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Dark blue stretchy boot cut jeans, pink and white striped racerback tank top, grey sports bra, barefoot, no make up.
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I always ask for liquid if possible and hide it in really stinky canned food. My mom has a cat on prozac, she has it compounded and rubs it on his ear.
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We either roast or saute with garlic, thinly sliced red onion and liberal salt aand pepper, and we do it at a pretty high temp to brown and crisp the outside but not overcook the middle. Use bacon or pancetta if we have it, then toss in a small handful of craisins. You get the whole range of flavors and textures and it so yummy!!!
I had only ever had them steamed before, and thought I hated them.
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Am I understanding correctly that anyone can shop the exchanges, but unless employer offered healthcare is above 9.5% of income or doesn't pay 60% of certain costs you might not get the subsidy. But you still might get a tax break and better rates and coverage?
We have insurance for DS through the state, his dad doesn't provide it, I'm a sahm currently, and DH isn't able to insure just him. But DH and I have had to go without.
The plan DH company offered was over 500 a month in premiums for two healthy adults under 40. With an 10000 dollar deductible before they would pay a penny. No co-pays before that, no preventative care. And then they only covered at 70%, it also had a million dollar payout limit.
So we are talking about 20000 a year out of pocket expenses before they would cover anything.
We are at 185% of Federal poverty level, so not poor, but things are always tight. Always.
We are waiting for the new company info to come out,but I suspect we still won't be able to afford it.
I really hope there is a better option, we need insurance that is usable, but 9% of income spent on what amounts to little to no coverage is just not feasible.
The other thing that really bothers me is that we pay more for medicine and appointments than the insurance company. They have negotiated much lower rates so the cash paying patient is left paying more than the giant profit making corporation.
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Pandia press level 2 Biology is working really well here, easy to follow, self contained and as open and go as science can possibly be. DS is really enjoying it.
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My mom and grandmother went shopping with me, at my request because I wanted their opinion. But I ended up with a white tea length dress from Dillards, it was perfect, and on clearance, so I got for about 50 dollars.
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My mom and grandmother went shopping with me, at my request because I wanted their opinion. But I ended up with a white tea length dress from Dillards, it was perfect, and on clearance, so I got for about 50 dollars.
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I buy all of our canned goods like beans and tomatoes there, snacks like.chips.and crackers, and produce. I dont usually get meat, but it isnt that much of a bargain there. We also like their sandwich thin rounds, and their juice has much better ingredients than most for a much better price.
Fresh meat and most of our veggies come from Sprouts. It is closer and they have good sales.
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You should realize that this sort of comment only encourages fear of black people.
Fortunately I've dealt with enough black people - and white people from difficult backgrounds - to know that they can in fact make better choices.
In that comment I was speaking of poverty and why it is a large factor in crime rates. Absolutely people make better choices all the time, and crime is worse in all poverty stricken areas, regardless of race.
We can play word games all day, but this isn't worth my time or anyone elses.
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The poster who asked for the information was not asking the reason for the high crime rates.
She was trying to find out whether actual experience could be behind the fact that some white people associate fearful feelings with seeing black people.
I have at least two friends who are people of color - immigrants - whose feelings about black people changed significantly after they were held up at gunpoint. And as I mentioned earlier, my mom's friend, a white lady, who was raped by a black man. Just a few examples in my circle of very close people (because most people would never tell you such a thing). Experience could be a factor, yeah.
Sigh. Without exploring causation, what good does knowing the numbers do? Statistics can be skewed very easily and only reflect one portion of the data.
I was raped by a white man, so have countless other women, shall we consider the number of on campus rates happening by largely white middle class males, reported or not? And yes, I am wary of men when I am alone and in a possibly vulnerable situation, would be nervous if I was being followed by one, but I don't attribute the actions of one very bad white man to all other white men.
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I always encourage the kids to be at our house, I nearly always say yes to friends coming over, staying for dinner and spending the night. Im not trying to be cool, or one of his friends, but I do try to get to know them, and make this a friendly safe welcoming place for them to hang out.
He sees friends in the afternoon or early evening about 3 days a week, one might stay for dinner occasionally, and many weekends we have an extra kid here overnight, we treat them like family and it works for everyone.
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I live on a very rural street. The lot next door belongs to my mil but no one lives there - it is basically a one acre forest. Along the street there are drainage ditches. Across the street there is an abandoned house. I do not clean up after my dog and there is no one who cares. If I lived in a real neighborhood I would clean up.
I ask because dh acts as if it is a total imposition if the dog wants to go out more than twice per day, whereas I take him out first thing in the morning, around lunch, perhaps mid-afternoon, after dinner, and before I go to bed. That's fine when I'm physically up to doing it. However, when I'm not, and the dog comes and looks mournfully at me and won't leave me alone until he goes out, and then I go ask dh to take him out, and dh says, "I took him out this morning!" And that was five hours ago...you see where the problem is. So I wondered if maybe I was out of line and too softhearted.
Yes, the poor thing needs to be let out every 4 hours or so. If you aren't up to taking him out on leash I would take him to a fenced area or something. If he is asking to potty, he needs to be let out. He also needs to have some fresh air and exercise each day.
There are options like invisible fencing, or an E collar used appropriately and gently to keep him safe if you need him out on your property and aren't up to leashing him. Does he take off if he is off leash with you watching?
We have one who can't be out of the fenced yard off leash at this point, she is prone to blowing me off and then I have to wait for her to decide it was her idea to stop wandering around and playing catch me if you can. The other one though, without any special training is perfectly fine to be off leash in a safe rural area and routinely hangs out with us in the non fenced portion while we do yard work, or just hang out.
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I'm guessing this somehow comes back around to blaming white people
Really, are you serious?
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I think the point many have made is that it skews the discussion to speak of basic decency to one another as an "advantage." I think we could get a lot farther in our goals if we recognized that a standard for basic human decency is not being met instead of saying that a certain group is exceeding a standard. It implies that treating everyone like crap is the standard and we extend the "advantage" of courtesy only to people within our group. Really, we should be teaching our kids that all people deserve a basic level of respect and decency and that we should speak out if we see people being denied that level.
I know it seems like a minor quibble, but I think it makes a big difference when you teach behavior based on a minimum level of decency as opposed to speaking as if that minimum level is something above.
Nobody is saying anyone is exceeding a standard.
I seriously don't know how to explain further what the term means to you all. In this context privilege is a sociological fact, that applies in various forms to all societies, and relates to the dominant color, race, tribe, or sex, or religion, or those more educated etc etc. It isn't something that you have done wrong, or need to feel guilty about, but if you are aware of it, you can use that power for good.
We are all Educationally privileged, and aspire to providing that to our children. That doesn't mean we need to feel bad about it, just that we need to be aware that not everyone has the same benefit and we need not only be aware of it, but hopefully do something to help change that. (Even if just means providing our own next generation of children with a quality education)
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The question isn't crime rate, it about the reason for high crime rates.
And yes there are old white men who tell store clerks to check the ID book for black check writers, or pull over young black males more often, to target them for stop and frisk procedures more often.
They might not say black, but they make it crystal clear.
Also, so many poor kids grow up in what is essentially a war zone, and likely have PTSD as a result, but because they are poor they never get the help and services a child needs to overcome that. I mean we all talk about working hard and rising above violence and poverty, but if you don't have hope, nor anyway to figure out what it might feel like, there isn't much point in all that is there?
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Unless you live on a rural dirt road--then no one would even notice.
Ours go out into the weedy/brushy back area of our yard (We have 5 acres and don't mow it all.). I don't think I could find it to clean it up. The edges of the roads around here in many places are similar.
I notice every time there is dog crap in our yard that isn't where our dogs go, or when we step in it on a sidewalk or at the park, or have to drag my dogs away from it on the side of our neighborhood road when we go for walks.
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Our dog will not poop in the backyard, she will only poop if you take her on a walk.
Ours each have a designated potty spot in the yard, it is a natural thing for them to want to keep their space clean, and they picked the spots themselves which we reinforced with a clicker and treats and boy does it make clean up time easier!
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My adult dogs go out around many mornings around 6 am because they wake me up to be let out, then again at 8 when I actually get up for the day for another potty, or just to lounge around in the nice cool morning air. Then again in the afternoon and evening. At least 4-5 times a day, or when they ask to be let out. Also about half an hour after eating.
I'm not sure I understand why you are walking for potty time if you have a yard. It is just as easy for me to use my claw pooper scooper to clean up their mess in my yard, than to walk them each time and have to carry a plastic bag full of poop home. :ack2:
I hope you aren't letting them poo elsewhere and leaving it!
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So, wait I think you might be saying that if someone is acting in a racist or misogynist way, we shouldn't call it that, but rather we should call it something else so as not to stir the pot.
You have got to be kidding me.
No one here is talking about being an angry man hating feminist, or some sort of crusading crazy white lady out to save all the poor colored folk, rather if that is what it is, name it, claim it, and speak out about it.
Also, the issue isn't getting other people to see it, you aren't going to go around telling all the men about their privilege, the point is to own it within ourselves.
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Privilege is not racism, it is a fact of modern culture, we all have some and not others. If we don't buck up and call a spade a spade, we won't ever be able to get to the bottom of the reasons racism exists in the first place. Do you also agree that we shouldn't talk about male privilege, because it is squicky and makes the man feel bad??
The reason the white woman was able to step in and defend her SIL, is because she plays by a different set of rules, she did not become the angry black woman, she used her privilege in a positive way.
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Actually, I think it is probably a fact of humanity, we are tribal in nature, and patriarchy and rule of the rich has been the name of the game all along. Only by acknowledging it and owning it, can we change it.
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http://www.feminish.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/08/privilege101.pdf
It is really important to understand that privilege is not racism, we are all playing the game, but by different rules. That doesn't work well in any situation.
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I am white, therefore in this country I have privilege.
I am middle class, therefore I have privilege.
I am educated, therefore I have privilege.
I am not a male, so that is not a privilege I have.
I am not a white male, another one I don't.
I am not upper class, nope...not that one either.
A black woman would have certain privileges that black males would not, as in while she might not be treated the same as a white woman, she is less likely to be outright feared, or avoided on the street.
Once I took my car in for repairs, they told me it would be two hours, after 2.5 hours of me waiting in the lobby and seeing several men in suits come and go with their cars even though I got their the minute they opened. I called my mom to come get me. 2 hours after that I called and was told it was going to be several more hours. I had to leave town that afternoon to be at our house closing and having that repair done was imperative. My husband called not 5 minutes later and was completely polite but asked what the hold up was, and tried to pin them down. The car was ready 15 minutes later.
He has NEVER been asked where his wife was at the hardware store when buying plumbing or electrical parts.
He has never been accused of not loving parenthood because we only have child.
No one has ever asked him about his testicles, penis, or testosterone when he was angry.
So we, two educated middle class white people, are not on the same field. By accepting he has privilege I do not, I am not saying I dislike him, I simply know that he plays by a slightly different set of rules than I do, and by him realizing this and internalizing it, he can understand why I have stronger reactions to certain situations that he might see as no big deal at all.
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Thanks! It is red and swollen, but also on the tender skin on the inside of his arm.
Ill keep a close eye on him.
Semi-crunchy mamas & crunchy mamas - detoxing?
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Switching to fresh veggies and fruit whenever possible would probably also help. I keep a bowl of fruit on the counter and cut up veggies and hummus in the fridge, it makes it easy to grab those for a snack instead of chips or crackers.