When I turned 50 two years ago, I was feeling how you are now. Although I was a full-time teacher, my daughter had just become a teenager and no longer needed me like she did before. We were still home schooling, but she was much more independent. I began to really focus on my needs for the first time since she had been born. I started walking and lost 20 pounds. I upgraded my wardrobe, and joined groups to meet friends. I met my now best friend that way, and her support has been amazing. My husband and I are separated, but still living together mostly for financial reasons. It has been very amicable because we both realized that we really want different things out of life. We have separate bedrooms, and my daughter describes the three of us as roommates ? A few years ago, I would have been super depressed about ever thinking of divorce and eventually being on my own, but making the positive changes I've made, including separation as a married couple, has been beneficially for me and my family.