Amy in NH
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My oldest had regular braces, and my two youngest now have Invisalign. It is much easier to fully clean teeth with Invisalign.
My kids only brush/clean their Invisalign before bed and first thing in the morning. They rinse their mouths with water after meals and it's fine. They're only wearing each tray for 10-14 days, so it doesn't have time to get nasty in that amount of time with 2x/day cleaning.
It's not a big deal to take it out during sports - it really won't set them back if they're wearing it the rest of the time (except meals).
Remembering to change to the next tray is a bigger challenge. I had them set an event w/ alarm on their calendars at 2 week intervals so they don't forget.
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1 hour ago, pinball said:
Nope, I asked: “what should people be an ally to...
Any sexual label that someone wants to give themselves?”
it’s pretty simple question, based on the thread topic.
Yes. Be an ally to any sexual label that someone wants to give themselves, unless it involves nonconsent of others.
And you did say:
4 hours ago, pinball said:That’s a slippery slope...
Which it really is not.
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33 minutes ago, Acadie said:
Well now I'm curious! Imagining a daily cup of tea but maybe it's something even more exciting...
Something like that, yeah.
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Commiserating. We've found a rather unconventional solution, but I'm not going to discuss it here 😉
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We have a 14-year-old semi-feral outdoor tuxedo cat who is very friendly and likes attention and pets (but no holds or cuddles).
We have a 9-month old indoor black cat with a white chest patch who is an anxious scaredy-cat, but he will hang with us when scary things aren't happening. He's kinda dumb, though, so nothing malicious - just some derpy behavior. His much-smaller, smarter, and more friendly sister is a tortoiseshell. She can be demanding with her requests for attention, especially with DH.
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How scary for you! I hope you continue to recover quickly.
I have been taking B12 for B-12 deficiency & anemia, which I didn't know was a thing until I was diagnosed.
Did you know there is a B-12/COVID link?
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I'm going to venture a guess that many (if not most) of us here in this discussion dated and met our partners/spouses before internet-dating became the norm. From what I understand, dating is an entirely different ballgame now, and not pleasant for many people. If you are trying to meet a potential mate online, particularly through written profiles and messaging platforms, then you need words to describe yourself so that you're not wasting time meeting people with whom you are incompatible. Moreover, many young adults have claimed their sexuality and are unafraid to hook-up if what they are seeking is purely physical gratification. It is important to be self-aware and able to express what it is you are seeking - particularly to differentiate yourself on the gender and sexuality spectrum when the activity choices could be anything from ons, fwb, demi, and ace. If someone identifies themself as being a sapiosexual, their prospective partner will know that this person will likely want a relationship that includes a lot of intellectual stimulation. Yes, many people will (should?) continue to explore and evolve, but having some sort of baseline is a good place to start.
Young people announcing on social media that they have figured out a small part of themselves is just par for the course now - sorta like posting a picture of your delicious meal. It also encourages others who may feel marginalized, or alone in their otherness, that we are all different and still worthy humans. Many people nowadays don't find the topic of sexuality to be private or taboo, and those who are overtly offended by such chat can come across as puritanical and curmudgeonly. If you are upset by it, just keep scrolling. Or reflect on why it upsets you, join the conversation, and maybe you'll find that you have also grown and evolved, or maybe just understand yourself better for it.
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Oftentimes a protective order is a temporary measure written as a result of domestic violence while waiting for a case to go through court. It prohibits the defendant from being within so many feet of a person, and also from contacting that person in any manner including through a third party - hence why the woman driving by was telling him to mind the order.
It could also be a permanent court order, in which case the defendant might have access to children mediated through a third party as stipulated by the court.
In any case, it sounds like he was stopped just shy of the 1000 foot order, and probably used the gas as an excuse while he was hoping that the particular vehicle would drive by. It's too bad that he was taunting the police about the 1000 feet - they probably could have arrested him for being in violation of the order.
I wouldn't assume it has anything to do with sex offenses.
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On 7/3/2021 at 5:20 PM, MEmama said:
Is it common for people to let a room? It’s not ideal, maybe, but in some areas it might be a decent alternative to an apartment.
I never lived in a dorm. When I transferred to university 30 years ago with an associate's degree obtained while living at home, I rented a room from a single woman who owned a house just off campus.
It was a good arrangement for both of us (until her husband moved back in).
13 hours ago, MerryAtHope said:I hope he can find something. Does the school or town have a bus system? I actually lived 3 miles out a couple of years, but the buses were decent. I sometimes walked in good weather.
The following year I was able to live in a nearby town because of the bus system which served a tri-town area including the university.
I rented a room in a 12-bedroom house, with 11 other renters who did not know each other upon move-in. We shared a kitchen, living room, and 3 bathrooms (only 2 showers). It was an amazing experience, and one of those housemates is still among my best friends today.
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20 hours ago, KSera said:
There are a lot of animal projects through 4H that don’t involve raising an animal for slaughter. Seems to me the majority of them, actually. No one is slaughtering their dog, cat, horse, reptile, bunny, guinea pig, etc. Do you know that that was what the tears were about in those pictures you posted? I’ve been to a lot of 4-H fairs, and never saw anything indicating any animals were going right from fair to slaughter. I did see tears on a number of occasions when a kid or their animal didn’t ribbon in their event, though.
We raised fiber sheep and egg laying hens. We still sent ram lambs off to the processor, but the kids didn't raise & bond with them. As a meat-eating family, I felt like it was important for the kids to understand where meat comes from, and I also felt like we knew our animals were treated well before they went into the freezer - whereas we don't know how the animals we eat from the grocery store were treated on factory farms.
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It is different from state to state, county to county, and club to club. If you don't find what you're looking for in one place, keep looking and you'll find your fit eventually. There are some great opportunities to learn presentation skills (animal, but also visual and public speaking), and leadership skills (with national awards and scholarships for older kids). It can be very worthwhile, especially if your kids don't already have a particular passion.
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1 hour ago, Arcadia said:
I also don't know why roof comes before structural, though Phase 2A probably cost a lot less than Phase 2C.
Page 14
"Phase IIA Building Roof Replacement, Selective Demolition,& Initial Structural Repairs
Phase IIB OSHA Fall Protection Systems
Phase IIC Preparation of Building,Plaza,Level 1 Windows & Garage Repair Documents"
From a project management/subcontracting perspective, it makes sense to do all of the concrete work at once - have the concrete sub scheduled for a block of time. That would require the scaffolding hard-points on the roof to be ready. Also, it wouldn't make sense to do the concrete work on the building exterior if the water is getting into the walls through cracks in the roof - you'd fix the walls only to have the work ruined by further water infiltration from the roof.
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We have no visible neighbors within a mile of us.
Can still hear music from one place, and cows from another place, a mile away across the river. The place with the music actually holds a couple of big weekend-long festivals in the summer (sans-covid), and that doesn't bother us.
It's all the gunshots from someone's property at least a couple of miles away that bothers me when I'm relaxing outside in the evening or on weekend afternoons. WHY can't they go to the gun range?
I'm so thankful for no cigarette smoke, though!
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Also curious.
I recently tried a curly conditioner that gave me horrible scalp sores.
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For kids' rooms: up until ~age 13, I would go through the kids' stuff and pull out all of the stuff I knew for a fact they weren't using anymore - like board books, there's a good chance that kid probably has outgrown toys in their space. So - that's round one. Mom decides to either toss it, store it, or donate it - and then do that immediately.
When it comes to the more recent (past couple of years) stuff, I would have the kid sit there on the bed and we'd talk over each item - reminisce about memories, and discuss whether it was likely to be used. It's possible the kid might know they won't use it, but aren't ready to give it up either, in which case we could display it on a top shelf or hanging from the ceiling, or put it in a box in storage so they could get it out whenever they felt the desire and they knew it wasn't gone.
When the room is to a manageable tidying level, I'd require that they put things where they belong every night before bed because we've had experiences with kids getting sick over the side of their bed in the middle of the night, and it is an unholy mess to clean up everything that had been on the floor too.
After a certain point, the kids are old enough to go through their own stuff and cull without being asked, although I would prompt and offer support if it didn't happen and obviously needed to be done.
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1 hour ago, PeterPan said:
I think sometimes what people miss about Flylady is *why* she got into the pickle. She didn't feel well, was struggling with depression, I think maybe had thyroid problems. So she calls it messy house syndrome, but it's because the messy house was the symptom, not really the problem. Your house is *hygienic* and your family seem *happy* but still you are feeling overwhelmed.
The FIRST thing to do to get your house in order is to take care of yourself. Always, always, always. Like for me, it means keeping my anxiety under control.
[SNIP]
For me, clutter and mess affects my mental health and makes me feel anxious and muddled. I NEED to have the house picked up in order to function well. We have been DIY construction on a major chunk of our main living space (kitchen + dining room = half the downstairs) for two years, and for most of that time what little kitchen we were able to keep usable was IN the living room. Stuff got piled up in big heaps in my office, and I really stuck to my bedroom for three years. It took me a long time to hoe out my office, and even longer to start feeling motivated to do anything that needed doing. I(t) was a mess.
I agree with getting rid of the coffee table and any other not necessary horizontal surfaces. We haven't had a coffee table for 20 years because it only collects clutter.
EDIT: I see now that you cannot part with the coffee table. Hmm. I'd find a way to repurpose it so that it isn't so likely to be used as a drop point.-
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16 hours ago, Janeway said:
The remarks about having his penis cut off are concerning. The trans or even gay adults I have known never spoke that way as kids. I completely support the LGTBQ community, so this is not a rejection of being trans.
My kid did speak that way.
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36 minutes ago, knittingmomof3 said:
If I start Gen Ed classes and decide I want to pursue Psychology/LCSW in order to work as a therapist, am I crazy? I just want to work with real people and help them outside of this broken system. 💜
Not crazy. This will require a Master's Degree, but you can pick off those gen eds one at a time, with some extra psych electives to decide if you like it well enough to complete that route. One step at a time - slow and steady wins the race!
I used to work for a psychologist in another state who charged $120/hour - no insurance. He shared office space (a 2-room suite with a waiting/reception area) with another psychologist, and they shared a part time office worker between them. He chose his own hours, and was always booked.
My sister works in psych, and all of her psych colleagues have their own personal mental health struggles.
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On 6/12/2021 at 1:19 PM, BlsdMama said:
Check out your state flagship. You might be surprised at what they can offer financially. I returned a few years ago and got my AA with the local community college, then transferred to our University. Gen Eds really will help you sort through what you love and will be required for any four year degree, so the first couple years are worthwhile exploration. I loved it and while my GPA at eighteen was mediocre, my adult GPA was excellent. I was very prepared to read critically and write effectively from homeschooling.
OP stated that she is looking at SNHU (Southern NH University). Could be that she is just interested in their online program because they are convenient and well-regarded. Or maybe she's a NH resident, in which case the state flagship would be prohibitively expensive. UNH has the highest in state tuition in the country - higher even than the highest out of state tuition of other states. Last time I checked they did not have a great deal of flexibility in scheduling or online options - they are designed for traditional students. Furthermore, they are located in a far-flung corner of the state, so inaccessible to most of the rest of us without a long commute (3 hours for us!). Our public colleges and universities are chronically underfunded because our tax structure is broken; NH Advantage my a$$ - it's caused a huge drain of the young and talented, and is only a boon for the wealthy.
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DD loves her bamboo socks we got from Amazon.
DS and I like the mens black cotton And1 socks from Walmart, although I wear smartwool in the winter.DH loves his gold toe, also from Amazon, and has them in long for winter and short for summer.
They all seems to be lasting a good long time.
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I have noticed, as I'm sure you have too, all of the zombie threads that keep popping up. I think I know why:
When I'm on my mobile phone, the button to move to the next page is very close to the >> to get to the last (oldest) page. It is easy to accidentally touch ">>" when I thought I selected "next", and not notice that the dates are off. I am not logged in on my mobile phone, so I haven't made the mistake of responding to one of those old threads, but I see how it could easily happen.It is a mobile page design flaw - not sure if it can be fixed?
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Eating too much before strenuous physical activity isn't a good idea.
We do a light snack before afternoon/evening activities, and family dinner at 9ish.-
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For those of you who have been married a long time (25 years minimum)....question for you
in The Chat Board
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Friendly and comfortable, and also sizzling with romance.
If you communicate well, you both get out of it what you both put into it.
We did go through a distant/roommate period, but that was because one or both of us emotionally checked out and we stopped communicating. It is possible to pull it back from the brink of disaster, and takes a lot of work - probably the same amount of work all at once that would have been invested over the time when it wasn't.