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Because an invited guest doesn't immediately assume that he gets to dress up his date like she's an inanimate mannequin only there to make him look good?
It's her prom! He should be encouraging her to choose something she likes and trying to match her.
I could see a scenario where he's style conscious and says, I know you love that but green would bring out your eyes, or pink is risky because you might look washed out but a bold red would work. My husband is much more fashionable than me and often gives me feedback like that. But He's not giving her suggestions to help her feel beautiful, he's giving her suggestions because his priority is so he can feel better looking. At her prom.
Mom isn't interfering at all. She's venting here.
Sounds like you're bringing a whole truckload of baggage to your responses here ArteHaus...
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5 hours ago, ArteHaus said:
Has anyone considered the boy? I haven’t read through all posts...
Sounds like the boy has considered himself enough for all of them...
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Oh nooo!
Fwiw, they gave me one last ultrasound right on the operating table to double check baby was actually still breech before cutting. I'm happy with my decision for a caesar for breech, and it is in no way a failure or easy way out! There is no fail/succeed, there is just making the best decision based on your circumstances.
Does everything else look good on the scans? How are you feeling about a possible ceasar? I just had my first caesar in November after 4 vaginal births so happy to talk about it if you like!
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So sorry @sweet2ndchance, be kind to yourself *hugs*
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Oh man, there is so much pokemon merch it's hard to go wrong! For an 8 year old, maybe clothes?
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Congratulations! What a shock!
I just had a surprise, later in life than planned, baby this past November. My next youngest is 9. It's been an adventure, he's so so sweet. Hope everything goes well
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Eeeeeeeeeee! Exciting! Fantastic news that he's head down. Come on baby! 💙💙💙
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Always mum's fault!
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52 minutes ago, Joker2 said:
But who gets to decide who isn’t authentic? And why is it any of you here? I’m asking genuinely.
I still believe it’s between those kids, their parents, and their doctors. I think every person is different and there is no one size fits all approach. I’ve been saying exploratory therapy should be available but I also believe other options should stay available - because not every situation is the same.
Because some of it is our kids too, Joker. Language policing for the sake of your kid means some of us aren't allowed to authenticly discuss what is happening to our kids. Not every situation is a carbon copy of yours.
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At it's root, an inversion of who is trustworthy/has their best interests at heart.
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1 hour ago, Rosie_0801 said:
Dd has a strong desire to be healthy and resents people who try to steal her health from her, and she's used to me walking her through this stuff because we've been doing it most of her life. Because it has been that sort of life...
I can easily imagine what a hot mess it would be with a kid who either didn't desire to be healthy or had a sense of health that coincided very closely with their adults' sense of unhealthiness. Actually, I have a person like that, but not about gender stuff. Nobody does anything much to try and help him any more because he's impossible and wants to be impossible.You articulated something here which I very much appreciate. Thanks Rosie.
And honestly, I think the overall worry that starts threads like this is seeing an unhealthiness become cool and some of our children absorbing that as a world view to their detriment.
Maybe that's not all your super happy trans kids, but I'm not speaking from a vacuum of ignorance either and I'm soul-tired of being emotionally manipulated into pretending that a brainwashed teen looks like anything other than deep unhealthiness.
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Yeah, same as farrar. I'm currently logged into 4 gmail accounts, one of which is a shared one for an activity that I co-run. One is a family one with at least a couple other people & devices always logged in.
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2 hours ago, Spryte said:
It doesn’t matter if you think you sound like a jerk. To reframe this for you — no, it’s not being a jerk to say that your aging parents can’t endlessly park an RV in your driveway with no hookups, and move in with you by default.
That’s not being a jerk, that’s being sane.
You'd be being a jerk to your own family if you said yes.
They are adults with brains, they can make a stupid decision if they choose, they can also problem solve a way out if/when it fails. Nothing to do with you really. I know, they'll assume it's your responsibility but you don't have to pick up that responsibility, just smile blankly and only respond with 'I'm sure you'll sort something out'
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I think it can be okay, depending on the name. When I read K I thought of Nick Cave and that seems okay to me, maybe because of familiarity, in which case you'll be familiar with your own baby soon enough. 😄 I haven't done it with any of mine, but I did end up with a rhyming one! First and last name with 2 syllables ending in the same sound, whoops. Still love it!
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Our schedule is too non-traditional so bought planners don't work
I'm a very sporadic bullet journaler, and I'm okay with that. Once I've put in all the effort at the beginning of the year, I just need less on paper weekly planning like that. My bullet journal/notebook becomes a bunch of lists, scrappy pages of phone calls made and budget figurings lol
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Adding - I'd let my kid read lovecraft before king personally! I just finished rereading a king novel I read at about 12/13/14 ish and remembered loving at the time (The Talisman), no explicit sex scenes but a whole lotta inappropriateness for kids imo! I'm not a prude, my kids read classics with *scenes* (think 1984) but I wouldn't be rushing for my kids to read this one.
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My ds read his stuff a little older than 12, around 13/14 I think. I've read a few of the main ones and don't remember any sex scenes... I don’t think I'd stop my current 12 year old but they're more mature than the books he likes now (he's on the immature side for 12).
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Totally normal to have seasons of slog.
I try to make sure I'm making time for 'school stuff' that inspires me too, letting go of some shoulds for some stuff that makes my heart sing. If mama ain't inspired, it's much harder to get this ship moving.
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On 12/4/2022 at 11:40 AM, Melissa in Australia said:
Don't move to Australia. Just about everyone has a nickname. It is usually short and often doesn't have anything to do with the person's real name.
When our neighbours moved beside us 20 years ago we thought they had 8 grown up children. Took us about 4 years to work out there were only 4
Haha so true! I met a colleague of dh's the other day, Barrel. I think his name is David or something. They're all like that.
Otoh, my dear friend and her husband agonised over naming their daughter. Eventually they both chose a name and hyphenated it. Of course, people naturally dropped the hyphen and only used one name - the husband's choice. My friend was very upset, so they corrected everyone, kindly but consistently, and now she's definitely known as 'baby-girl' - and it suits her perfectly, much better than either name on its own.
I can see it being both a big deal and nbd depending on context.
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8 minutes ago, Elizabeth86 said:
Thanks so much. How’s the little one doing? How’s your recovery going?
I think I may just by the book and see what I think. Have you used it for high school ages? That’s what I’m curious about. I know it will work great for the younger set, but I’m wondering if it will work well through the years.
He's beautiful! Just turned 1 month old. Recovering quite well, thank you 🙂. How are you feeling?
Yes there's heaps of options for high school levels. In fact, usually the lists for grades 7-9 & 10-12 are longer than the younger lists. For my highschoolers, I have them work through a spine/textbook and then supplement with books like the ones on the list.
For example, the ancient rome section lists 16 books for grades 1-3, and 80+ books for grades 10-12.
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Sorry got distracted by a baby 😄
So I've pulled the book off my shelf, there's about 10 pages of Introduction on how to use the book but it's quite generalised (but good!) information.
She puts a timeline of key events at the end of each section, which could be a good base to know what events to cover.
I have used this book a fair bit in putting together history courses, it is a handy thing to have on the shelf. The scheduling questions, I got a feel for that by looking at a lot of curriculum samples. I tend to choose what we want to study for the year, then choose our priorities within that, decide how much time we want to spend on it and that will all dictate how many/which books we actually use.
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Numb out with twitter and/or tv is where I'm at.
I actually watched a sad series and shed a few tears which helped like a *little* release valve.
Talking to my best friend, I'll explicitly say that I'm struggling and need to process this out loud. Which = ugly crying lol.
With dh, it depends. Usually I'll have one big honest cry/meltdown and then he helps me to hold it together. Actually he and above mentioned best friend are the only people I can stand to be so vulnerable with, I'm honest with others but emotionally strong and guarded.
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20 hours ago, Elizabeth86 said:
Yay!
My first question would be that this curriculum is just basically a booklist, right?
I see that is goes through high school. My oldest is just in 6th, but I’ve just been looking at doing history as a family.
I guess the biggest mystery to me is scheduling. Like, idk how many books someone should choose for each topic/how long to spend on each topic. That sort of thing.
Yeah pretty much just a booklist. Each section has a little intro and the books are sorted by grade and type (fiction, reference etc).
I'll pull it off the shelf and see if it has any info about how to schedule books. 🙂
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14 hours ago, Elizabeth86 said:
So have you used All Through the Ages living book guide?
I have an older edition of this. Happy to answer any questions. 😊
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Praying for you & bub, Elizabeth! Hope you get some rest 💙
Fwiw, I think you did the right thing. Pushing all that when clearly your body and/or bubs wasn't ready could well have led to the cascade of intervention and a c/s anyway.