Ok, so I’ve calmed down a little. But is this a thing, do dementia patients die from diarrhea? Is diarrhea life threatening? I mean I thought it could be, but maybe it’s not as bad as sil acts like it is? Trying to see another perspective where people would choose not to treat the diarrhea so that I can understand. I mean, is there a good reason to not treat or get the colonoscopy? I don’t know anything about medical anything and as I’ve calmed down and dh is not yelling through the phone, I really do want to see if there is another rational perspective

You all probably saw this coming but I just CANNOT with these people. Mil had two different doctors appointments in the city today, but they are not going because Mil has diarrhea so bad they don’t think she can make the trip. Fil sprained his wrist trying to get her to the bathroom this morning and now someone who is jot me needs to go over and clean the trail through the SHAG carpet. Oh, and we are not taking her to the hospital because they just will want to do a colonoscopy on her and sil doesn’t want to do that. Dh is beside himself, I haven’t heard him this mad in a long time, and there is nothing he can do about it. Please pray for my poor mil today and for my idiotic in-laws to come to their freaking senses

I don’t even know how to start to think about this

Progress, yay!!!!

Hugs for you and your family❤️

Ok funny update. Apparently this week, instead of running away I have had three separate dreams where Elliot from the show Leverage is supposed to be helping me solve or find something. The first one he and I were part of a larger group but we were partnered up by ourselves and he was supposed to be helping me find someplace but he got mad and left me walking along the side of a highway interchange in a city. I guess I woke dh up yelling for help because I was lost. The second dream I didn’t remember much but we were walking through a neighborhood looking for something but couldn’t find it, that’s all that I remember. Last night I dreamed we were in some kind of cavernous building trying to solve something and I got really frustrated and dh said I started complaining about Elliot being a bad partner. 😆

Still no hha. Sil took dh to work so I went up to see what was in fridge. Fil was making scrambled egg whites for mil like I left in the note. 🥰dh was very pleasantly surprised to hear that. I made some boiled chicken with pasta and spinach that i told him she could have if she continued to go to the bathroom ok. He said she likes the soup and jello so she’s been eating on that. Should be good through the weekend. Also did a quick inventory so I know what to get for next weeks menu plan. It looks like my sil printed out a banana and applesauce muffin recipe that fil said he was going to try to make today! Mil has a terrible sweet tooth, so if he actually does and they turn out she will be very happy 😊 Not what I was expecting at all, yay!

She did finally get back to me and said that only mil was eating the soup so she had some for tomorrow. She’s going to let me know if hha turns up tomorrow and if so, I’ll take the three recipes I printed off up and talk to her about mil’s diet for now. I picked three easy one pot meals that should make plenty for leftovers. I hope this works 🤞

She and her husband run their own business. I can’t be too mean to her though, she is picking dh up in the morning and dropping him off at work on her way into the office. She has done that 3 or 4 times in the last couple of months, and it saves me an hour and a half in the mornings. Mostly she works from home.

We’ve been using Lantern English for years. I am so very happy with them. They have 8 week programs you can choose from a menu or whole year programs. It’s too late for the whole year, but if there are openings, they can sign up for different 8 week programs. Very strong program and am super happy with it.

So I guess hha didn’t show up again today, I guess sil updated dh this morning that there wasn’t any blood today, so yay for insisting that at least for one day she have just liquids! I have no idea what they fed her today, but I would expect that they gave her the chicken and veggie soup since it was already made, in the fridge in a pot with a lid so all someone had to do was put it on the stove and turn it on. Sil said yesterday that she still wanted me to make a menu plan for next week but since hasn’t answered my texts 🙄 so not sure if she needs me to take food up tomorrow. I have to work so if she doesn’t let me know tonight I’m not doing it in the morning.

Can almond milk be substituted for cows milk? Would that make a difference? Her favorite meals all include dairy. Pot pie, creamy rice casseroles, gravy.

The hospital didn’t seem to think that’s the case. They were leaning towards what she had been eating or a reoccurrence of diverticulitis

Starting this weekend I am menu planning and shopping for meals for mil who has a bad gallbladder infection. I am stopping one step shy of doing all the cooking. Fil and mil have a girl who is supposed to work 5 days a week, usually manages to show up three or four days a week who does their cooking when she’s there, except she doesn’t know how to cook. She usually feeds them frozen dinners and hamburger helper type meals. But now mil has a strict new dietary need of ultra low/ no fat. I made foods for her this week but next week hha will be doing their cooking. So I need links, meal ideas, recipes for low to no fat ideas and I am really short on time. These have to be SUPER easy or hha might not be successful. I cannot be there to supervise cooking, she will be on her own with whatever papers I leave for her. She definitely needs step but step instructions clearly spelled out. Thanks for any help! PS how do we feel about the Tyson pregrilled chicken in this case? Thinking I don’t want to overwhelm her with too many from scratch steps at first.

I know right?!? Dh said sil told bil if he got fil to try that, from now on he’s going over to clean up after mil is sick. She does it all the time and he has never helped in that way. His response was, well I don’t work from home like you do. I don’t think bil has the energy to try to make it happen, he’s more likely to gripe about it.

Same family member. She is on an oral antibiotic and florastor I was thinking caffeine would exacerbate diarrhea and water would help rehydrate She is. Shes home now, said her blood work was fine and suggested a colonoscopy. Sil is against but is going talk to bil and dh. Dh said today that apparently bil watched a YouTube video and is convinced that the hospital is wrong and that mil should be on a high fat diet. He put himself on like a paleo diet and has lost some weight and is now convinced all humans should eat like this. Mil does not need to lose another ounce of weight and if fat is what is giving her bloody stools… then I think she should avoid that but dh says he’s convinced the low fat diet is not in her best interest. I didn’t know all of that til today. Dh’s response was of he can find a doctor to take her too, pay the bill, and a DOCTOR says yup, this is the way to go, then he’ll support it, until then he is not getting medical advice from YouTube. These people are nuts. Sil and I exchanged heated words when they got back from the hospital. I had intended to be gone but wasn’t through cleaning yet. In the end, she saw what I was saying made sense and said she still wants me to go ahead and meal plan and make how tos for the hha because in the end what I want to try won’t hurt anything. 🙄😆 and if the hha has been doing most of the cooking and she follows the menu plan with everything already there for her, I think it will be a good thing.

Mil has no agency, she is like a potted plant. She sits where you tell her to til you tell her to move, goes to the bathroom when you take her and smiles sometimes. Her only opinions come out when she sees her meal on a plate, but she can’t actually get food for herself.

So here is what I did. I made a clear veggie broth, a chicken and veggie soup, two kinds of jello and cooked apples with no added sugar. Put all that in the fridge (blocking view of the full fat yogurt she loves) with applesauce cups. I made a three day meal plan for mil only using what I made, fil can have whatever he wants. I wrote no coffee or pepsi or dairy for now on it and stuck to fridge. I found the paperwork the hospital did send home under a stack of stuff and stick it to fridge too. Then texted sil and told her what I did and if they want more help menu planning next week I can absolutely do that. 🤷🏼‍♀️ Sil said her blood work was fine so they are sending her home. No new instructions except try to follow diet. 🤦‍♀️

@knitgrl @prairiewindmomma coffee, tea and Pepsi after coming home?

I would hope so, they only have the sugar kind here, is it worth making?

And how do we feel about Jellos?

So with the gallbladder, it’s about fat, not hard to digest? Do spices fit in somewhere? You guys are giving me a crash course So putting onion i soup is fine, but no cream?

If they were smart they would have put her on a liquid diet Saturday since she’s been on one for a week in the hospital 🙄common sense does not run deep here…

I hear this, and it is why dh and I have stayed out of it so much. But now she’s asked for my help and I love my mil. I think I’m going to make soup, the menu plan and leave it at that. Any links to any easy to make things that this hha who only makes hamburger helper would be greatly appreciated!

Ok, I don’t have time to go into town to go to the store. I threw away the worst offenders. I told sil I would make soup and then come back over with a menu plan for the home health aid who doesn’t know how to cook and literally makes hamburger helper every day for their lunch. For soup, there’s no rice here, but there is shell pasta. If I make a soup, it would have to use chicken bouillon. I have boneless skinless chicken breasts, onions, carrots, celery, green pepper, apples. If they insist on real food would soup and cooked apples be good?