NanceXToo Posted December 14, 2011 Share Posted December 14, 2011 (edited) Ok, first of all, this is not something that is happening now and it's not even a definite. It is just for future consideration as a possibility. I have a daughter, turning 20 in three weeks, who has some moderate retardation, who lives with me and who still goes to school full-time in a life skills/special needs setting. She will finish out this year and go there next year, too, and then she has to graduate. After that my goal is to get her into a local sheltered workshop setting, and she will continue living at home at least until then. Not that I have any plans to rush her out of the house after that or anything either, I have no idea yet what the future will bring. But one POSSIBLE consideration for SOME POINT in the future is some sort of local residential group home setting only because a part of me thinks she might enjoy that more than just being home with her family all the time. The truth is, she's sort of lonely here. Yes she has her family, but she doesn't really have anyone else. She goes out with an adult caretaker type person once a week who does things with her. She's in an adult recreation group that takes her out once a month with a group of other adults for some sort of supervised recreational thing. She plays Special Olympics sports while she's still in school because I sort of push them on her to (she'd stay home and watch TV instead if I let her). But she doesn't really have friends she sees outside of school, no one to just "hang out" with, no one to talk to outside of school other than us, every now and then she comments that she doesn't have friends. And she really, really likes to talk and be around people. And sometimes I think, well, is she just ALWAYS going to live with her family and have limited interactions with other people. And then I think that maybe she would prefer it if I could find her a small residential group home type setting where she'd live with a small group of peers who would be like live in friends that she could relate to, where they'd have trained staff to care for them, where she'd go to a sheltered workshop program during the day and have each other to interact with the rest of the time on a peer level with trained supervision, where she'd be close enough by that she'd still have lots of visiting time with her family and we'd see her often, but she'd feel like she had a bit more independence from her family as she goes into her adult years and lots of peer time, too.... Of course, if she didn't like it or want to be there and wanted to come home, she would always have a place here, this would all hinge on her liking it and wanting to be there (why does part of me feel almost like this would be abandoning her in some weird way, too?! Ugh). So anyway it's all just hypothetical right now. Still, there's a local agency that I would just like to talk to and ask them some questions about their residential group homes just to have some information and knowledge about it. I was wondering, can you all help me brainstorm a list of questions that I might want to ask them about their group home/s? Some I have right now: What towns are they in How many people live in them Would any of them have behavioral problems (my daughter doesn't) What is the age range of the people who live in them What is the range of disabilities of the people who live in them What if they decide they just feel like going out to a store or for a walk, are they just allowed to go out on their own whenever they want How does family visitation work there and at the family's home Can she have a cell phone there and contact me whenever she wants Is there a waiting list to get into the program, how long is it Staff ratio/credentials Can you all think of any others? I already left a message for someone from the place to call me back. Edited December 14, 2011 by NanceXToo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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