EXACTLY what she said. That's funny, we had 3 of my 4 before DH joined, my 4th was born while he was deployed.
As far as how it works with a family, I think the personality of the wife has SO much to do with it. You can either choose to handle it, or not. DH is National Guard and it's so hard because, for a lot of the women, they signed up for weekend drill, they didn't plan on 'real deployment'. Now the NG is being deployed every other year in many cases and these guys (and families) aren't in the 'Army' mindset. They are leaving behind careers and situations that were never intended to be left for more than a year at a time. That is terribly difficult for everyone involved. But, I wouldn't trade it for the world. DH is thriving in his role, he is loves what he is doing, and it makes for a happier life for all of us, even if he has to be gone.
We also both feel God has led us to this position. Things have always worked for the best even if it wasn't what we would choose on our own. I have seen blessings that I never would have known if we hadn't decided to follow God's direction and I can't imagine my life any other way now.