theology). One I haven't read but is on myy amazon wishlist is "Because the Time is Near" by John MacArthur.

Another vote for Hand-On Equations! But we didn't get the DVDs and didn't need them. Another vote for 100 EZ lessons (taught both my kids to read with it...absolutely pain-free). I also like the Reading A-Z program (http://www.readinga-z.com). Exploration Education Science was HUGE hit this year...HUGE, HUGE, HUGE!! http://www.explorationeducation.com/ We also love Famous Men of Greece and Famous Men of Rome. We read it for FREE online AND listened to it read aloud for FREE online. They were both really interesting and my ds loved it. And did I mention it was FREE? :D

:iagree: "His Needs, Her Needs" saved my marriage very early on when we were newlyweds and struggling.

You hold that baby any time you want for as long as you want. :grouphug:

The workshops they give usually only shows you the start of the process. Further on in the units it DOES teach writing from multiple sources, etc. My ds has an enormous vocabulary but does not like writing...or didn't until we started IEW. It has definitely taught him to be a better writer and how to use his great vocabulary to his advantage. It is pretty methodical but that appeals to us left-brained people! :D And he turns out great work! Here is an example: http://www.welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=69621 HTH!

Try to pack as much as I can in preparation for our move!