Light day today because it has been crazy busy. Just an hour of weights at the gym. I hope to get a walk or run in later. We'll see. Tomorrow is my "off" day from the gym. I'll aim for a short run. That is about all I can usually get to on Thursdays :)

Oh my gosh....priceless. I would have loved to have been there...to see the look on her face. Maybe she found a new job after that? haha

I think he will be nice about it. He wasn't hurt or offended, he was humored ;)

He is waiting for next week when she asks for his help again...."I don't know, would your mom be okay with having a HS kid help you?" hehe She has him help her quite often. :lol:

Oh he isn't shy and he loves to make jokes. He sees her weekly. He is waiting for the right moment - like next time she wants help with math ;) She has a little crush on him. Actually, I can't believe she didn't know he was homeschooled. I guess it has never come up.

Here is the scenario... My son, not even a math kid, is sitting at a table helping a private schooled girl with her math before a youth event. She doesn't know ds is homeschooled. Convo is going on around them. Someone mentions something about wanting to be homeschooled and the girl being helped innocently pipes up, "my mom says that homeschoolers don't do anything....like nothing, they just play around all day and never have to do real schoolwork". She had no idea that a homeschooler was helping her with math. :lol: DS didn't say a word, he just smiled. hehe ETA: He didn't say anything because he has a plan up his sleeve. He isn't too shy to say something.

45 minute run this a.m. 90 minutes lifting and plyometrics at the gym this afternoon

I would never try to convince someone to increase or decrease because I do not know your body or your habits like you do. If you truly have tracked consistently and know that over 1200 comes with significant weight gain then I have no idea what to tell you. You mentioned thyroid. Do you have any hypothyroid symptoms?

Yes but if it is print outs then don't worry. I really don't want you to go through too much trouble. I will search some more :)

I am sorry for your struggles. Sincerely frustrating :grouphug: How long have you been eating/logging 800 calories? Have you logged every single day during that time? 800 seems awfully low. I ask because I tried years ago to eat 1,000 calories. That is very low for me. I really wanted to lose a few pounds and it seemed like the quick way to get there. Instead it went like this....I would eat 1,000 calories a day for a week and then I would binge for a few days and then I would eat 1,000 calories for a week...rinse, repeat. I had far more success when I increased my calories to something that didn't cause me to binge. I am not saying that you are doing this....I just want to share my experience just in case. Have you ever been to Scooby's calculator and calculated your calorie needs? http://scoobysworkshop.com/calorie-calculator/ You are small so your maintenance calories are probably much lower that others. I have heard very successful stories of women in your situation who increase cals and count accurately for a month or two. They are told to accept up to a 3-5 pound weight gain at first (water gain). Then they stop gaining as long as they are tracking and not binge eating. Then from there they decrease by 20% in order to lose. For example, a lady is eating 1,000 calories a day and her maintenance is 1,900. She increases to 1,700 for two months and tracks everything (no cheating). She gains 3 pounds in the first 2-3 weeks but then she stops gaining because her body adjusts. Then, she drops down to 1360 calories per day and bam....she is losing. She is losing even though she didn't lose on 1,000 a day previously. It is sort of a metabolism reset deal. I am no expert but I have heard stories of ladies in your situation where it worked nicely. Maybe it is worth a try for you?

What a terrible person to have to treat like family. The MIL + DIL relationship can be strained enough, it doesn't need ridiculous comments like that added to it. She was obviously a mean person, I hope you can eventually not hear her voice in your head :grouphug:

I can't remember ... is it a book or website that you got these from? You can PM me if you don't want to post it. or maybe you did already and I can't find it now :confused1:

I would like to just empathize. I have a terrible problem with this. I can't jump on a rebounder, jump rope, do jump squats, etc without peeing all over myself. I love exercise so this was crushing to me. I have been using a diva cup to take care of it while exercising but I have been reading some great information that I hope can help me solve the deeper issue. The funny thing for me is that most people have this problem after childbirth and I had four kids and no bladder problems. It struck me out of no where about 9 months ago. Hang in there. Hopefully we can figure this out.

I have heard that deep bodyweight squats like this are far better than kegels. So not silly at all.

I completely agree with this :)

I'm so ooooover the 'blonde/blue automatically gives you the gift of beauty' game. Beauty comes in every skin, hair, and eye color.

I think it would be more like her to not mention it. She's never really made positive comment about my appearance and I am surprised that she told me. If I had been dressed in a way she didn't agree with then I could see her saying it to make me feel bad but again....I was far from bad in my dress.

You aren't dense and it is a fair question. Guys at the gym have asked about me and it come back to me or they've directly asked me. Not all guys, just a few. Then there is the incident mentioned upthread about my moms coworkers. I haven't gotten too many cat calls, etc thankfully. I have no idea if general guys in public notice me because I don't pay attention or care. I only know the incidences where they have approached me :)

I hope I'm not. Do you think we can unknowingly do so?

40 minute running this a.m. 80 minutes of weights + plyometrics this afternoon I was on the verge of a migraine so getting through my weight session was not so much fun today.

:grouphug: :grouphug: So sorry for your struggle. You are older now and you are a small person. You could legitimately only need 1100-1200 calories a day. I can't remember if you said you are consistently tracking right now? I say stick to 1200 a day and track everything for 2 months and see if you gain or lose. If you aren't losing then I wouldn't drop below 1200, instead I would add more exercise. Strength training can replace fat with muscle which will in turn cause an increase in metabolism. My dd is small and she is still young. She faithfully tracks and keeps her cals at around 1200-1400 a day. If she goes over that she gains. She is just a slow burner with a little body.

I think I might have mommy issues, lol. Actually, I am only 25% kidding. She was extremely young when she had me and she had a rough upbringing herself. I really don't blame her. She has always been very competitive with me. When I was young I was chubby and she would repetitively tell me that I might be pretty if I would just lose some weight. Then, of course, along came baby sister who was blonde/blue eyed and "perfect". One of those deals. I never really thought about it as something that alters how I view myself but I think it has had more of an impact on me than I have been willing to admit. I think it is why I obsess with weight and fitness and have a difficult time accepting love from others. I suppose I need a couch :rolleyes: I am also open to book suggestions (that might be more in my price range).

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I am out of likes so I can't like anything right now. I will say, don't we all have baggage? I mean to some extent, right? I'm sure our kids will have it too :blush:

Actually the first time I read your post I thought....he is probably perfect for my dd. I have often told her that she needs to marry a man with a free spirit but who is smart enough to have deep conversations with her ;) She is a perfectionist who likes her ducks in a row. I know that when she marries it will probably be to someone whose ducks are dirty somewhere, under his bed.