DesertBlossom
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4 hours ago, Quill said:
Thanks for that. I hate asking stuff like that because, socially speaking, who can really say No, unless it’s literally unworkable? So, then I worry that the person said yes because they were put in a position where they can’t really say no and now they are silently stewing...
I have issues. Lol.
This is normal in my family to ask each other to watch kids. A year and a half ago we divided up my kids among my siblings so we could go on a church related activity. We sent the kids to the houses with their same age cousins. I have also watched nieces and nephews when a sibling needed care, whether for a romantic getaway, or a new baby in the house, etc.
As for your original question.... I wouldn't criticize anyone who chose to leave their responsible 14 year old home alone. Personally, I would feel more comfortable sending them to a relative's house. I also think they would inclined to some anxiety staying home alone at that age.
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On 9/7/2019 at 5:58 AM, Teaching3bears said:
yes, he was male and older but this happened a while ago so I hope he is retired.
it's more the childbirth bleeding he was talking about.I do feel like the more I am up and moving around the heavier the bleeding. As far as I understand, it's like have a giant internal wound where the placenta had been attached. So you need to give yourself time to heal. So in that respect, maybe?
My last few pregnancies I drank a lot of red raspberry leaf tea in the 3rd trimester and I do think it helped reduce the bleeding.
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We used to live in the same neighborhood as a family that ended up having 13. I don't know how well my kids remember them though. I come from a family of 7 and we have 7. Another family we are friends with have 8. We know a lot of families with 5 or 6. In fact, 5 or 6 kids in my circle seems more common than 3 or less.
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I had to look up that word. *blush* We just call those Mormons. 🤭 Really though, active members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints don't drink. Nobody in my family drinks. Most of the people I closely associate with don't drink. I also attended the #1 stone cold sober university. It really is dry.
People that DH works with thought it was odd at first, but they don't give him a hard time about it. Even when their social gatherings include alcohol.
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21 hours ago, KathyBC said:
Those would be typical, maybe on the more modest side here.
I take it volleyball is out then. 😝My dd is in volleyball this year. Thankfully she was fine with the athletic spandex shorts with a 4 in inseam. Because those volleyball underwear shorts are unnecessary, in my 39 yo mom opinion. Ugh.
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I do. I read TCOYF and in the process of charting my cycles realized my hormones were off so I went to a dr and received an official diagnosis. I worried I wouldn't be able to get pregnant, but I have 7 kids. I think having them close together (maybe too close in some cases, lol) helped.
The more I have read, the more convinced I am that a low carb diet is necessary to keep symptoms under control.
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Aah, so the google machine says to put them sideways like in a circle around the inner perimeter. This makes sense now. And I definitely need a bigger IP now so I can try this out. It's been a while since I made ribs, but I bet we need 3 slabs of ribs for the growing boys.
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5 hours ago, cjzimmer1 said:
I have an 8 qt. I can get two full slabs in there (which is all we make at a time) but there is still room. I'm sure I could get 2 1/2 slabs possibly even 3. You either have a smaller instant pot than me or eat a whole lot more ribs than we do!
I do have a smaller IP. The bigger one is on my wish list. But I still can't imagine an entire rack of ribs going in an IP. Or a slow cooker. Are we thinking of the same thing? The ribs I get are like 15 inches long. Do you cut them apart? Stack them? I need a picture of this. 😄
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https://www.southernplate.com/tender-babyback-ribs-in-the-oven/
My family must eat too many ribs in one sitting because there is no way I could make enough ribs in the IP or slow cooker. And since I don't have a smoker and I refuse to learn how to use the grill, I make them in the oven. I can't remember if this is the exact recipe I used, but basically this. It was a lower temp oven cooked for several hours. I think the key is removing the membrane and buying the right kind of ribs.
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Congratulations to everyone! Babies are always such a miracle and so much fun. I really love babies. Even if I never want to be pregnant again! Lol
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12 hours ago, EmseB said:
The problem is that by the time I want the epidural, actually want it, it's usually too late and I'm pushing. At least for the last two babies I went from unbearable to baby out in less than an hour. My first labor was the longest and you're right, I definitely wouldn't go 24hrs without one again! My #4 took less than four hours, though. I'll have to see how/if they are going to do the induction.
I am the same way-- by the time it's bad, baby is almost here. Not that I want an epidural. The thought of a needle scares the heck out of me. I have had 7 unmedicated births and I still think that way.
My last baby (this 2 month old and 15 pounds of chub in my lap atm) was born at home. My water broke a little about 8am but I wasn't having any big contractions. At 1:50 I felt an internal pop like a balloon popping and the rest of my water gushed out. From that moment on I was having crazy intense contractions every 2-3 minutes. Midwife arrived at 2:20. My 10 lbs 2 oz. boy arrived at 3:20. It was so fast and so hard and I thought I was going to die (not really). I am even "advanced maternal age" but I am so glad everything went as planned and he was born at home. Even thought there were moments (about every 2-3 minutes, lol) that I thought an epidural might be nice, ultimately I am glad I went without.
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While I am glad to hear your babies handled the procedure well, not all doctors use anesthetic. One website I read said less than half receive pain management.
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15 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
I did. You and I have very different ideas about what we'd set up a child to suffer through.
Bill
You do realize that circumcision is done on infants without any kind of pain management, right?
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2 minutes ago, Ktgrok said:
Guy with a strong british accent is my suggestion lol 🙂
Probably most doctors born outside the US are a safe bet.
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8 minutes ago, Shellydon said:
Thanks to the 2-3 people that actually answer my question. if anyone else has any real information rather than arguing, I'd love to hear it.
Yeah, sorry for that.
It's hard to say if circumcision might be needed without knowing exactly the ailment. I can't say that there is never a reason a person might need to be circumcised but I think most issues can be resolved in other ways. I would find a doctor who uses circumcision as the absolute last resort after trying all other options. You may have to do some interviews to find out their personal views on circumcision because it will affect their opinion on how necessary it is.
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13 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
LOL. The time and expense of a simple circumcision is very small compared with the costs of hospitalization for a UTI.
If we desire universal healthcare we need to be smart about the choices we make.
The UK has universal healthcare and they decided decades ago that routine infant circumcision was not worth the cost. Consequently very few babies in the UK are circumcised. So either their healthcare system is now being weighed down by all these disease-causing foreskins, or your theories are incorrect. Meanwhile a significant percentage of boys suffer complications from their circumcisions that require medical care. How does that factor into the economical value of circumcision?
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8 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
Studies show men who are circumcised have better sex lives. Sorry, not buying it.
Bill
I understand that it would be very difficult to accept the idea that something done to your body, without your consent, might not have been beneficial and worthwhile. But you seem to be going to great lengths to convince yourself that it was.
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4 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
Now FGM is "abhorrent?"
A minute ago you suggested women should be allowed to be happy about the choice.
Quite a mixed-message and one that is dangerous to the well-being of girls, if you ask me.
Bill
I have to believe you are being intentionally obtuse because if you have read all of my posts you'd know I believe all forms of infant circumcision to be abhorrent. I can, however, acknowledge that there are adult men and women who believe their circumcisions done in infancy were beneficial.
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3 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
You keep conflating removal of a woman's sex organ with the removal of foreskin.
Not remotely the same thing.
You should know better.
Bill
The fact that you don't believe the foreskin is a sexual organ shows your ignorance on the matter
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2 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
A woman who have had their clitoris lobbed off has not been "circumcised."
This in an appalling conflation of two very different things.
Bill
I am not even going to pretend to make a case for any type of FGM because all of it is abhorrent. But there are varying degrees of FGM, some of which do not involve removing the clitoris. Some types of FGM actually are comparable to Male circumcision in terms of what is removed. But here in the US it is illegal to do so much as a ritual nick on baby girls. Which I wholeheartedly agree should be illegal.
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2 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
You win the award for the most factitious argument I've ever read on this forum.
Against some stiff competition.
You insult the horrors that women who have been victims of FGM have gone though by comparing FGM to male circumcision.
Shame on you!
Bill
So women aren't allowed to be happy with their circumcisions and men aren't allowed to be upset by theirs?
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Just now, Ktgrok said:
I don't think that we, in a western country, CAN make hygiene a reason to circumcise, logically I mean. Soap and water, people. Men don't need to cut their foreskins to be clean, and women don't need to douche to be clean.
Oh, I am totally on your side.
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16 minutes ago, Tanaqui said:
Both circumcised and uncircumcised women generally feel their parents made that choice in their best decision, but nobody on this board thinks FGM is the way to go - even though the labia certainly "traps smegma" and people who live where FGM is common typically say that a cut body is a cleaner body.
It was shocking to me to learn that many circumcised women are happy it was done, as they too felt it was cleaner and more attractive. I was even more shocked to learn it is mothers who insist on their baby girls be circumcised so that they too can enjoy the social and hygienic benefits of being circumcised.
If one is going make hygiene one of the main reasons to circumcise, why do we discriminate based on sex and deny women all of these advantages as well?
ETA: Yes, I KNOW that some forms of female circumcision are much more extreme than male circumcision. But not all types are.
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2 minutes ago, Spy Car said:
Do I need to repeat myself?
Better hygiene, the elimination of retraction issues, and UTIs are some of the (plural) advantages. Plus the advantage of doing a simple procedure in infancy that bring lifetime advantages.
Waiting offers zero advantages and compounds every risk factor vs doing surgery later.
Bill
Your arguments only make sense when one assumes that the foreskin has no function at all. But it does. So you still have to weigh the benefits of circumcision against the benefits of having a foreskin. Regardless of your personal opinions on the matter, many men would still choose to retain the benefits of their foreskin over the benefits of surgery. Which is why this decision ought to be made by the person whose life it affects most directly.
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The swimsuit drama...
in The Chat Board
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I can understand an unintentional wedgie, which this sounds like it was. Sometimes you can't help that.
But I will say that I have seen competitive swim suits that were pretty shocking. A few years ago there was a swim coach for my kids' summer city swim team whose suit literally only covered half of each cheek. She was curvy and it may have a specific suit required by the city, but it looked uncomfortable and well.... inappropriate. But it's none of my nevermind....