They don't text. That would be so easy if they did. How do you not explain canceling a family tradition? They are going to be hurt or offended regardless of our reason. Honestly, his letter is so mild and to the point, it doesn't give much ammo. Also, if he doesn't send a letter then their imaginations are going to create something far worse. He wanted to call but his mom dominates conversation and you honestly can't get a word in.