I tried doing a few simple searches and couldn't find exactly what I was looking for, so please forgive me (and provide the link!) if this has already been discussed.
I have a very bright kiddo (almost 8, already! ) with an ASD2 diagnosis. I find myself constantly correcting him for things that I would never have thought I'd have to actually tell someone. It's good for him to learn these things, but I'd really rather avoid at least *some* of the frustration I feel when he does something that seems crazy to me and I have to brace myself to explain to him why something is inappropriate/rude/etc. Because when I respond appropriately and well, and explain the situation and expectations to him, he usually takes it in stride and can apply said rule moving forward. But often, I'm left standing there staring at him in exasperation and wondering how on earth he could even possibly think this was a good idea in the first place.
So I'm looking for something that I can perhaps use during non-conflict times that will help me teach him what he needs to know. I've gone through the Unwritten rules of social interaction, by Grandin et al, but is there anything more concrete/specific that you can recommend, at least as a starting point? There are no social groups for kids his age locally and he is struggling with peers and making friends, not to mention learning rules at home (somehow, I thought that our discussion of personal space and boundaries there would've informed him that he's not allowed to lay on his sister and lick her ear while they're playing puppy, *even IF* the puppy game is mutual, but... )
Maybe there's something that's broader than social skills, even, that would be helpful to our situation? Maybe some of this is just needing time to grow and learn and mature. I don't know, but thought I'd at least ask!
Thank you in advance!