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  1. Well, I had another baby 😆, he's a fantastic distraction from the sh!tstorm... 

    Otherwise, we tend to circle the wagons and focus on stuff at home, good food - soups etc, organising and house projects,  gardening. Permission just to rest and *be* grounded in my own life.

    Conversely, spending time with a select few trusted friends.

     

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  2. On 11/2/2022 at 8:32 PM, Ausmumof3 said:

    Thank you! I agree, I managed to snag some of the kindle versions and love it. They do have ebooks now so that at least avoids the shipping issue. Wish I could get physical books though as they’re so nice. Second hand books are about $450 each right now!

    Yikes!

    I've collected most of the books over the years, the last ones I bought were the lens levels and I managed to find most of what I wanted for $US20-30 each on Abe.

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  3. 7 hours ago, Elizabeth86 said:

    Yay!! I’ve been wondering about you and your baby boy. I hope all went well!

    Thank you! Yes all went well, he's just perfect, born at 39 weeks, 8 1/2 pounds. Recovering from my first ever caesar is less fun 😄

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  4. 4 hours ago, alysee said:

    1. How many kids did you want before you had them?

    2. How many do you have?

    3. Are you happy with that number? 

    4. Do you have any kids that are just like you? 

    5. How many siblings do you have?

    6. What's your birth order? 

     

     

     

     

    1. We said 4-6

    2. As of 3 days ago, we have 5!

    3. Yes. I was happy with 4. I'm happy with my surprise too.

    4. They're all a unique mix.

    5. 1

    6. Oldest 

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  5. 1 hour ago, Elizabeth86 said:

    Oh wow, getting so so close. If you don’t mind me asking, why a c section this time?

    Yes I can't wait!

    Mainly because he's still very very breech 😄, which, I would normally have still tried for a vb because I'm a good candidate having had 4 already. But, we've been having issues with very low, and dropping, fluid levels with no explanation - no leaks or infection or anything. Which could signal a potential early degradation of the placenta, meaning it's not working as well as it should. Nothing worrying enough to need an emergency or very early caesar, but enough little worries stacking up on the con side (including distance from hospital, and the flooding rains we've just had that make it a more difficult journey, enough that I'd be worried about an ambulance making it here, and our state has had serious issues with ambulance times at the moment anyway, and history of a quick/almost side of the road birth - not something I'm happy to risk with breech...) that I'm more at peace with the safety for baby of a planned caesar. If I was younger or planning more children (this one was a lovely surprise) then I might make a different calculation.

    As it is I'm SO sore, breech & not much fluid = really sore, and very tired and bed rest hasn't made much difference to anything, I'm just ready to have him here and safe asap!

    Eta- honestly it's been a really tough year for us for a lot of reasons and I just don't have the fight left in me.

    I didn't expect any of this, my previous pregnancies were all pretty boring and straightforward!

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  6. Oh I'm sorry @Elizabeth86! Please don't be hard on yourself, growing babies is hard on the body. One day at a time, one small step at a time. *hugs* You have the right people in your corner, keeping an eye on things. They caught it, they're being proactive, that’s good.

    This pregnancy has been unexpectedly harder for me too. You have all my sympathy!

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  7. I would never be alone with him, nor would I go anywhere where he was drinking.

    I wouldn't have buddy buddy chats with him at the club anymore. He blurred those lines, continued it (with the fb request) he needs a clear and cold boundary.

    If he 'calls you on it' (on what? Having boundaries?) I'd have a couple of lines ready. "If you want buddies to chat to, my husband is over there." "I'm not interested in friends who think alcohol allows them to treat me like you did." "We aren't friends, we were friendly until you disrespected me and my marriage." I wouldn't get into the weeds with explanations, I would just make it extremely clear that you are not a soft target. 

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  8. We lived in a converted shipping container for a few years, with 4 children, while we built our house. We couldn't afford rent + building costs. We installed a wood stove for heating, solar for refrigeration/lighting. It is our own land though.

    I agree that you would need to make sure your boundaries & expectations about coming into your house/use of land/paying for electricity etc are clear. But yeah, especially while the baby is young, I'd do it.

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  9. 19 minutes ago, Rosie_0801 said:

    I'm more than good. I'm delighted! A frog just hopped across my driveway right in front of me!

    😊

    The frogs are having a blast, they're SO LOUD at our place right now 😆

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  10. 9 hours ago, Melissa in Australia said:

    LMD did your dh make it home? 

    Yes he did, thanks! There was one road closed but he just went through and it was fine. I went in to town and back this afternoon and the roads were all clear again.

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  11. Yeah Rosie is up that way I think! We're a bit more south/south west.

    I just picked up my son from in town and it was a little dicey in some spots with water rushing over the roads! Hoping dh can make it home safely after work tonight, he left me the 4wd (as I'm heavily pregnant and had to pick up ds) so he's going to have to manage with the van! Or I'll be heading out in the dark to collect him! 😬

    The fields are rivers out here, I haven't seen it quite this bad before! 🤞 it passes through quickly.

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  12. 4 hours ago, mom2scouts said:

    This doesn't always help either. Some of the homeschoolers we connected with when my children were young changed dramatically as they entered their teens and are no longer a good fit for teen friendships and many others sent their kids to public school. We've had to start over in the teen years and Covid made it worse.

    True, of course it's not a guarantee. I just meant it more in the sense that instead of parents of little kids ignoring 'socialization' as a homeschool myth, they should be encouraged to build communities and connections while they have more free time. Like you say, much harder to start from scratch when they're older. Neither guarantees a specific outcome.

    Covid destroyed a lot of homeschool groups here too, many left the state/country. Some homeschooled highschoolers straight up lost their entire friendship circle in one fell swoop. We have had to build ours back up and it's slow going. 

    But I will still say that the odds increase if the community is built when the kids are younger & the parents support each other through the difficulties.

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  13. 8 minutes ago, Roadrunner said:

    I guess when they are little, it’s easy. Park dates, play dates… you can get kids together and they will interact. But after a certain age, good luck. Either they have friends or they don’t. It’s not like you can schedule a play date for a 15 year old. 

    Yes, I try to advise the parents in my homeschool group to focus on finding 'your tribe' when they're young and school doesn't take all day. Go to all the things, connect with people. Just a couple of like minded families where the kids get along can make such a difference as they grow.

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  14. 2 hours ago, Jean in Newcastle said:

    I don’t know about other people, but for me, it’s because each schooling option that I have attended or taught at, has had their own socialization pros and cons. Even public schools. So it’s not as easy as homeschool has bad socialization and public schools have good socialization. There’s potential for issues in any situation. There’s potential for workarounds in most situations (maybe all but I am not going to be that dogmatic). Covid affected all schooling options (unless they just ignored it but even then…). Covid didn’t affect my kid’s homeschooling but I worked extremely hard to provide alternative social opportunities for my kids. But I couldn’t guarantee that my kids would find friends. 

    Absolutely this.

    Plus, the personality of the individual kid. I have one who wanted to go to school, because this one trends towards being a follower and had an extremely 'grass is greener' perspective. We said no, based on quite a few variables, and worked hard to get them involved with more social things. Did it work? 🤷🏻‍♀️ At the moment this kid is putting us through the wringer but I doubt it would have been better at school. I don't think there's such a thing as 'working' any more, especially for the upper high school ages, they have to make their own decisions and grow up A LOT. We'll see how they feel about life at 30 😄

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