Wheres Toto Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 As a new young mom, I would have stayed. I wouldn't have said anything, I would have acted more reserved and quiet than I probably would have if it hadn't happened, but otherwise would not have acted any differently. Thanks to stuff from my childhood/growing up years, avoidance was definitely my preferred method of dealing with conflict. I still find myself falling into those habits now at 53 years old, but can usually take more appropriate steps these days. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shoeless Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 I would have stayed and kept my head down while silently resenting her. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pinball Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 Where did this thread go? i didn’t have time to answer yesterday Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted January 13, 2023 Share Posted January 13, 2023 On 1/12/2023 at 9:59 AM, lauraw4321 said: At 25 I would have stayed. I would have apologized, ducked my head, tried to keep the peace. At 42 it would be different. But I wouldn’t judge my 25 year old self for not having the strength, wisdom and perspective of a 42 year old. Yes, this. And at 42 it would have been, no matter what I am out of here, whatever it takes, right now. To the death. And now at 65 I would just be rolling my eyes, not apologizing, just kind of retreating but not feeling bad. In a ‘consider the source’ kind of way—knowing that it’s not me, it’s her, and rising above it. 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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