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  1. I think Pa Ingalls had the right idea, "Children who can't be trusted must be watched." He made Laura sit in the house beside Ma for the whole day. If they can't be trusted to go play, then they will have to find things to do in the room where you are.

     

    Aside from that, I work really hard to make my house very kid friendly. There are few things my kids could get into because I just make that an impossibility. I think most of child behavior, just like adult behavior, is born of habit. Retraining habits are hard, and laying down good ones in the first place is better. By setting up the environment to make it easy for them to obey, you are gently retraining their negative habits. I wouldn't be punitive about it, just matter of fact.

    This. Tomato stake them. You need to watch them all the time so you can make immediate corrections. Parenting is hard work.

     

    You might want to check out Joanne's Get Off Your Butt Parenting website. http://www.joanneketch.com/GetOffYourButtParenting.en.html

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  2. I used an online bra calculator and a fabric measuring tape. What an amazing difference the right size makes in look and comfort. My sister buys for me on clearance and special sales at Dillards because we don't have any here (stores or 34G). I stopped in there when I was visiting to get dd the 28B she needs - only store to carry it.

  3. I’m always the one who calls my sisters and even my mom. I live 1000 miles away from all of them. If I didn’t, I would have no relationship with any of them. As it is, when we lived 700 miles closer and drove to visit, no one seemed to have time to actually spend time with us. We see driving 1000 miles to see family for less than an hour during the week we’re visiting pointless.

     

     

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    Do you expect them to drop what they're doing to sit around and chat for a week, or do you jump right into their busy schedules and join in their lives? My mom does the former, so we don't see her much because we're busy and she's not willing to do the latter. We don't care to sit around to make small talk.

     

    Maybe see if you can schedule a group vacation/house rental in an in-between location so you are both outside your normal lives. But I still wouldn't be one to sit around, so then it would be a clash of personality styles.

  4. I love my sister, and I love to talk to her when she calls. But I rarely call her because we are time zones off and I never know her schedule. She works full time, switches jobs frequently enough that I can't remember if she's working days or nights all the time. She is getting an advanced degree so she is sometimes in classes, studies a lot, and sometimes she's at the gym. Etc etc. I usually can't text because no service at home here. She usually calls me at least once per week, and then I'll chat as long as she's able.

     

    I hope she doesn't feel bitter about it.

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  5. This is my go-to muffin recipe, and I just change it up to suit our whims. I can add frozen blueberries, chocolate chips, chopped apples and cinnamon, etc. (not all at once!)  I've made it with no salt, and it comes out fine.  If you omit the salt and use unsalted butter, the sodium content is about 110mg per muffin.  I do use fresh ground flour, so that changes the texture a bit.  You could add the wheat germ and bran with all purpose flour like in Ali's recipe to get a similar texture - not sure how they'd turn out without it.

     

     

    Oatmeal Muffins

     

    1 C uncooked regular oats

    1 C yogurt

    ½ C brown sugar

    1 stick melted butter

    1 egg

    1 C flour

    1 tsp baking powder

    ½ tsp baking soda

    ½ tsp salt

     

     

    1. Mix oats and yogurt in a large bowl and microwave for 1 minute.

    2. Add sugar, butter, and eggs, and mix well.

    3. Combine flour, baking soda, baking powder, and salt, and add to oat mixture.

    4. Fold in additions.

    5. Spoon into 12 lined muffin pans, filling 2/3 full.

    6. Bake at 400o for 20 minutes, or until browned.

     

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  6. I was not in 4-H or any other youth development organization as a child.  My mother was "too busy", and I missed out. 

     

    I am the leader of two 4-H clubs - a community project club, and a county 4-H teen club.

     

    Our county has project events, but the project work is done in club meetings or individually.  We've done a lot of cool projects over the past 15 years.  The kids have access to amazing opportunities which increase with age, culminating in substantial scholarships if they stick with it.  The communication skills they learn in 4-H have put my college kids at a competitive advantage over their peers.  If done right, it teaches youth how to set goals and achieve them, which is the most basic necessity for a successful life.

     

    That said - there is some level of bureaucracy and frustration in any large organization, which is only as good as its people.  I don't think you can expect to get something amazing out of any opportunity if you are not willing to put anything in.

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  7. Not just Japan but many Asian cities have kids roaming the streets or home alone at a young age because of the needed dual income. I grew up in a latchkey generation and there are still plenty of latchkey kids because after school care isn't cheap. If my brother's wife need to rejoin the workforce due to financial hardship, their daughter would join the ranks of latchkey children.

     

    I was a latchkey kid due to divorce/single working parent, and I made some pretty bad choices for my-unsupervised-self as a tween/young teen which have had regrettable lifelong consequences.

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  8. I have not read the article, but with regard to the question in general I see it as a two part problem:

     

    1.  Safety of young children

    2.  Lack of parenting & the resulting problems for other citizens who have to live with the consequences.

     

    So, I think it is a fine line/careful balance,

     

    just like the parental right to educate children way they see fit, and the state's compelling interest in having an educated citizenry.

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  9. I can tell you that my DD21, a senior at a state university, has NEVER told me that anyone has ever introduced themselves on the first day of class with their name and sexuality preference. And I assure you, she would have told me. I can also say that neither DH nor my sister, who graduated in 2012 and 2013, have ever mentioned this either. I will take their word that it isn't common on the very large and well known campuses they have been at.

    This IS a common way to introduce yourself in class study groups according to my 22yo university student (year five out of a five year engineering program) at a large school in the center of a big city. I guess they're all different.

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