Aubrey Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 I've been sick for 2 days now. He took care of everything yesterday, from entertaining to feeding babies. This morning, when I got up, he was standing over the oven making eggs, & coffee was already brewed. (Since it's a stomach thing, I really wish I would have told him yesterday that the coffee was a no-go. He ground beans ils brought back from Italy. :001_huh: But he did a good job of it.) Earlier this week, he had made oatmeal when I got up. He said he wanted to have a good day, & Daddy always tells him to *decide* to have one, not just hope for it, & he knew that breakfast would help us have a good day. We've been having a lot of trouble w/ him the last month or so, so that makes all of this doubly sweet. It's like this cloud has kind-of lifted, & I can see he's still in there. :001_smile: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 I've been sick for 2 days now. He took care of everything yesterday, from entertaining to feeding babies. This morning, when I got up, he was standing over the oven making eggs, & coffee was already brewed. (Since it's a stomach thing, I really wish I would have told him yesterday that the coffee was a no-go. He ground beans ils brought back from Italy. :001_huh: But he did a good job of it.) Earlier this week, he had made oatmeal when I got up. He said he wanted to have a good day, & Daddy always tells him to *decide* to have one, not just hope for it, & he knew that breakfast would help us have a good day. We've been having a lot of trouble w/ him the last month or so, so that makes all of this doubly sweet. It's like this cloud has kind-of lifted, & I can see he's still in there. :001_smile: Awesome kid. I've always liked him. LOL Seriously...you do a great job of describing him and he sounds great. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChristusG Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Wow, that's amazing! And at only 8 years old? What a blessing you have there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 How sweet of him. Having an older son who causes a lot of trouble, I can definitely see how important "choosing" a good day can be! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emmy Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Aubrey how do you do it and what am I doing wrong? Seriously your post makes me sigh - I'm happy for you but it's so disheartening to think I have one near the same age (turned 9 over the summer) and he is nothing like that for me. I went on bedrest for my pregnancy a week ago and honestly I think he is the most difficult one of my 4 to deal with - people keep commenting that "at least he's old enough to be helpful" and I just think 'hmmmm - not really". :glare: I hope you are feeling better today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 Aubrey how do you do it and what am I doing wrong? Seriously your post makes me sigh - I'm happy for you but it's so disheartening to think I have one near the same age (turned 9 over the summer) and he is nothing like that for me. I went on bedrest for my pregnancy a week ago and honestly I think he is the most difficult one of my 4 to deal with - people keep commenting that "at least he's old enough to be helpful" and I just think 'hmmmm - not really". :glare: I hope you are feeling better today! First, I don't want you to think it's anything I've done. We have shockingly bad days, too, lol. I think relationship comes first, & I've noticed that when ds's behavior/mood go the wrong way, I usually haven't been spending as much time w/ him, have been too hard on him, too high of expectations. Something like that. I have a friend who's a youngest, & she has the hardest time w/ her oldest, & I think it's almost a cultural difference. I don't think she can *see* his POV, if that makes sense. Now, as an oldest, hopefully I'll remember that when my youngest gets big enough for me to try my own medicine. :lol: I bet your bedrest is hard on him. Everybody's expecting him to help, whereas a little stomach bug? I wasn't really expecting anything. I said, "Who's ready for math?" And then offered to let my bigs help w/ the littles instead. LOL I guess what I'm saying is, don't be too hard on yourself or your ds. If expectations do need to be raised, now's probably not the time to do it anyway. :grouphug: I hope you have some good friends nearby to take care of you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emmy Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 You're so encouraging Aubrey :) I am a youngest and my son is an oldest - I do think it differs our perspective. Also, he and I are very very similar. He's kind of a little me. Sometimes I get frustrated because I see so much of myself in him....anyway, you are probably very correct - now is not the time to up the bar. Yep, I have some help so we are managing thankfully. Not getting a lot of school done but we're eating and the laundry is done and the kids are dressed so that's managing. :p Sorry for the hijack! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Desert Rat Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 How rewarding! What an awesome boy you've got! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aubrey Posted November 13, 2009 Author Share Posted November 13, 2009 You're so encouraging Aubrey :) I am a youngest and my son is an oldest - I do think it differs our perspective. Also, he and I are very very similar. He's kind of a little me. Sometimes I get frustrated because I see so much of myself in him....anyway, you are probably very correct - now is not the time to up the bar. Yep, I have some help so we are managing thankfully. Not getting a lot of school done but we're eating and the laundry is done and the kids are dressed so that's managing. :p Sorry for the hijack! Oh, whew. I can't tell you how many times this morning I've almost gone back & deleted my reply to you. If y'all are eating, the kids are dressed, & laundry is done, you're doing better than us! (A lot better, unfortunately--WHY can't 2yos keep their undies ON??? :lol:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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