Murmer
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Didn't finish anything this week but I am over halfway through Agnes Grey, and enjoying it for the most part. It is the first book I am reading on my Ipad and I find myself getting more distracted while reading it and having to go back and reread more...I guess I am too use to the feel of a book in my hands.
I am also working my way through The Screwtape Letters. I am really enjoying it and the thinking it is causing me to do regarding faith and religion.
I just started 1, 2, 3 Money Matters on my phone kindle thing. It was a free download so I am giving it a try...I am preferring the Kindle format to the Ibooks format oddly enough.
So nothing finished but a whole lot started.
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I don't know the title but there are some great books about creating Lifebooks which I think would really benefit an older adoption like this.
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Thank you for your answers. It looks like I have some reading to do. Two of my cousins were adopted and it never crossed my mind that anyone would see them as less then biological family. Any adopted child would be my niece or nephew period. No ‘adopted niece’ vs ‘real or biological niece’.
She was looking into adopting from Brazil last time I talked to her.
I do apologize. I was being intentional vague as I didn’t want this to become a discussion about my sister and brother in-law but rather how I could support them through the adoption process and after.
Truthfully, I do not like my brother in law very much. Now don’t get me wrong he is not a bad guy by any means, perhaps a tad arrogant and entitled, but our personalities clash terribly. I would hate for my personal bias to influence your answer.
My concern is that my sister does not truly understand some of the difficulties she will be facing. She is a very opinionated person and does not do well when someone challenges her. She seems to believe that the training she received for her education degree has prepared her for dealing with any problem a child may have. I, on the other hand, respectfully disagree with that assessment.
When I was a younger I spent a lot of time working with a friend of the family who was a foster parent and believe me I got an education. My sister on the other hand never did this and the bulk of her contact with our friend’s foster sons was with the one who was a close friend of my younger brother. He had none of the violent or aggressive behaviours that some of the other boys did and because of this I’m concerned she has, perhaps, an idealist image of adoption.
Unfortunately my sister refuses to listen to my concerns or those of our parents claiming that we just do not believe in her or support her. Because I cannot influence her decision I want to at least be as supportive and helpful as possible.
Just a quick thought on this...many people go into adoption without knowing everything. A good adoption/homestudy agency will make sure they get the training they need for a successfully adoption, hopefully this would include special needs, transracial adoption, and openness. That said I went into my dd's adoption not knowing everything and have really come to learn a lot just living life just like any other mom. I would say that it might help if you gifted them a book or two like the Open Adoption Experience or one on international adoption with a super supportive message and then offer to read it when they are done so that you are educated too. I know one of the best things my family has done is read some of my books on racial development and open adoption so that I don't have to keep telling them everything.
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Rhyming can be difficult so I wouldn't worry. I would read more books with rhymes I love Jamberry and The Hungry Thing. Also its easier for kids to identify rhymes they hear like in a book finding 2 words that rhyme than having to independently come up with their own so start with that. Also nonsense rhymes are really fun like Dr. Suess' There's a Wocket in my Pocket.
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Ummm yeah...I just went out in my jeans, short sleeve t-shirt and flip flops to move my car for the snow plow....its 33 outside and raining freezing rain...My daughter will go outside without a shirt on...and since the rule is something must cover diaper areas she will wear pants but if that was not the rule naked would be the dress for her...ds never wears socks (actually they are put on but very quickly removed)...thank goodness none of them complain about the cold lol. I have gotten comments when we r in public but honestly most places blast their heaters so its 3 mins in cold then 75+ inside wherever and the clothes shedding starts
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Along with reading Martin's Big Words (one of my favorite MLK Jr books) we went to a local candle light vigil at the university.
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I finished a book!!! Finally finished My Antonia and enjoyed it.
I also just finished The Secret Life of Bees which I LOVED such an interesting story.
I am starting The Screwtape letters and downloading an Ann Bronte book to my Ipad right now...any suggestions I have Agnes Grey or The Tenant of Wildfell Hall.
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Thank you so much! This looks like a great resource. I think it will help me as I keep learning about ADHD. Thanks!
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Bumping for information on more ADHD resources for me to explore...thanks
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My first question is who diagnosed her with ADHD? I TOTALLY believe it can be there in young kids but I also feel that you need a specialist to diagnosis---esp. in young kids and adopted kids who have a host of other possible things going on.
What mainly are you seeing with her? How is she day to day? Was she an infant adoption or through foster care? Do you have any history on the birth parents of ADHD, mood disorders, bipolar, depression, drug/alcohol use/abuse, etc.
I ask all these things as there can be other things that LOOK like ADHD but are really other things and then the treatment was be VERY different. For my own daughter, she was ADHD to the MAX with hyperactivity. Well, it was really more she was manic from the bipolar and once we treated the bipolar the hyperactivity got WAY better. For other kids it might be due to fetal alcohol or drug exposure, sleep issues, etc.
If you feel comfortable sharing more details, we would love to help you out.
I woudl look into the Omega 3 fatty acids as they are great all around. We use Country Life Omega 3 mood but she would have to swallow a pill for that (which my kids at 3 had no issues with) otherwise www.omegabrite.com has a good children's liquid.
She was diagnosed through the school district by a school physcologist. We are currently waiting for a referral to the medical child development clinic because basically every time we have told our doctor about our dd's behavior/hyperactivity we have been ignored. I am not surprised by the diagnosis necessarily but I feel that the biggest issue with dd is Sensory Processing Disorder, she is a sensory seeker. While she could very well have ADHD I want to be educated so I can advocate more appropriately. There is a possibility the diagnosis is more for the ability to serve her through the school district early childhood program but the psycologist really seemed sure that she was ADHD.
Symptoms include energy higher than any other child we know. She has times often when she honestly seem totally out of control of her body. She is very busy all the time unable to focus on toys mostly just runs around the house making messes. She is extremely impulsive to the point of if I say don't touch she will. If she sees something or wants to do something she does without thinking. She is not a very good listener and can be prone to dangerous activity. She is able to sit and listen to a story, watch tv or right now she is very involved in cutting paper in to tiny bits. Another list of symptoms is here http://welltrainedmind.com/forums/showthread.php?t=208234 This is why we believe she has SPD.
My dd was adopted from birth and we have no birth history other than a verbal indication of no alcohol, drugs or cigarettes from birth mother. We do believe her especially regarding drugs.
I would love to know more about ADHD so I can "check" the diagnosis before I go to the medical route especially since she is only 3. Most of what I find on the internet is so simple, ie list of symptoms and very little about what it could look like at 3. I will admit life is hard with her and very little I am finding seem to be helping so we are searching for whatever assistance we can find to help her be the amazing little girl we know she is.
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So dd was just officially diagnosed with ADHD (yes she's only 3 ???). Since this hasn't really been on my radar with all the studying I have done about SPD (she has also been diagnosed), what would be some good resources, internet or book, that will give me more than just what is ADHD. I would like to learn about drug options since they were suggested and also natural things that can be done to help her. Also are there any good educational resources especially for the pre-k arena? Basically help me educate myself so I can advocate for my dd.
Thanks!
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I have a very spirited dd and we also save our errands for evenings or weekends because honestly she can't stay. I honestly feel like it is the best way to save our sanity because we would just end up walking out of the store every time we went without anything if we took her with us. We do occasionally take her in order to help her learn what she needs to do but not when it is important to actually get something.
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Flying while pregnant is fine, and many crewmembers do it through their sixth month; I'd be more worried about just getting through security.
Given the new security screening technology, I'd limit all flying to certain airports not yet fully equipped or employing scanner machines. I already do this with my young children, and if I were pregnant I would do the same for myself.
Congratulations on your growing grandchild :)
Flying is safe but make sure she understands that the new x-ray technology in airports has not been tested on pregnant women and it is not yet exempt for pregnant women so make sure she knows to opt-out and get the patdown.
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Let them potty learn, do not potty train. They need to know their body, I firmly belive that you do not "train" a child, they must know their body and with a child whom has sensory issues, this is even harder. J was 3.4yrs before he potty learned and even today at 7.2yrs he doesn't let us know until it is almost too late.
Yep you pretty much have a choice live your life by the clock and train yourself to take your child to the potty every few minutes and clean up messes or wait till they figure it out...dd started wanting to potty in the potty at 16 months but was not able to go consistently until the last few months at 3. Even so when she is going somewhere where I know the sensory input will be high she is in pull ups because she is not aware enough of that sensation to urinate when she is seeking or super busy with physical play.
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According to Ebay/Paypal rules it is the seller's job to make sure you receive the item you paid for. Therefore unless Delivery Confirmation proves that the item was received by the buyer you will be protected. But ebay is still ebay so it is up to you.
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I am already off to a rough start lol...I am still working on My Antonia, I have 2 more books left so about 20 chapters. I am enjoying it but just short on reading time.
That said I have decided to do a side challenge for myself...because my kids are little still, I realized that I am reading a lot of picture books so I want to see if I can read 100 NEW to them picture books. So this would be pictures books that we read for the first time, not the ones I read over and over at bedtime, naptime, all day long time. So this week we have been reading through my new Beatrix Potter picture books.
The Tale of the Flopsy Bunnies
The Tale of Mrs. Tittlemouse
The Tale of Timmy Tiptoes
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Honestly we did this in high school too...mostly because we were a rural area where the drive could be hour+ over scary windy roads (I hit a deer one time on the way home from a boyfriends late at night) after events. So we would have the far away friends spend the night regardless of gender. I was a matter of keeping people safe from driving late at night. But they were supervised in seperate rooms and multiple roommates. If there was a bf/gf situation they were not allowed to be around each other after "bedtime", although I am not sure how the parents would have kept them apart everyone just did.
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I have an app called appshopper. It shows all new, updated, price changed apps in the itunes store. But it also lets you set it to show specific things like price, type, and category with one category being education. So I could potentially set it for what's new, free, education and get all the apps that fit those categories. It might help.
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Don't know if it has been mentioned but I love the book Esperanza Rising, its probably an easy 9th grade read but an incredible thought process book about being a wealthy family in Mexico then coming to the US during the dust bowl and becoming a "stupid" immigrant whose mother worked the fields.
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I have considered visiting an LDS Church, but I think I would feel a little uncomfortable. I know that church policy has changed, but being black I wonder if hearts have changed. Official policy and what people actually think and feel are two very different things.
Both of my children are black...I am white. I have found that people are people everywhere and of every religion. There are some people who are LDS (just as there are some people who are other religions) who are very prejudice. But I have found that many people don't even notice. I have had to push for things like black baby dolls in the nursery to play with (and 1 was purchased quickly). I will say that I have had the best interactions inside Utah regarding being a transracial family than outside just in general public situations. I love that in Utah there is Genesis which is a black branch and while I was there for Christmas we got to go to dinner and they had Santa come (one of the men from the group). I feel that Genesis is an amazing opportunity for my children because there are men who experienced the priesthood decree that can help my children as they learn about it themselves.
I don't think receiving revelation from the Lord via a hat is any less "hokey" than recieving it via a burning bush. ;)And ya, I don't think the LDS church fits the definition of "cult" so much as some have expanded the definition of cult to fit the LDS church.
So a theory that is now around (NOT DOCTRINE because there is not doctrine about the process used other than it was inspired) is that the seer stone in a hat was an agreed upon story because that was a common occurrence at that time but that Joseph Smith only used the interpreters to help him translate the plates. Again this is a theory that is currently be researched based on some things I think Oliver Cowdery said after his return to the church (all this is off the top of my head because the book is packed right now).
As for similiarities between mainstream Christianity and Mormonism...
I have joined a group for women at a local Christian church, I LOVE it. While their doctrine at points is different namely the Trinity but there were 2 or 3 other points of difference I have found that the most important things to me are the same.
1) These women are striving to know God and love him with all their hearts.
2) They are seeking to be great moms who teach their children to love God.
3) They seek to be kind, to share their joy, and to serve others with all their hearts.
These things are what I think are most important and I love to be around women who believe so strongly in such important values that I have. I think this is truly the similiarities that we need to focus on when we are seeking to understand others. Just my 2 cents.
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Yes, my little sister just told me she was pregnant 2 days ago...my twin is 27 weeks, my son's birthmother is 27 weeks (and in a steady happy relationship and looking forward to parenting), my husband's sister is 20 weeks...I am the only one in the family not pregnant (and there is no chance of it)....I keep expecting to hear of a bunch of the women where I live locally to announce they are pregnant and trying to brace myself for it.
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So I started My Antonia by Willa Cather, it's been sitting on my shelf for 2 yrs now so about time I read it.
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internet4classrooms.com (I think) has a variety of activities divided by grades and "standards" (of the site not state divided standards
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Reading is not about sight words or even sounding out words but the process of making sense of the written code we use to represent our language. As an adult we read by sight words and by using meaning to construct understanding of what is being said in text...of course a child can't do that...so we use phonics and sight words to help them construct meaning a word, then sentence, then story at a time. When a child discovers the magic of reading is the meaning and joy of understanding a story for them selves that is reading. Phonics is a very valuable skill to help children get to that point...and then from there we use phonics to help when ever an unknown word it used in text.
The time has come....and I am afraid!
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We just got a new to us Honda because of reliability especially regarding repairs. My dh said that 2003-2004 can have transmission problems. And my sister warned that the timing belt needs to be replaced around 100000 miles and that is an expensive fix (400+ dollars) so she wanted us to make sure what ever we bought over 100000 had already had the timing belt replaced.