Targhee
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7 minutes ago, Reefgazer said:
I see this too, and I think it might come from hearing that "Oh, homeschooling is easy, you won't have any problems handling." Parents are now expecting it to be easy, and done well, it is not easy.
Yes! Stop spreading the message that homeschooling is easy!!! Not only are you setting people up for disappointment, I feel a little personal resentment that all the work I am doing is dismissed as easy ☹️
This is what really gets me about some homeschooling acquaintances. They seemed to almost proselytize homeschooling to everyone, assuring that it was easy and so much better than the alternative. Then, to assuage any fears or insecurities, they would insist that any formal schooling was not necessary, until maybe the teen years. I'm a "better late than early" person generally and I do allow my kids some latitude for interests, but I am also a "better spend quality time doing the essentials (multa non nultum) than fall for the false dichotomy of strict-school-at-home or unschooling" person. I just can't see how this even makes sense.
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These types of questions make me equal parts sad and angry, and anxious about the reputation of Homeschoolers as a whole.
I think coupled with these types of questions is a prevailing attitude about life many of the askers have - all I have to do is say I need help and others should step up and take care of things. I see so many posts on FB where people just state their situation and expect to see answers flooding in without having to do any leg work themselves - eg on a local housing page “Hi Everbody I need help looking for place - 3 bd $500 or less. Thx” or on a page for events in our town of 30k “Who’s hiring? Comment below.” There’s a concerning attitude through this that doesn’t involve work.
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On 7/30/2018 at 7:20 AM, MeaganS said:
I'm not sure. When I tell people we homeschool, the most common reaction is that they think it's great and wish they could too but they are afraid of the work. So while I see the attitude we're taking about online, in person I see a lot of the opposite too.
Just curious if this is mainly people with older kids or young milenials?
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I’m not sure what you mean by traditional math (espacillay since what I think of traditional is not conceptual math). But, if you want solid math that is strong conceptually try Singapore, AOPS, or Harold Jacobs
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Not all courses are on there. It is a subscription service (the first time you go there it will probably offer a time sevsative deal). The guide books are in pdf so you could print I suppose (but they are often color and I wouldn’t want to pay for that).
ETA: I don’t know if you can download - we have only used streaming
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4 hours ago, Mabelen said:
Is there a link to the list of books discussed?
The lecture titles give the main works he discusses in the lectures, and the guidebook gives lists at the end of each lecture of related sci-fi (the lists are pretty comprehensive). I believe the guide has summaries/critical points of the critical works discussed. It is not required that you have invested all this sci-fi already but helpful. Most seem to be film/TV (eg GATTACA, Soylent Green, The Matrix, Dr. Who) though many of those have their origins in books. He covers classics (like Metropolis) through contemporary works (like Westworld, though honestly I have not got to that lecture so I can't be sure if it is the HBO series or the old movie with Yule Brenner) . Here are the lecture titles from the guidebook:
1 Inception and the interpretation of art
2 The Matrix and the Value of Knowledge
3 the Matrix Sequels and human Free Will
4 The Adjustment Bureau, the Force, and Fate
5 Contact:ScienceversusReligion
6 Arrival:aliensandRadicaltranslation
7 Interstellar: is time travel Possible?
8 Doctor Who and time travel Paradoxes
9 Star Trek: TNG and alternate Worlds
10 Dark City, Dollhouse, and Personal identity
11 Westworld and A.I. Artificial Intelligence
12 Transcendence and the Dangers of ai
13 The Thirteenth Floor: are We Simulated?
14 The Orville, orwell, and the “Black Mirror”
15 Star Wars: Good versus evil
16 Firefly, Blake’s 7, and Political Rebellion
17 Starship Troopers, Doctor Who, and Just War
18 the Prime Directive and Postcolonialism
19 capitalism in Metropolis, elysium, and Panem
20 Snowpiercer and climate change
21 Soylent Green: overpopulation and euthanasia
22 Gattaca and the ethics of Reproduction
23 TheHandmaid’sTale: Feminism and Religion
24 Kubrick’s 2001 and nietzsche’s Übermensch
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I think hats for women are gaining in popularity again - all types. I don’t wear anything fancy though. I wear a baseball/trucker cap maybe once a week - to a bbq, hiking, or sometimes just around town, especially if I’m going to be in the sun. I used to wear them a lot 20 years ago. I have actually bought three new hats in the last 6 months. I really like the look of me in one
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It definitely helps to have read/watched the Sci fi discussed!
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Yes, I started it for fun!
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2 hours ago, nwahomeschoolmom said:
I am glad this topic came up (though sorry you are dealing with it). Having read about this is helping me with my 6 year old son. My husband had put him on timeout for not calming down (long story) and instead I went to his room and gave him a "time in" and that was what he needed.
Also, this might not relate or might sound weird....but...I'm wondering if studying the virtue of humility as monks practice it (Orthodox monks in particular) could help RSD. To be excellent at humility, you have to be willing to hear criticism. The more criticism you receive, the more your virtue is being tested and the more you are practicing humility. (Therefore, maybe tricking yourself into hearing criticism etc because you primarily want to be excellent at virtue...until eventually (after years perhaps) you realize the criticism is not quite as bad. It will not cure it...but it could possibly help. From much personal experience, I know that many issues are physical and biological, but the spiritual side can often ameliorate it even if you still struggle.
Perhaps this in a way would work. It’s a bit like exposure therapy. Thank you for the thought.
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6 hours ago, GeoKitty said:
Thank you. Wait, so BTB covers Spanish 1-4? I did not realize that. Does the publisher say that anyplace? So with 12 chapters/modules per book, Spanish 1 would be the first 9?
Off to find the workbooks and look at them now too.
Did you have your kids take notes in a notebook from the iBook lessons?
Not exactly. They say on the description of level 3 that it covers everything you need to take SAT II, A.P., or IB Spanish tests, and in the FAQ it says that the twelve chapters of each book are often spread over multiple years. If you compare the scope and sequence with any high school syllabus you will see it covers more grammar topics in each level than a typical High school year.
I did not have my dd take notes. But that isn’t how she learns well from a text.
I am glad we added the Practice Makes Perfect for additional practice, as well as Rosetta Stone.
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Tests are not included but are purchasesble at the website
Theres no printing (or need to print) from the ibook
We did not do a portfolio. We bought the tests from the BtB website and Practice Makes Perfect workbooks, both providing written work with scores to give an objective grade. Also included in my grade was completion of Rosetta Stone Spanish.
FWIW BtB Spanish is pretty quick moving and the three levels cover four years of high school Spanish. We did 3/4 of a Level with supporting practice in Rosetta Stone and Practice Makes Perfect is equivalent to one year of high school Spanish.
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On 7/24/2018 at 1:55 PM, Targhee said:
I was using BPD as borderline personality disorder as well. I am not sure but I think you are right he was talking about bipolar here, but in another article I read the same thing about borderline personality disorder. I will see if I can find it.
https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria
It mentions BPD, as well as Bipolar and other mental health conditions, that would be on a differential.
Reading this again, and the part about therapies in particular, I think it suggests not the CBT or DBT wouldn’t be helpful, but that they cannot prevent an episode of dysphoria or “cure” RSD symptoms. They can be useful for managing the effects of the intense emotional state after it happens. It seems to suggest that the severity of dysphoria can be significantly diminished for some with medication.
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15 hours ago, nwahomeschoolmom said:
Wow this is really interesting...I have never heard of this before, but am pretty sure I have experienced this in someone I know with ADHD. So how would a RSD intense reaction be different from a "meltdown"?
I think meltdown is usually about either unmet expectation, task switching when hyper focused, or sensory issues. Not always, but I would guess usually. The RSD is about perceived criticism or rejection. I do have one cryer (imploding) and one fighter (exploding) when meltdowns happen. What I see that I believe is RSD is more like wounding - pain, hurt, hiding or shielding themselves as if they perceive a major threat against their safety/well being.
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Thank you to all who are responding. I’m still reading and thinking, and wondering, about it all.
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I’d say 15-25 depending on lesson. But just a heads up RS1 level B takes longer than a typical school year if you do one a day. We choose to double up some times. I hear RS2 level B does not have this problem.
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3 hours ago, alisoncooks said:
I get what you're saying, but I much prefer the idea that our bodies are made for function, rather than viewing.
This! And the book for girls “Strong is the New Pretty” is not just about physical fitness but about being capable and mentally strong.
I think equating strong with fit is terribly problematic. I’m not fit, I would like to be more fit for my own health, but I feel no pressure to be fit. I feel sorry for anyone who feels they must bug fit, not because I think I’m above them but because I would hate to suffer through someone else’s expectations. I do however identify with the word strong.
I think equating strong with capable is fabulous. I’m all for it. I want my daughters to know that their strength if character, of integrity, of determination, of ingenuity, of resilience, of fortitude, and of compassion are all valuable and worth cultivating. So is physical health, but that you measure by how you feel (not how you look or what someone else wants).
As to the t-shirt slogans, the ones that get me are “Girls are the Future” and the like. What!?! What happened to equality, partnering, and the value of diversity? Girls are the Future is anti boys, and I don’t like that at all.
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8 hours ago, lisabees said:
DD LOVED Thomas Hummel's Creative Writing course through WTMA. No fantasy writing, however. And he uses a workshop format.
She also liked Bravewriter, but that was for essay writing.
Hummel's class inspired her so much that she is just finishing up three weeks at Bard's Writers Workshop.
And also @alewife how old were your kids when taking the class?
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22 minutes ago, Moved On said:
I was reading that a combination of two meds is more successful. I can't remember if it was the WebMD article. Guanfacine was one but I can't remember the other off the top of my head. Please don't feel it as a criticism in any way on my part. If a child needs meds then they need meds. You need to do what you feel is best for your child.
It isn’t a criticism. My kids have been on meds for ADHD for 6+ years. I just didn’t realize there was a term for what I observed, let alone treatment. I did read tgat guanfacine was only effective for about 50% of people.
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3 hours ago, maize said:
Just to clarify, when I use BPD I am referring to Bordeline Personality Disorder not Bipolar Disorder (which I think the rapid cycling reference was to).
I was using BPD as borderline personality disorder as well. I am not sure but I think you are right he was talking about bipolar here, but in another article I read the same thing about borderline personality disorder. I will see if I can find it.
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Dc is in DBT and we will persist with it. Other dc is in therapy with CBT as primary method. I am hoping as they have more practice with these things they will have greater success. I am wondering about medication now though - guanfacine was one I saw recommended. The other was an MAOI, which is a much bigger commitment and one you have to vigilant about contraindications.
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3 hours ago, sbgrace said:
I wonder about my son when I read about this. It makes it hard to discuss/address areas of weakness, because he just can't bear to think about or allow anyone to talk about x or y. He wounds easily, and I am discouraged to think there isn't a cognitive treatment.
YES which makes even the idea of therapy a criticism ?
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6 hours ago, J-rap said:
Interesting. Is it always found along with ADHD, or can it exist without ADHD? It also sounds like a mild borderline personality disorder trait, or even just being a highly sensitive person. In any event, it's super interesting to me, and I can definitely see one (or more!) of my own family members having something similar to this. Brain condition categories are so complex and vague.
I'm sorry your dc is struggling with this. I was going to suggest DBT too,
Thinking about this more, my dh has a relative who has something similar to this, but it was never really given a name. He finally found a prescription drug, after a number of years, that has stabilized his perceptions of events and criticism, and says that it has absolutely changed his life.
Dc is in therapy with a counselor using DBT in particular. However this and other articles suggest no therapies are particularly helpful. https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-how-to-treat-it-alongside-adhd/
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“Psychotherapy does not particularly help patients with RSD because the emotions hit suddenly and completely overwhelm the mind and senses. It takes a while for someone with RSD to get back on his feet after an episode.”
My dc becomes so instantly in a state of panic, fear, hurt that dc seems incapable of executing anything learned from DBT or any other coping mechanisms. Dc often appears as having been punched in the chest, physically retreating and clutching chest in pain. But once subsided, function is fairly normal.
Also, @maize though it is similar to BPD in this single trait:
“When this emotional response is internalized, it can imitate a full, major mood disorder complete with suicidal ideation. The sudden change from feeling perfectly fine to feeling intensely sad that results from RSD is often misdiagnosed as rapid cycling BPD.
It can take a long time for physicians to recognize that these symptoms are caused by the sudden emotional changes associated with ADHD and rejection sensitivity, while all other object relations are totally normal”
Also in the article with regards to prevalence:
“Rejection sensitivity is part of ADHD. It’s neurologic and genetic. Early childhood trauma makes anything worse, but it does not cause RSD. Often, patients are comforted just to know there is a name for this feeling. It makes a difference knowing what it is, that they are not alone, and that almost 100% of people with ADHD experience rejection sensitivity. After hearing this diagnosis, they know it’s not their fault, that they are not damaged.”
I had heard about this about a year ago, along with emotional sensitivity and emotional flooding, as even more universal to ADHD (all Typs) than any other symptoms, though it was after DSM V. Right now I am hoping to learn and understand more. Dc does not have other symptoms of BPD, but definitely has this RSD more intensely than the other ADHDers in our home.
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23 hours ago, maize said:
I think DBT could be helpful.
I had thought so too, but several professional sources said no. I’m hoping someone out there might be able to give some personal experience. I have known this about my child since age 2 but could never put a name or cause to it. This symptom of ADHD (not an official DSM symptom but anecdotally present to one degree or another in a high majority of those with ADHD) is the most debilitating for my dc right now, and the dysphoria so severe that it is in that moment causing extreme depression and anxiety.
Do you see a limited number of dog breeds where you live?
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To answer the original question, yes! I see 1. Heelers 2. Aussies 3. Aussie-Heeler mixes 4. Border Collies 5. Boarder-Aussie mixes 6. Pit mixes 7. Chihuahuas The tops 5 are do to the fact we live in sheep country and ranchers breed their best working dogs, try to sell the rest, and give away the "leftover" pups free at walmart. The pits seem to attract irresponsible owners (I am not saying all pit owners are irresponsible) who don't take into account the breeds ability to escape or have a notion they might breed them. And the Chihuahuas attract people who want a fashion accessory but aren't ready for a strong-minded animal that is territorial of their human (so they end up in shelter). These are all generalizations, I know, and not universally true. But I wasn't joking about these being the top breeds I see here. When I lived in western WA I would see a great variety of breeds. When I lived in AK I saw a great number of Heinz 57 dogs.
We have a Yellow Black Mouth Cur mix. Mom came into the rescue pregnant by an unknown father(s). In the litter there were three including ours that looked like straight up Cur, and 6 others who looked very mixed, so who knows. This dog has been the best all around dog we have had - ability to go the long haul or adventuring over rough terrains and climbs, but settled and behaved at home; alerting and wearing of strangers *when on our property or in our car* yet accepting when introduced and sweet and accepting of other people and dogs when we are out and about; about the size of a small lab but she "takes up less space" than our labs did; excellent in the car, never been a chewer, so trainable (inuits when you are trying to get her to do), knows and respects boundaries like furniture, food, spaces... the only trouble with her is she developed extreme storm anxiety, poor baby.