xxxxxxxx Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 I have a family friend who lost her dh in Afganistan this week. She has 2 young girls and I'd like to send them something. Any ideas? My first thought was the book "Teddy's Button" but I'm not sure that would be appropriate. Your help and ideas would be appreciated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Parrothead Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 Are you looking for Christmas gifts, or gifts meant to be somewhat of a memorial to their father? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mazakaal Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 How old are the girls? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxxxxxx Posted December 3, 2008 Author Share Posted December 3, 2008 They are 7 and 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanga Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 I think the very best thing that you can send is a note telling them of nice or funny memories that you have of their father or an observation you made of how much their father demonstrated his love for them (include a picture of him if you have one. Anything that will allow them to know or remember their father better is what they will most cherish in the future! -Ann Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harriet Vane Posted December 3, 2008 Share Posted December 3, 2008 I think the very best thing that you can send is a note telling them of nice or funny memories that you have of their father or an observation you made of how much their father demonstrated his love for them (include a picture of him if you have one. Anything that will allow them to know or remember their father better is what they will most cherish in the future! -Ann :iagree: This will mean ever so much more than a material item, though anything you send will make them feel remembered and loved. I do this regularly with my little cousins, whom I care for every weekend. Their mother is dying of a brain tumor, and has been living at a nursing home in a dementia unit for 18 months. She went from "normal" to brain damaged in a very short time, and it has been awful. My aunt and I grew up more as sisters because our mothers had a business together, and she is not that much older than me. I am one of the few people in the world who remembers their mother well, for her entire life, and I make a point of regularly telling the kids every silly little story I can think of about their mother. They lap up those details and treasure them and want to hear them over and over. Don't worry about wording things perfectly or making it the most amazing letter ever. Just do it. Sit down and write any little details you can think of, or any story no matter how mundane. They will keep that letter and re-read it over time and treasure it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
battlemaiden Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 I would get them tickets to a movie. Or movie passes. At Christmas, I think they should have something that will be fun for them, not emotional/sentimental. I'm sure they have had some of that too, but Christmas gifts should be something joyful for them. I would save the memorial type thang' for after Christmas. Just my humble opinion. Jo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
asta Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Quote: Originally Posted by Kanga I think the very best thing that you can send is a note telling them of nice or funny memories that you have of their father or an observation you made of how much their father demonstrated his love for them (include a picture of him if you have one. Anything that will allow them to know or remember their father better is what they will most cherish in the future! -Ann :iagree: This will mean ever so much more than a material item, though anything you send will make them feel remembered and loved. I do this regularly with my little cousins, whom I care for every weekend. Their mother is dying of a brain tumor, and has been living at a nursing home in a dementia unit for 18 months. She went from "normal" to brain damaged in a very short time, and it has been awful. My aunt and I grew up more as sisters because our mothers had a business together, and she is not that much older than me. I am one of the few people in the world who remembers their mother well, for her entire life, and I make a point of regularly telling the kids every silly little story I can think of about their mother. They lap up those details and treasure them and want to hear them over and over. Don't worry about wording things perfectly or making it the most amazing letter ever. Just do it. Sit down and write any little details you can think of, or any story no matter how mundane. They will keep that letter and re-read it over time and treasure it. Yes, do this. My dad's best friend told me stories for years and years. It was the only way I was ever able to "know" my dad. a Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kalanamak Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 I would save the memorial type thang' for after Christmas. Just my humble opinion. :iagree: And be a support to mom, so she can be a support to them, IYKWIM. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Mungo Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 I think the very best thing that you can send is a note telling them of nice or funny memories that you have of their father or an observation you made of how much their father demonstrated his love for them (include a picture of him if you have one. Anything that will allow them to know or remember their father better is what they will most cherish in the future! -Ann I would get them tickets to a movie. Or movie passes. At Christmas, I think they should have something that will be fun for them, not emotional/sentimental. I'm sure they have had some of that too, but Christmas gifts should be something joyful for them. I would save the memorial type thang' for after Christmas. Just my humble opinion. Jo I agree with both of these. Start a diary or scrapbook of memories about their dad-plan to give it in several months. In the mean time that family needs some more practical help. Send a cleaning crew or meals to the house. Send gift certificates for a local restaurant where they can get take out. Send movie tickets. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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