Also, great advice! I know they need more activity and have not been getting it. I tend to ask him to do stuff and I realize in his mind I am giving him an option when in reality, its not an option. I do argue with him too. Sigh. Lots to work on!! Thanks. :001_smile:

Yes, yes, yes... Great advice! I will look that book up too! Thanks.

I am totally at my wits end with my kids today. (Ages 7-12, the youngest isn't a problem yet, ;)) I am so sick of the disrespect and fighting. I don't even feel like typing right now. But I have to since I want your input. My boys fight non stop. No exaggeration, non-stop over eve.ry.thing. Everything. Everything and anything you can imagine. My 12 year old is so incredibly negative and disrespectful. I am not kidding, when I say the sky is such a pretty blue today, he responds looks green to me. :001_huh: (that is just a simple example and not even worth mentioning normally BUT...) He argues with me when I ask him to do his chores, school, help around the house etc He makes fun of his brothers and says he is just joking. He will walk into the room when his brothers are making a craft and tell them it is wrong or looks silly. When I call him on it he tells me he is just trying to let them know so they do better. I could go on and on and I know I am not explaining myself very well. He pouts, he cries, he stomps. I am so frustrated and don't know what to even do with them anymore. We are christian so if you have input in that regard I would love to hear that too. (FTR, I want input from anyone that can help!) I need some good consequences while I try to work on the underlying character issues. Ok, ladies, Bring it.

I thought you had a miscarriage?? This is such good news!!!! I have been thinking of you often. :grouphug:

I would think the preschool would be happy to know ahead of time who was coming etc. Not penalize the people that show up and are organized. Is there more to this possibly?

That doesn't even make sense to me?? :confused: So because you are organized and are a planner you're getting penalized??

Thank you!

That we can agree on.

I TOTALLY forgot about KEENS! My boys each have keen sandals that they wear all summer long. Literally everyday. I wash them in washer and air dry them overnight. They still look new. They are really sturdy. They are the only shoes/sandals that we are able to pass on to the next in line. I mean, baby/toddler shoes I pass on but after those ages, no shoes ever make it. The KEENS do.

I saved all of these in my favorites. Thanks so much! How would you search for the pregnancy ones?

I have 4 boys and if anyone ever finds some I must know about it! My brother sounds a lot like your son and most of his sneakers growing up ended up duct taped until my parents could buy him a new pair. :lol:

Oh, and FTR, indestructible and boys? Not gonna happen. :D

I am not a name brand sort of person but we found out the hard way that with things like sneakers, it is worth it to pay a little more.

I believe it does.

I disagree.

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I think both sides feel this way.

FTR, I don't think ANY of us think this is any of this is an easy situation. I think it would be DEVASTATING to lose who your spouse was and make the hard choice of staying and taking care of them. BUT IMO it is right.

:iagree: Eliana, thank you for sharing.

Who EVER said that?

You are correct in that an 11 year old would not be capable of being a partner in a marriage, and I never said that. ;) To me, it is another loss for this man. Because at 11 you know what marriage is.

First of all even if he is 'fine' with it IMO it was wrong. So he has the mind of an 11 yeard old? My 11 year old knows what marriage means. He is NOT living with them from my understanding either. Just because he may not know any different doesn't justify it.

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No you both love each other and can't imagine running out when they would need you the most. Need you to love, protect and honor them. That would be putting them first, not yourself. That is not a martyt, that is a person that is honorable.

I know that was hard. What I find disturbing is, all of the posters here that have discussed this with their spouses and are in agreement that they would leave them if they became mentally incapacitated...are you kinda waiting for the other shoe to drop?? I mean if you get diagnosed with Alzheimers you aren't 'gone' right away. My aunt was diagnosed 4 years ago and she has her moments but is still with it. I can't imagine living with that AND waiting to then have to deal with my beloved spouse possibly leaving me in my greatest time of need and fear. (yeah, major run on sentences there. :tongue_smilie:)