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  1. IMO, not as abusive than the daughter is being to her dad by cutting him off...

     

    ...with her school loans. If she wants to be a completely independent adult she is free to be one.

    Did you miss the part where the mom off and on wants to leave because of the dad's anger and behavior? You're minimizing huge, flaming red flags of abuse. The daughter is protecting herself.

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  2. Fig preserves

     

    Wrap in prosciutto, maybe with some goat cheese inside

     

    Fig on flat bread, a sharp cheese, drizzle with balsamic

     

    Ice cream

     

    Mmmm, figs... darn low carb diet! ;)

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  3. I agree with Tibbie. I wonder if there's something more to the rift than you know.

     

    I also agree that it's not your relationship to fix. If DH wants to fix it, it's up to him to do something. And threatening you and issuing demands and ultimatums isn't the way to do it. He's hurting YOU by acting that way.

     

    Please seek counseling for yourself. If you were thinking of leaving him because of the anger, is it possible his behavior has crossed the line into abuse? The line about talking to local people about DH's mental health is a fine one to walk--on one hand, he does have a right to privacy. On the other, you need support and that sounds like it could be controlling. A professional will keep your confidence and can be a support to you if neither of them will seek professional care. There's also an organization that supports the family of mentally ill persons. I always mix up the acronym and if I leave this window on my phone, my post will poof.

     

    :grouphug:

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  4. First option would be to call the person's mental health care provider's number and hope there is an after hours emergency line. Second would be to call the nurse line if your insurance has one and get advice. I personally wouldn't go unless I thought it could be a heart attack or another immediately life-threatening condition because of the cost and concern insurance wouldn't cover it. If the nurse line tells you to go, with my insurance anyway, the visit would be covered. (But our deductible is so ridiculous that it would be entirely out of pocket unless it cost more than $6K, so...)

  5. If you want to know the going rates in your area, there's a site called rover.com that will show you (bonded?) people's rates by zip code . Nextdoor.com (register by elementary school) is big in my area. You can look up pet sitters there and see. It's useful for other things too around here anyway. We found a great mechanic based on recommendations from it. :)

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  6. Amazon has the bell strap for your door if you can't find them locally.

     

    Is she having accidents or just pacing? The pacing may be anxiety from being in a new place.

     

    How did the rescue confuse a 6 year old dog with a puppy?

     

    I agree with tethering her to you. We got our Golden rescue at 9 mos. She maybe had one accident and it was nerves more than anything. Our old lab-beagle mix was around 9-12 mos and very quick to train as well, and, bless her heart, was dumb as a bag of socks.

  7. I would give her something and gushing compliments and declarations of love and tell her you'd love to hire her for that on a regular basis but have already stretched the budget to the limit. (So she knows not to expect it in future.)

     

    She sounds amazing!!!

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