:grouphug: It's so hard to watch your child work at something and not see good results. My recommendations are specific to my own experience with Singapore so you can take them with a grain of salt. From the research I did when I first started my then 5th grader in Singapore was that the books don't necessarily line up with grade level especially when a child is entering the program a little bit later on. For example, I started my 5th grader in 4a because she was behind in math. If she would have been right in line with her "grade level" I would have put her in 4b. Have your dd take the next lowest placement test and see how she does. If she still does poorly have her take the next lower one. If you really want her to enter Singapore it is important she is at a level that is a good fit for her. Going one lower for good review never hurts. Are you sold on Singapore? I've understood Teaching Textbooks is a good math program, especially for students who aren't particularly strong in math. A recommendation made to me for slow processing is cutting the amount of work back. The mental exhaustion from keeping your brain going for so long doesn't allow for optimal results. By cutting work back, the child can find success and not be fatigued from a lengthy assignment. I hope you figure something out that can best help your dd. :grouphug:

I don't know that the class is an impossible feat, but at this point I would have to ask myself if it is really worth it. I have a 6yo that Is NT, but can be uncooperative with school and I don't think (sometimes perspectives can be different when in the situation) I would force her to sit through the class. Sometimes it just makes more sense to just wash your hands of it. I can't imagine that it is easy for you to watch him in the class, interrupting the other kids. Withdrawing him would reduce your own stress level. Something to consider is learning a foreign language right now may be way out of his range of abilities. We want our SN kids to be able to do everything we want (and even need) them to do and sometimes our perspective, expectations and priorities need to change. I speak completely from experiencing similar situations with my ADHD child. It's a tough road. He has a lot of years to learn another language. He is just starting his educational journey. Make sure it's something he enjoys. Good luck with what you decide.

I realize I'm coming into the conversation late, but I wanted to recommend GABA and essential oils for sleep. GABA allows relaxation so sleep can actually take place. Melatonin did not work for my DD, but GABA will work for her. You can rub essential oils on the bottom of their feet or diffuse it into their room. Lavender would be a top pick for sleep, but there are others too. Sleep makes such a huge difference for anyone's mental, emotional and physical health.

Singapore has been a good match for all 3 of my girls so far.

I wanted to add something about her lying. I find that she lies to herself more than anything. She will be telling me how well she is doing in a particular class when I know for a fact that she has showed no comprehension with the particular concept (ie an algebra concept). She'll insist that she understands it and is doing well when I correct her work and she might get half the problems right (most likely less). A perfect example from the other day is I met with her Latin teacher to figure out where to place her next year. Her teacher informed me that she never turned in the work that she was behind on despite the fact she was reminded repeatedly by myself and her teacher. On the drive home from school I asked her about her Latin assignments. She told me she turned everything in. I looked at her and asked her if she was sure that is what she wanted to tell me because I had already spoken with her teacher. She looked at me and insisted she had turned it in. She then told me that she *thought* she had turned everything in. It's like her default is always to go the path of least resistance and telling me that she turned stuff in would be easier than explaining what happened. It was weird though. It was almost like she really thought she had turned it in, but it wasn't like she was lying. It's hard to explain, but it is very concerning that she instantly will tell me (or her teachers) that she has finished work without actually having done it and it has become that natural to her. Hopefully this makes sense, but the other day was really the first time that I watched the whole process step by step rather than she just seeing the results.

She isn't adopted. She definitely has attachment issues so I'll have to look into the books and see if any of it applies (which I would think it would). I really appreciate all input.

Thank you so much for the responses. I really appreciate the thought out information. I just want to clarify that my DD is not in a co-op, but in a classical style education private hybrid school. Her teachers are all licensed and honestly some of the best teachers I've ever come across in my own or my children's education. These teachers may not know everything about teaching an sn child, but after speaking with a few they are more than happy to come up with a plan that will hold her more accountable for her schoolwork. At this point I can't imagine homeschooling her full time. Three days a week is a great balance for us (at least before this year). I will be looking into the EF workbooks. I had no idea they even existed. It sounds like something that could be a great help to her. I just wonder how they have never come up with the therapists and doctors we've seen with her. Where can I find out more about metronome work? I've never heard of that either. I feel a little out of the loop, but admittedly I haven't been in this world very long. Thanks again! ~Erica~

I'm not really sure where to even start. This last school year has been a total nightmare with my 13yo sn DD. She is diagnosed with ADHD~Inattentive with some anxiety and most likely depression thrown in there. She takes a stimulant for her ADHD and an anti-depressant. She has been diagnosed with dyscalculia earlier this year. We have not really had the chance to address it yet, but hopefully this summer. The short story of this school year (7th grade) has been very poor academic performance. It is definitely the worst she has done in school ever. She spent the whole year behind in just about every subject. She attends a hybrid program which is partial private school and partial homeschool. She receives assignments from her teachers so that is why she has been behind. At the beginning of this calendar year there were a lot of projects due so I could partially understand how she had gotten so far behind. Currently she is still very behind and she has only one major project due tomorrow. She avoids doing her school work when I don't constantly remind her. It's like she is hoping it'll disappear if she just ignores it. It is beyond exhausting. I have 3 other kids with 2 other being homeschooled and I'm constantly focusing on my oldest child and she doesn't even care about school. If this was it I think I could handle it, but of course it isn't. In the last year she has turned into a perpetual liar. She lies about EVERYTHING. I can't believe a word that comes out of her mouth because there is a very high chance that some part of what she is saying is a lie. I told her this morning that if she lied to me before I signed her up for her school next year she would not be going. Within 30 minutes she was lying to me. She not only lied to me, but had asked me to do something, I told her no, she did it anyway and then lied about doing it. If this was anyone else in my life I would have nothing to do with her anymore, but obviously it is not that simple with her. I have to be honest and say that I'm done. I called my DH on the way home from dropping her off at school and told him I can't live with her anymore. I never thought I'd consider this, but I'm really thinking living in separate houses at this point may be the next step. I won't even get into how she regularly steals things from all of us. None of it she finds to be a big deal. Her sisters are fed up and luckily her brother is young enough that he doesn't realize most of what is going on. At this point any of the doctors, therapists, teachers, and counselors that she has seen, she has not listened to anything they've had to say. She has one face in their office and a whole different one at home. As much as I think she needs ALOT of help, I'm not really interested in paying for something that we can't really afford when she doesn't listen to what anyone says. I was looking more for a place to get everything out than looking for advice, but if you have any suggestions I'm more than happy to hear them.

I got the same answers.

Great news! You definitely have a great doctor.

Check out the HelpHer forums. There are women over there that have BTDT and have vast amounts of knowledge. :grouphug:

I know she'd love to hear from you. You can check out her Facebook page of the same name.

Check out http://www.onemomsbattle.com. She is someone local to me who is dealing with her NPD ex. She is attempting to educate the court system on NPD. It is very eye opening. This is not the average person AT ALL.

What a cutie! <3

I can't believe the difference in dosing for the same size kids. My 13yo takes 5mg. It only even sort of started working at 3mg. She does have a very fast metabolism and so I'm sure that contributes. She is about 95lbs and 5'4.