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    Congress Dress Code Discussion

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    LOL. They're practically *all sleeveless* - except that Denim one. Because Denim is the epitome of professional wear. Maybe this should be the new suit for men?

     

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    But, Ivanka should get on the stick and revise her line with sleeves. Because there is obviously a market, and money to be made!

    There's an Anne Klein denim suit for women that's actually pretty sharp looking. ;)

    http://m.shop.nordstrom.com/s/anne-klein-twill-one-button-jacket/4418430?cm_mmc=google-_-productads-_-34014200299__Mobile-_-95671545&rkg_id=h-37f6dfc2ece9fcbdc3e1edf333e27772_t-1500217767&adpos=1o5&creative=145518921028&device=m&network=g&gclid=CLun_NeKjtUCFcq2wAodCowLhA

     

    I wouldn't wear it to court for a hearing, but it would be great for dressier than random office days. (In my hypothetical job right now, lol.)

    Help make this unpleasent

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    The adult kids don't want to come because they want to be with you guys and have fun family memories. They want to come to make your life miserable or because they're "entitled" to it. You're not dealing with mentally stable people. If your DH will be able to enjoy the trip with just you and DS, then take the trip with just you and DS. There's no way you can frame it to make crazy people happy. There's just no way. If he can't set the boundaries necessary to protect you and DS, then you and DS should go alone. And honestly, it sounds like maybe some personal therapy to figure out where you should make boundaries of your own would be helpful. It's possible that you and DS on your own might be your only solution to many problems.

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    What would you do?

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    I would say something - probably along the lines of "I'm not coming from a place of judgement at all, I think communication between moms is important...my husband observed your teenager spanking your younger child 10+ times on X day. He thought it looked excessive. Again, I'm not judging at all - maybe you spank maybe you don't, just thought you should be aware of this".

    I'd leave out the judgment part because that would be a bald faced lie, but something along those lines. And I wouldn't care if it ended our "friendship" should it turn out that she's okay with her older kids beating the youngers.

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    Leaving a job off my resume

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    Well, I sent an email asking about open positions and did mention I had previous experience. What I'm hoping for is for her to call me asking for an interview and when I get there she'll give me an application to fill out. Then I'll be honest and tell her up front that I did work for a short term in daycare and the circumstances surrounding my leaving. I will not mention the bipolar at all as my DH said it's really against the law to divulge medical information without my consent.

    I wouldn't mention your diagnosis either, but there's no obligation for privacy between a former employer and employee. Or really current employer-employee in my state... Your former employer didn't find out about the condition because of their managing the health insurance, which would be in the HIPAA realm. Employee personnel file privacy is a very different animal. This looks like a pretty decent summary: https://www.workplacefairness.org/medical-privacy-workplace#1

     

    Former employers are guided by state law. In GA, they can say pretty much anything that is true and isn't a violation of your civil rights (age, religion, sex, national origin, etc.). Check your state's DOL website to see what is allowed where you live.

    Musings about vegetables

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    Well, I roasted them sprinkled with salt and pepper and ate them with buckwheat for breakfast. They were tasty enough, but I think it is less trouble to do them in the frying pan.

     

    Why wold I want to coat them with cornmeal? I could try coating them with cornmeal whenever I next get my hands on some okra. I only found some by accident in a Muslim grocer 40mins away. A very happy accident, since okra is one of my favourite veggies.

    The cornmeal gets all crispy crunchy caramelized. This is one of the closest pictures I could find of what it looked like when my grandmother made it, though hers was even less coated. http://www.macaroniandcheesecake.com/2011/08/pan-fried-okra.html

     

    I'm pretty sure she just added a splash of buttermilk to a bowl of okra, then stirred in cornmeal or self rising cornmeal mix (probably not available in your area!).

     

    Okra and tomatoes is another family favorite. She would sauté an onion, then add the okra and some canned (home canned with her) tomatoes and a few crushed Saltine crackers. I've had it at restaurants with sugar in the sauce and that made me so sad.

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    Prime Day Deals

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    I got kindle unlimited. It was an impulse buy and I didn't realize it is llimited books and audible options. I thought everything was available 😩

    They'll very likely refund you if you cancel today.

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    Musings about vegetables

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    So I'm intrigued. Just roasting it with salt and olive oil under high heat like other veggies. Whole, slice in rounds or sliced lengthwise? Help me out I want to try this. My DH loves okra (and the kids have all liked it too) but the only what we've ever had it was deep fried (and and I made gumbo once that everyone loved but I lost the recipe, really ought to try that again too)

    I've only tried it whole or sliced in rounds. You could slice it lengthwise if you prefer. That would be pretty and easy to pick up and dip if you were eating them like "fries."

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    Prime Day Deals

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    I don't understand. Instead of 100% claimed like when I first looked at it, it now says 51% claimed, but it won't let me buy it, it just says I'm on the waitlist. I haven't gotten a notice that there's one available. Sigh.

    I hope you get it! Wawak.com has great prices on Maxi Lock serger thread. I like Maxi Lock Stretch in the loopers for sewing knits. Fingers crossed for you.

    Musings about vegetables

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    Okay. I've never roasted okra before. Today is the day!

    Love love love roasted okra. It reminds me of the okra my grandmother would lightly cornmeal coat and "fry" in her cast iron skillet. This is not to be confused with the weird deep fried balls of batter covered okra pieces. Anyway, it works with frozen okra pods or sliced okra too. I think it actually works a little better to roast frozen. Mmmm, okra...

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    Respecting your older teen's privacy but still parenting them

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    I do have a problem with this. Even if the parent does not repeat what she read, it should be made clear from the beginning that mother is reading over son's shoulder. He should be able to tell his friend "just so you know, my mom reads my texts". I do not have the right to know other teens' private affairs, even if they communicate with my child.

    (Just like I would want to be sure my personal communcations with my friends are private and their husbands aren't inspecting their social media accounts  - even if i don't have naything to "hide".)

     

    Yeah, my daughter told a friend private information. Friend didn't know her mother read all of her texts (she mirrored them to her device). It wasn't anything dangerous or inappropriate, just private. I would have been horrified if my friends' mothers were listening in on our stupid teen angst-filled phone calls, and this feels like the same thing. This backfired on the mom because she mentioned something to her daughter about it and daughter figured it out. She now communicates via another method and has stopped telling her mom anything because she felt so betrayed. She used to be very close to her mom, and this has really driven a wedge between them.

     

    If you're going to do it, tell them you're going to do it. 

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