summer Posted July 13, 2008 Share Posted July 13, 2008 I did not know a goood title so sorry if my title is not the best. I was out with some friends recently (playing PoKeNo) and this topic was brought up and I have really been thinking about it. While I am not in the situation now, I figure many of us will face this at some point. Basically, say you have an adult who has mental issues..anything from dementia, alzheimers, bipolar disorder, severe depression, etc...and they have struggled with it for a long time so it does not seem as if it will get better (some disorders will most definitely get worse). And that adult does not take good care of themselves physically and as a result, repeatedly get sick, to the point where they could die if not going to the ER and such. Does there ever come a point where it is ok, or even gracious, to just let the person go? By this I mean, someone gets sick because they keep drinking to an oblivion because they have severe depression or bipolar or schizophrenia or alcholism or something (I am not exactly familiar with all these things, these are just some of the situations brought up) and the person can overdrink to the point of needing medical care, or...another case....maybe the person refuses to take antibiotics when sick and ends up even sicker (one of the ladies has a mother who has dementia who will refuse medical care and try to not take her meds so they force them). There are many other possible case scenarios....and remember, it has to be a mental issue that the person who has it really really does not want any sort of treatment or to get better. Does there come a point where the family members or whomever is close to them, should let them go? Another case scenario brought up was a man who is a bipolar alcoholic who does not want any sort of care at all, and will get so sick when he has any sort of infection (minor stuff like UTIs) but will not go to the doctor at all so it has gotten bad enough before to require calling an ambulance..he says he doesn't care if he lives and that is why he won't get treatment. So...what do you think? It is a little more clear cut when the terminal illness is physical. My grandfather had cancer and they said chemo and radiation therapy was only extending his life but he had the cancer badly enough that he could not possibly get over it. He decided to terminate treatments (he said they really hurt) but he was also not in the right mind. His mind was affected enough that he would lay in bed stripping his clothes writhing about in pain (apparently, stripping is normal at the end stages we were told). Grandmother could have forced the treatment but she chose to let him go. But that was pretty clear cut. What do you do when it is a mental issue? I am unsure of the answer. On one hand, if they are that far gone mentally that they will not care for themselves and they have a very low quality of life..maybe letting them go is the right thing. On the other hand, there is this certain obligation to care for the ones we love. But on that third hand (we must be a tripus) if we really love them, won't we let them go? What does everyone else think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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