ChristyB in TN
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Oh, thank you. I love your advice. She and I both had to work late and I ended up at an unexpected basketball game:D . I spoke with her briefly this a.m. and she is excited. It seems the teacher has recommended that this little boy be labeled as learning challenged (disabled, still here in this neck of the woods) and that he be tested for ADHD and other things. We are getting together tonight to run and to talk about the legalities and such, I love your advice and will print it off for her. She is awesome and is thinking she is in this for the long haul. She feels his personality is much like her own and that sitting at a desk all day doing work sheets wont work. :D I'm so excited for them! What an awesome journey homeschooling is and what fun they will have!
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My daughter just ran over to a neighbor's house to babysit her cute kids while she runs out and shows some houses. She is a realtor, too. My daughter texted me and said that the neighbor has decided to homeschool her son, he is 8 years old and the only one of the 3 old enough to attend school. I haven't had a chance to talk with her yet but I'm expecting her here later to discuss it. The last time we talked she was disgusted because his teacher was adamant that he be prescribed ADHD meds. He is smart, funny, VERY inquisitive and oh, so articulate. I am so happy that she has decided to get him out of that school that I could explode!!! I might spontaneously combust? :lol:
So, I would love to be armed with your advice and tips. She has NO experience with homeschooling and probably has only one friend with any experience. Me. So far, I'm thinking that I will recommend that she let decompress from a very stressful school year and just read, explore, listen to books on tape while he plays, and immerse the family in unit studies until fall. I think he needs to get his love of learning back. I should also explain that he has NO behavioral issues, has a positive attitude and is an active, talkative boy. Now, let me hear your wisdom so I can share it over a glass of wine with a very brave and apprehensive mom!
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I would check your state's public university system first. Many brick and mortar institutions have programs which fall under the same quality standards as physical classrooms.
Exactly. I got my BS from Middle Tennessee State University and took every single class online while I home schooled my kids. It was hard but it was a fantastic experience. Try community colleges, they are less expensive.
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I think your dilemma is more emotional than financial. Would I go ahead and do it? Yep. Would I advise someone else to? Nope. I'm a risk taker, though, and financial risk tasking doesn't stress me out. You, however, have a baby coming so everything is a little topsy turvy. What you're talking about doing is a little risky as far as some are concerned, and they are right. Is it worth it? Would it make you nervous? Does it seem that you need to be stable and in a place more than anything else right now? Those are more the questions to ask yourself. Some of our best decisions are the ones no one else would make. I like to solve one problem at a time.
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My all time favorite is an annual gift of moonshine I get from a chef friend of mine. Yep, I said moonshine. It is fantabulous and lasts us all year because we savor it and break it out at gatherings where ice needs to be broken. Works every time. ;)
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Oh, my gosh I love home made gifts! Cards, scarves, food, all of it. I think my favorite is cuttings from plants or seedlings. Truly gifts of love. :D
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In the instance when it happened to us, the manager (probably lying again) said it isn't added on in the system, that the server has to go to a supervisor and have it added on.
And what you posted isn't any different than what anyone else posted. It is the same basic premise, the same basic idea. And I still disagree with it, wholly. And find it silly to boot, as it is apparently not enforceable and invokes irritation and lower tips from those upon whom it is imposed. If it isn't enforceable, and tips are still legally optional, adding it on seems like a bad idea. It isn't protecting the server from a bad tip, since it doesn't have to be paid and folks in this thread who disagree with it have all said they pay it, and it is less than what they would leave if left on their own to decide. And that includes dh and me. So, from a customer service stand point, it seems like a lousy idea.
I haven't read all the posts, who the heck could? This one is LOOOOOONG! I haven't waited tables in years but I remember that large families tended to tip a few dollars instead of a percentage of the check. The fact that the waiter followed the normal working protocol of the restaurant and wasn't supported by his manager was pretty sad. However, if I owned that restaurant I would have supported the manager who called you and got your business back, I'm sure. I totally understand your frustrations, I hate that policy, too. I dislike having to look at the check so closely so I don't accidentally tip when the tip has been added, which I've done. :tongue_smilie:
I remember working my butt off and just hoping a family would do the right thing. It is so frustrating when they don't. I had usually pulled together a few tables for them to sit together and therefore had lost the opportunity to wait on smaller, most likely larger tipping tables. We used to tip the hostess extra not to sit families or people leaving church on Sunday because they were usually irritable and non tippers! I always felt it was the fact that they were wearing pantyhose and had probably been forced to sit for too long before they got to me, but that's just me... I made a little over 2 and hour and had to tip every other blasted person in the place. Also, I was paid that 2 and hour for an hour or so after I was seated any tables at all so I could clean and set up for the following shift. Often I had to show up at least an hour before I was seated any tipping tables to attend a goof ball meeting where we discussed the menu or rule infractions.
I recommend the book "Nickel and Dimed" because it is an eye opener. The restaurant industry isn't perfect, we all wish things cost less than they do. NOT tipping the staff and having a set price for everything wouldn't make anything less expensive but it would save you the trouble of having to make a decision at the end of a meal. Not worth the effort of complaining, in my opinion.
Also, because I'm up too early and it isn't time to go to work yet, consider the fact that we are always selling ourselves. What we tip, the time we take everyday to complain, the effort we put in to negativity and the way we present ourselves to people we may never see again...all this goes in to WHO WE ARE, our brand. We must always sell ourselves to the people around us. It costs a little but if you tip someone the appropriate amount you have good energy all day and so does that person. When you come back in to the restaurant, they will remember and you will have a friend.
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I think we are definitely seeing the differences in the mere definition of feminism in all of the responses right here. I guess it is one of the biggest examples of generational and cultural differences in definitions I come across.
As for the talk about working full time, home schooling, and having a two parent household who does all of the above, it is very hard. We wouldn't have it any other way. I don't know how I would have felt about it when my kids were very young, though, I stayed home with them then. Because we homeschooled and were VERY active in sports and such, my husband and I still had to "pull a second shift" at night and clean and cook. It was the hardest and most wonderful time of our lives. :) Now my teenage daughter is the only one homeschooling and she drives so it helps cut down on the work load a lot.
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I recently read an article about women of different generations and their attempt to identify with feminism and even define it. Fascinating stuff, I can't remember where I read it or who wrote it. I'm in my early 40's and I think I land in a generation where I can see the divisions among us. Younger women are having a hard time buying into all the rhetoric involved, this seems to be true with their politics, too. They don't' want to be labeled as this or that, they can't even imagine anyone not feeling their opinions mattered less than a man's! I actually grew up in a household where I had no clue that anyone born since the late 1800's had ever been passed over for a job or held back because of gender, thank God. However, abortion laws crept into the argument, the fact that men might want to get custody in a divorce, the fact that everyone really IS equal in the eyes of the law, etc. made it all more complicated than it seemed to be in teh 60's. I'm a feminist in many ways, I am anti abortion AND anti death penalty - I'm anti death when we can help it. So, I can't really identify with feminist causes, I wish there was a separation somehow with a new term. In my volunteer work I get to see a lot of dads who ought to have custody of children and they really do have to work an awful lot harder at convincing a judge of it than a woman has to. All things still are very unequal but I think we are making progress. As for anyone feeling differently for religious reasons, I support and respect them. It is good to live in a country where they can feel however they want and live in a household where one person is in charge of all decision making for whatever reason. Good for them. Awesome to live in a place where we can choose. I own a business with my husband who was raised by a single (widowed) mom and two older sisters. You can't find a man who believes any more strongly that women have had to fight too hard for equal rights! :D We do have clients who don't really want to deal with me because (usually senior citizens) I may not be able to understand their circumstances or maybe because I'm a woman... it's cool. I don't take it personally. Okay, since I've rambled on and on...I'm a feminist who is pro life.
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1. Smaller, community based schools, no more mega high schools.
2. In order to have community based schools, we have to stop bussing kids all over the place in order to desegregate. It didn't work, although everyone has a great story about someone they love who they never would have met with out it. Kids desegregate themselves.
3. No more teachers' unions.
4. Vouchers.
5. No more requirements for teachers to have a degree in education or a teaching certification. A degree in a subject area should suffice.
6. Outside monitoring of teacher performance and administration performance. Private companies are run infinitely better than schools and a private company would create a great checks and balance system in the public schools if they were paid to monitor.
It's New Years Day, I'm still getting my brain in gear. I'm sure I will think of more. What a fantastic topic!
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I lived with my husband before we got married. We dated for a while, but not exclusively, then he went away to college and we didn't date, then he came back and we dated, then we moved in together, then we got married. When I tell someone that we've been together for 22 years, I am giving a rounded sort of estimate that falls in all of that, its not exact. I guess I count back to where we moved in together. I think people are waiting longer to get married and they are actually giving you more information when they tell you how long they've been together rather than married.
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We're vegan! I love all the advice so far, also try Kindlife.com. Nice little child friendly resource. Have fun with it! It really doesn't limit what you CAN eat, it broadens your diet. You have lots of room for different foods when you drop the traditional, American meat based diet.
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LOL, sorry, I meant it is nothing to hide that you have a family member there, sort of referring to the fact that the op wasn't disclosing it until she knew it was safe. :D Had I been in prison, I might hide it.
I also want to add that I have no IMMEDIATE family members who have been in, just extended family. We also are so fortunate to have a huge number of friends from our lifetime here and they come from a lot of different back grounds. In work we've had in the past, it wasn't unusual for us to get a call from an employee that they were in jail and could we come get them out so they could come to work? Well, sure, we are usually up for that. We refurb a lot of houses and such so we employ people. They become our family. My volunteer work also puts us in a position to know a lot of people who go to jail a lot. Then there's extended family.... oh, dear, I'm not going there... I will stake my life on the fact that people need a chance to make it, then a second chance, then a third, etc. I'm not a religious person but I KNOW it is what Jesus would do, I'm good with that. Sometimes people end up in a prison for something like price setting and they are really good, productive people who weren't bright enough to know what they were doing. I have an extended family member who did that. We love him and are so glad he's out! We don't hide it, either. Yesterday we had to set up an account for the son of a former employee who had found himself in a gang and in jail. He is getting some money from a settlement where his dad was in a car wreck and is now completely disabled and in a nursing home. SOMEBODY has to do that. Somebody has to figure out how to get money in his account at the jail for the various items he is allowed to buy. Somebody will be here when he gets out and decides to change his path. Not one thing to hide about knowing him. I hope that was explanation enough, Gratefulmother, thanks for asking. :001_smile:
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I'm sorry. Did I understand madcharity to say that being in prison was "nothing to hide"? I usually enjoy mostly lurking on these boards, but I can't get past this one. Thanks for clearing this up, if I am misunderstanding.
LOL, sorry, I meant it is nothing to hide that you have a family member there, sort of referring to the fact that the op wasn't disclosing it until she knew it was safe. :D Had I been in prison, I might hide it.
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Not in my little corner of the world but that doesn't mean its not coming. Like everyone else has said, they may be working on getting signatures from out of town folks or maybe the office they are working with works at a snail's pace. We do too much business here to work that slow, we would starve to death. Maybe their mortgage person is taking a long time to get pre approvals to them, we are seeing a ton of that this week. Everyone at the banks seem to be on vacation still.... I should have had 2 deals closing this week and well, I'm still trying to get everyone in the same room and all the docs in. I bet you'll see something today because everyone wants to get stuff done so they can be off work again on Friday. :banghead:
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Yes, several. One of whom went to federal pen for price setting. He totally should not have gone. Several friends, too. Not unusual, it happens and it is awful for everyone. Certainly nothing to hide. Sometimes we hire a friend or acquaintance when they cycle out just to give them a fresh start. They need helping getting re-acclimated into normal life and getting a job, even if it doesn't pay well, gets them started. I know someone who works with women as they get out to find jobs and housing, which is NOT EASY when you get out of prison.
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I loved Falling Leaves by Adeline Yen Mah, it would make a wonderful book club read.
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I have one more! I just read Them by Jon Ronson. He is the guy who wrote Men Who Stare at Goats and I liked both of them. He is a journalist and his books are light.
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Lots of lime juice! No problemo! :001_smile:
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Anything by Haven Kimmel. I loved A Girl Named Zippy and She Got Up Off the Couch was my favorite. I think about it all the time. Her fiction is fantastic, too. I second whoever recommended AJ Jacobs. A Year of Living Biblically was awesome. Anna Quindlen is wonderful, too. I read Rise and Shine, A Novel a few years ago and I have never been so unhappy that a novel ended. I miss those characters and I enjoyed being a part of their lives for a few days.
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This reminds of when I was weepy-pregnant and my DH bought bone-in pork chops instead of boneless.*
I cried so hard and asked him if this was his way of telling me he didn't love me anymore. :lol:
*Because, as we all know, nothing says: "I really, really love you" like boneless porkchops.
That's awesome. :lol:
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They are easy to work with and if you have a good mortgage guy, you are fine. If you were to need to short sale, one of the reasons they have such a bad reputation right now, they aren't so great with communication. You probably won't need to short sale so you will be fine. We deal with them a lot and they are easier to work with then Bank of America and Suntrust, both of those make me insane. :banghead:
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I am SO with you on the beer brewing! I was talking to my Dh about that yesterday. I love your list.
Oh, thank you!!!!:D Every year, about this time, my husband and I sit and have a beer and share our lists. It is just so much fun. Then we have another beer and add to the lists. Then we have another beer and add to each other's list, ;) you get the point. It is our favorite time of year. We get to work together and our goals usually work together so it makes it so much fun. I love dark beer and would love to try my hand a good porter. I'll let you know. You should try it, too, and we'll compare notes!
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One of the babies I get to work with in my volunteer work was suspected to have hip displasia by her foster mother. The baby was 9 months old and her responses and movement sound very similar to this baby. The hip displasia was finally ruled out and after a month of just being able to roll around on a blanket in the floor instead of being held all the time or sitting in a seat, that little dumpling of a baby is STANDING! I went by to see her last week and could not believe my eyes! She could pull herself up and hold on to the side of a play pen. It was breathtaking. I hope this is all that is necessary and that no one gets their feelings hurt. I know how hard this must be.
The biggest mistake I ever made with homeschooling ....
in General Education Discussion Board
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I worried too much about the social stuff.
I worried too much about sitting and completing programs, etc.
If I could do it again, I would have made more time for reading more books, listening to more books, extensive math where grade level was never even brought up, less time with "home school groups." I let my oldest attend public high school his senior year. He away at college now and we are all still trying to recover.
My favorite thing we did was to read the same book at the same time and then discuss it at the dinner table. I checked out 4 copies of a book and 1 on cd for the little guy. The first one we read like that was "Watership Down." We still talk about that and the fact that we enjoyed the experience. I would do more of that if I could. I would attend more Shakespeare in the Park.