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  1. If a non white girl wanted to dress up as Cinderella, I would not call it racist. We are not assigned our princesses by race. The mere fact that a child would want to dress up as someone not their own race shows that the child is not concerned with race, which is a good thing. If people want to break the race barriers, they need to stop telling kids they can only play pretend of their own race. My daughter has dolls of all races. And she loves Tiana and has a tiana costume. And this is OK.

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  2. I'd move before I'd use Scotts. My dh bought that stuff. It was horrible. I just donated it (six years later) to a building that needed it. We use Charmin. This is our second house with a septic tank. No problems yet. Please, no problems ever. 

    :iagree:  :iagree:  :iagree:

     

    My mom brags about not having had the septic cleaned in XX years all because she uses Scott.... I'd pony up the $$ just to NOT use Scott brand.  Sharmin Strong is all we use.  I'll cut corners on soaps, paper towels, cleaning products (I can make a bottle of concentrated all purpose last a year if needed) but I will not use cheap TP.

  3. I also do not have any references.  When it has come up I lie.  I list my sister with a different last name and my husband's best friend who I've only met in person 1 time.  Society makes it almost impossible for SAHM's who are also introverts.

     

    ETA: also references are stupid.  Like I'm going to give you the name of someone who's going to say anything other than wonderful praise?

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  4. I don't/didn't nor would I unless there's a problem.  An example, DD was texting a friend, who had a specific bedtime, much later than the kid was supposed to be asleep (she was very open about this).  We talked about how that- no she's not responsible for their breaking the rules but does she want them to be grounded, get yelled at?  Then while it's not her fault if they get caught/punished she is contributing to the issue.  She stopped texting them after the kid's arbitrarily set time.  When my niece was staying with us last year we went through a  similar situation, texting at 3am to other children who were supposed to be in bed.  I talked to her like I did my daughter but the results weren't the same.  She continued to text, a lot.  She was 11 and I ended up having to take her phone every night at midnight.  I hated doing it, I much prefer children learn to police themselves and learn self control but she had never been taught those tools and she wasn't here long enough (only 3 months) for me to work with her her, so in the end I had to restrict her.   

     

    As to what they're texting, I don't feel like it's my business.  Just like I wouldn't try to eavesdrop on an in person conversation why then would it be okay to "listen in" on a conversation just because it's in text?   

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  5. When I was sick last weekend I binge watched the first season of "The Good Place."

    The Good Place is excellent and if you have Hulu they're running season 2 as it comes out.

     

    I like mysteries so 

    Father Brown, Agatha Christie, Death in Paradise, Midsomer Murders, Shetland, Sherlock, Mindhunter,  The Five

     

    If mystery is not your thing....

    Call the Midwife, Fraiser, Friends, How I Met Your Mother (I just don't watch the last episode)

     

    I love sci-fi

    Dark Matter, Star Trek: Enterprise or Voyager.

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  6. I worked for a garage door company in Florida.  Previous to my employment when the office person left at 3pm the phones got switched to the bosses cell phone.  So if he was in the middle of a job and they got a call he'd have to stop work to take it or let it go to voice mail.  He found that a lot of the people just hung up and he was worried about missing out on business (this also applied to his weekends when he was in fishing tournaments).  So I worked from 3-6 M-F and every other Saturday 12-6.  My job was to answer the phone and file work orders.  There were rarely ever any calls and the filing amounted to about 10 minutes worth of work. 

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  7. From what I've heard/seen most homes overseas are significantly smaller.  Depending on how long you'll be there maybe a storage unit here could be needed.  If I were only going for a year or two I wouldn't even try to take my own furniture or other big items but I definitely would not want to sell it all and have to try to rebuy new to replace it all 2 years later.  So a storage unit with insurance for contents.  Also medical insurance, many countries have universal healthcare or something like that.  You might not have access to that and it will cost you a little to a lot out of pocket.  Taxes, you will still be getting taxed here, you likely will be getting taxed there as well, pay should be adjusted for that.

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  8. I have a really cheap, like $10 or less from Walmart that I've had since 2008.  I use it more often than the big stand mixer and no matter how badly I treat it it will not die.  I'm probably going to give the stand mixer to my sister when we move in February but I'll definitely be taking the little hand mixer with me, or maybe I'll donate it and get myself a new one.

  9. If I was seeing this happen, I'd have probably stood up/moved toward the kid being pushed in (my first response would be to help/protect) kid comes up fine, no screaming/coughing then I'd feel a little embarrassed that I jumped the gun and I'd realize it was just how they interacted.  My only remaining concern would be explaining to my kids why so-and-so and their mom could rough house at the pool before lessons but we couldn't.  Still not my place to police their actions.

     

    As a parent I could see pretending like I was going to push the kid in but I'd not likely do it.  I was "taught", at around  age 5, to swim by being thrown in the deep end.  I still have a serious fear of ALL water bodies including pools.  

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  10. RTR's are epidemic in my town. Every single light almost every single time someone runs it, I am not kidding.  I get honked at because I don't run red lights.  This is in Tennessee, the South where people are supposed to be polite.  I blame it on the crazy growth and all the other transplants (like me) who were never taught manners.  It's not right that I have to look both ways before going on a green light or that you have to weave around cars in the intersection because they went but then get stuck due to the crazy traffic.

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  11. I stopped smoking just before my 40th (I'll be 43 next year).  I had been smoking since I was a teenager.  I didn't realize how compromised my lungs/breathing were.

     

     

    I've started eating healthier.  Soon after I quit smoking I developed diabetes and high blood pressure, they were probably there already but weight gain pushed me over the edge.  While I immediately cut out 90% junk carbs from my diet I only recently started to pay attention to the my diet as a whole.  About 2 months ago Dh and I started eating what's often referred to as a "flexitarian" diet.  Minimal animal products and significantly less fat.  While I've not been as good about sticking to it as DH (watching some Documentaries recently has helped get me back on track) I do feel better and I expect that to continue even more so as we go along.

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  12. We adored our Sasha. She was a digger but not too bad, she only barked when she should, and she loved going on walks.  She was fearless and thought she was superdog.  She severely injured her back jumping off the couch at 5 years old and we had to eventually have her put to sleep the day after Christmas (we had her for 6 years and 1 day). 

  13. Beginning Christmas music 24/7 on the radio prior to Thanksgiving.

     

    I would ban my sons from asking "What's for dinner?" the minute I walk through the door. They are bottomless pits and never gain weight. Apparently food goes through them and never sticks to their ribs.

     

    Perfume next to me, as in the woman last Friday night at the DSO who had apparently rolled in square footage of perfume before coming to the concert. I would make it legal to power wash such perfume users right there on the spot. I would broadcast, "A little goes a long way" on the radio and tv, put it on billboards. And then I would ban perfume from sitting next to me at concerts!

     

    Leaf raking. Just let it die folks. No one needs grass. Lawns don't sequester much CO2, and are unnecessary. If they die from the leaves, LET IT GO! And if you are a raker, do not give me a dirty look for being a non-raker.

     

    Commercials. No more commercials. They are annoying.

     

    So yes, in my world I would use the executive pen to outlaw perfume near me, leaf raking, and commercials plus the dreaded two months of Christmas music following Halloween in which I only get one day of "Monster Mash" which is such a pity. 

    :iagree: ALL of these!

     

    Also people not using their turn signals, I mean how difficult is it to flick a little switch people?

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  14. As for your first question...I am not quite sure I understand.  So.....spouse A hears a song on the radio, says "oh man this brings back memories.  The gang and I used to love this song."  Spouse A's ex happens to be part of the gang and Spouse B gets upset just hearing any reference to the gang because of that?  Is that what you are saying?

     

     

    If that's what's going on....gosh, I don't know that I could have married anyone who gets upset at the idea that I had any sort of relationship prior to meeting him.  But then, I had a kid when I met DH so that was kind of an automatic indicator.

     

     

    As to your second question, I work hard to own all my choices and not have regrets.  One way I do this is by going over the "other path" in my head and what things I would have missed out on.  For example, I could regret getting pregnant in high school, but then I would have gone to a different college.  Since I was in college when I met DH, I probably wouldn't have met DH.  I wouldn't have had the younger kids.  Etc etc etc. 

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    I was married before and he was like that, didn't want me talking about friends, didn't want to imagine I had a life before him.  He was very controlling and I was very young and did not know how to fix it so it ended in divorce.  My husband now is the opposite, doesn't try to tell me how to behave or care that I had past experiences (other than he'll mention "yeah, I heard that one before" because after 17 years you've heard all the stories).  

     

    If he's always been like this then I'd look into ways of helping him 1. realize it and 2. retraining himself to deal with it.  If he's only recently become this way then I would see what has triggered the behavior shift.

     

    As for owning regrets, absolutely. We make choices that lead us to this very moment in time, I'm really happy with this moment in time, I really like me at this moment in time and I wouldn't be me if I hadn't screwed up monumentally along the way. 

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  15. Couple thoughts

     

    LED bulbs are $2-$3 at walmart no more heating up the room from the light.

     

    Get her a sheet to go under the blanket, then if she gets hot she can toss off the blanket and keep the sheet.

     

    We've had the dual fans window thing for DS, it works great.

     

    I wonder if part of the problem is the HVAC system?  You might have someone come out to service it.

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