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  1. Realistically, unless she plans to resell the place quickly, she should choose the one that she likes best. Which one has better amenities? Which one is more convenient to shopping, friends, and family? And if the view is important to her, that can mean a lot, too.

     

    If no one needs to sleep in the second bedroom every night, maybe the lack of a window won't bother her at all -- maybe she will end up using it as a big walk-in closet or as a den for watching television.

     

    Edited to add: Is the no-window thing common in that condo complex? Have you looked at current and sold listings to see if the other second bedrooms have no windows, or if it's only in certain units due to the layout of the buildings? If it's only in certain units, the ones without the window should sell for less money than those with a more conventional layout.

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    Unless she's looking to live there only a short time or needs to make money on it then she should get the place she would most enjoy.  As for Comps, those will be other condos in the complex.  Check zillow, it'll have all the properties sold in the last few years, many with pictures so you can see condition and size as well as windows.

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  2. DH was like that although he had a growth spurt around 15.  He was still really thin when we started living together, 5'9/5'10 125# wore a size 28 waist, lol. He didn't start filling out until he was 25. 

  3. The financial realities of even a state school are, that to pay for everything for your kid, it's going to cost $1500+ (It's more, but this number is easy to work with) out of your family budget EVERY month. Some people can afford this. Some people make so little that their EFC is nowhere near this. A lot of people are in the middle where they're EFC is all of this, but they kinda need that money for their mortgage and to feed everyone. A LOT of people say "I put myself through school. These lazy mellinials should just work." Really? You think a college student can work 40+ hours to make enough for a state school? In what major is this even possible? Maybe it can work IF your EFC is low AND your kid starts working when they're 10?!?!

     

    DH and I are in the middle. We paid our own way through school AND we're paying for our daughter. She doesn't lack our determination, it's really much harder to pull off than it was 20 years ago. She works on campus and in the summers, but what she can contribute is a very small portion of this cost. She has some scholarships that help. It's really a cobbled together jumble.

     

    If the parents of today's students had saved $150 a month for ten years, or $75 a month from the time they were born, they could afford state school. Multiply this by the number of children you have. Double or triple it for private schools. I think a great savings plan for active families is to take the amount you spend on toddler ballet or travel soccer and save an equal amount for college. Yeah, I didn't think of that before now :-/ A lot of kids can get some merit aid. Some kids will get a full ride. You don't really KNOW this when your kid is one and you should start saving.

     

    I guess we're a We'll-do-whatever-we-can family when it comes to paying for college. It's expensive and feel sad for kids who were good students but can't make the numbers work. Families have to make hard decisions and it really is much harder than it was a generation ago. It does irk me when families put these blowhard hoops into place and tell their kids that they've gotta work their way through to build character instead of just admitting to the child that they cannot afford to contribute. DH and I struggled to put ourselves through college. We knew our parents couldn't pay for it, but at least they never acted like they were withholding support for our own good. That's just mean. It did NOT make us better people to work harder for it. Our characters were formed well before then. It was just harder.

    While $1500 a month may be the reality for many families, for us it's not going to be anywhere near that much.  

    We live in TN.  We have a CC up the road that has a transfer agreement with the local University.  CC is free in TN.  Books are going to be about $2000 per year.  The kids will live at home and eat at home and drive the EV back and forth to school (costs about $20 per month in electricity). They can work a very part time job for spending money.

     

    When they transfer to the University the tuition is (right now) $8800 per year.  The get to carry the Hope Scholarship with them from CC which pays $4500 per year (leaving $4300 in tuition) assume another $2000 for books still living at home, spread out over 9-10 months is about $600 per month.  This is the whole reason we moved back to Tennessee, low cost tuition and statewide scholarships that aren't need based.  In total for tuition only (at today's rates) it's going to cost us $8600 per kid for a 4 year degree (assuming they finish on time).

  4. I can't use my family or DH's as examples, both our parents played favorites so only some children were paid for while others were not.  

     

    As for my kids- We live in TN where the tuition is cheap and the University is 3 miles away.  We will pay for housing and hopefully any tuition not covered by grants.  The kids are expected to save enough that if DH were to lose his job then they could pay for their own tuition and other needs.

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  5. I love soup, but tend to mess it up.  One's I do okay with are potato, split pea, something similar to tortilla soup, and beef vegetable.

     

    I love beef or lamb stew, Thai coconut curry, and tomato but while my attempts are okay they never turn out quite right.

     

    I really don't like chicken noodle.

  6. I worked for a HVAC company years ago and while they did them often (even did the blue light to kill bacteria and such) the only ones that needed done were in cases of mold or if you had duct repair (to make sure there was no mold after the repair). We were in Florida where the air is so wet you feel like your skin is molding but in more temperate climates I wouldn't think it was an issue. 

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  7. So I'm uber-careful to the point my danger-prone mother often called me a wimp (she's like superwoman, everyone's a wimp next to her).  Things she's done.....

     

    While working on the engine of an old car with an old battery trying to get it started she did something to cause the battery to blow up in her face (blisters around eyes and some temporary blindness).  Yeah, that was a fun day.  She was watching a tornado, through binoculars, as it came into the valley below our house (we lived on a ridge) well apparently lightning can blister your eyeballs even if your'e not looking directly at it.  She cut the pad of her thumb off and I, no license, had to drive her to the hospital so they could reattach it.  It was her own fault because "she hadn't sharpened it enough".  She was out camping by herself on some property we own and had for got her hatchet so she successfully used a small log to break up/split another log, the first time.  When she tried on a second log she lost her grip the "hatchet" log bounced up hit her in the face and knocked her out, she has no clue for how long.  Well after she came to her senses she decided she could do without a fire and went to bed.  Woman is a nut and lucky to be alive because these are only a few of the stupid/crazy things she's done over the years.

     

    My youngest takes after my mom but luckily she has me for a mom and the accidents have been few. 

  8. How have you changed as a person over time?

     

    Your likes and dislikes? 

     

    Have you gone from not sporty to love working out? 

     

    Have your food tastes changed? 

     

    Did you grow up thinking you would do something and you ended up doing something else?

     

    Did you used to be shy and now are not? 

     

    What else do you feel like has changed about you? 

     

     

     

     

     

    This was awhile ago, but I was super shy as a kid.  Now I have no fear talking to anyone. 

     

     

     

    I grew up playing sports and that was just the thing. Playing, watching, and following teams. Now I find myself moving away from competitive sports and more towards the arts (music and dance).  I think the only sports I have watched in last 10 years are the Olympics.   My kids just are not into sports, which is so funny because dh and I were raised like that.  They are into the arts.  

    I used to read fiction constantly, like 2-3 books a day sometimes.  Now it takes me weeks or even months to get around to starting a new book (I read more non-fiction now).  I eat veggies, lots of veggies that I never used to.  I used to lie and tell people I was allergic to tomatoes so they wouldn't offer/force them on me but now I love grape tomatoes and romas.  I grew up, the oldest, taking care of my younger siblings like I was a second parent.  I swore I'd never have children, I have four now. I was never shy, I talked to everyone, wanted to know everything, I care a lot less about those things now and just want to get my sh*t done and go home. 

  9. I don't know about particular brands/models but I've always insisted on one with a "hard food disposal".  It actually chops bits up before sending down the drain.  This little feature can save you a ton of time and effort over a "soft food disposal" that only emulsifies food.  Things like chicken don't emulsify so instead cause clogs.

  10. No I wouldn't go.  If the brides parents give her a hard time then she and her new husband to be needs to stand up to them.  If it weren't your absence then they would likely give her a hard time about something else. you are not responsible for these people's bad behavior and that's what MIL should be told clearly.  

     

    As for the RSVP yes then invent an emergency thing.... they already know you don't want to go so it will just tick them off more and won't fool anyone.  Be honest and firm.

  11. I have an irrational fear of being in any body of water in which I cannot see the bottom. I can swim perfectly fine, but I just do not like not knowing how deep the water is or what is in the water. My biggest fear is being swept out to sea during a high tide. Freaks me out just thinking about it.

     

    Oh, and being at home alone at night. I'm convinced our house is haunted by a ghost that only comes out when I'm home alone ;)

    If these are irrational fears my list is really, really, long.

  12. My aunt thought it would be funny to let us 6 year old's watch a scary movie for Halloween.  In it a ghoul/monster thing comes out of the toilet.  If I see a toilet lid open I have to close it.... good hygiene, right?

     

    My dad told us about "some woman" who walked out to her car at night and while unlocking her door a person reached from under her car and cut her Achilles tendon making it impossible to run away... yeah I used to check under my car when I was younger, before I figured out that no one could actually fit under my little Japanese compacts, still freaks me out a little bit.  

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  13. I did not expect the (medium sized) sectional to last more than 5 years but mostly due to heavy use and my idea of "okay" is "looks barely used".  Cushion fluffiness and frame are still in excellent condition but the fabric is starting to wear a bit.  We'll be selling it if/when we move this spring, it's much to big for apartment life.  In fact I'm online looking for a new one now.

  14. I wouldn't give in, this is a really hard lesson that absolutely has to be learned.  I might mention that she could expect  some $$ for Christmas to help in 2nd semester.  Also important to note is that she is not the only student who will be broke this semester or next.  Many students who got $$ as gifts and from a job will have spent it on tuition.

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  15. I'm paid $80/day (non certified teacher with a bachelor's) or $100/day if it's a long term sub job (more than 10 days.) My teen dd works at Chipotle and earns more/hour than I do.

    I "liked" your post, not because I like it but because subs make $70/per day in my area and the local Mc-Donald's pays almost $10 for day shift.  

  16. For market research/book/article writing purposes - to be used in the general/aggregate sense, not individual. 

     

     

    As a MOM:

     

    What would you say are the top 3 negative emotions that you experience the most?

     

    Frustration, I get frustrated when they don't get "stuff" done and I have to repeat myself over and over.  How long can it possibly take to get your clothes changed and come unload the dishwasher, for DS 16, apparently an hour.

     

    Pretty much every other negative emotion I have, anger, disappointment usually stems from frustration.

     

    In LIFE:  (motherhood, marriage, housing, homeschooling, etc.)

     

    What would you say are the top 3 most stress-causing events or circumstances?  Can be ongoing or one-off big events.

     

    Moving, we've done it a dozen times but it always stresses me out usually because it comes after a lay-off, career advancement, or because of some other unforeseen upheaval 

     

    DD's mental and emotional issues are not severe but they are chronic and the daily battle wears me the XXXX out.  But I have to keep going because one she's my kid and the most important thing in my life and two because I think it would be 1000 times worse if I gave up.

     

    A friend/family member who visits us occasionally is an alcoholic and it always ends up badly.  I told them this last time and they weren't allowed to come back.  I think they thought I was joking, Im not.  

     

    Answers can be very vague and general - I'm looking for commonalities, not details.

     

    Emotion - guilt, and Stress Event - In-law visits or child/spouse/parent medical event/hospitalization are detailed enough for my purposes.

     

     

    Thanks!

     

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  17. What my grandpa, who served in WW II, called Sh*t on a shingle.  Any meat (I prefer roast beef or turkey) gravy, and mashed potatoes on a slice of white bread.  I was a grown adult before I knew other people called it a "Manhattan".  My mom always called it an SOS.  I can't eat them but very rarely, WAY too many carbs.  Otherwise I LOVE Cobb salad.

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