Murmer
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Have you considered how your son will feel about being held back? It could really effect his confidence and kids with ADHD often feel bad about themselves just as a result of the ADHD so to hold back could be devastating.
Also with the diagnosis of ADHD your son should be able to qualify for a 504 plan which would have accommodations for your son regarding things like organization and help that might help him in Jr. High.
If you feel that your son is ok with being held back and if he will benefit academically then it might be worth it but I would still find out about getting a 504.
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I recently chatted with a friend from church who is a naturalized American citizen from Sudan. Right now she's teaching her bilingual 3-year-old colors in English and is having trouble explaining black and brown. My friend has been telling her daughter that she's "black," but the little girl insists she's brown! We had a good laugh over it and decided I should be called "pink" rather than "white."
My dd is having a hard time with the brown and black thing...she knows her skin is called brown but it is also called black so she will say things like "The dog was black like me" as she extends her arm and points to her beautiful skin. Meaning the dog was dark brown like her but she knows she is "black". That said it is a very normal thing in racial development to use colors to identify skin color until well into 1st grade.
I consider African American to be a more formal way of saying Black. When at home, or among close friends or family, (if for some reason I need to refer to race, which is RARELY), I say black. When in more polite company, I say African American.To me, Negro is offensive. It conjures up images of slavery and Jim Crow law and I may hold a personal grudge because my parents and grandparents grew up here in the South and they have vivid memories of things I can barely imagine. In my opinion, it is a label that was put upon people instead of an identity they chose for themselves. I feel it's highly inappropriate in this day and age.
I don't know how other people feel about it. I am not the National Black/African American Spokesperson nor do I play one on TV. ;) I am just saying how I feel about it.
I also get icky hearing hearing Negro just because it seems to say pre-civil rights which was a very sad time.
I cannot stand the term "African American". Here, blacks just say "black" and they call whites "white". Simple ... the semantics start to really get to me.I personally don't like the word "negro" and never, ever use it. I also strongly dislike "colored".
I had someone youngish using the word colored yesterday and it bugged me...my children where not colored with a crayon, they were blessed with the most beautiful brown skin there was not coloring involved thank you very much.
But I am merely the mom of 2 beautiful brown/black babies and they are the ones who have to be a part of this world as a minority and they have the right to define themselves as they see fit.
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I am really enjoying book crawler...it is quick easy and I can add tags that make it easy to put location of the book and important things I might search for...like which book list it was from and such...it does cost a bit for the full version but totally worth it for me...I do think it has the barcode...and it lets you list cost.
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My son (almost 2 should update my signature) is very picky and usually will not eat what is offered. He is always offered a piece of bread, nothing on it, but a piece of bread. So if he doesn't want the meatloaf I made for dinner he can have a piece of bread...if dd gets a piece of candy he will not. I do always offer him what we eat every time we eat. So he gets snacks and if he doesn't want the snack that I have offered...he can have a piece of bread. This way he is not starving but he isn't being rewarded either.
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My dd was diagnosed with ADHD (combined) this year at 3.5 years old. She is extreme with SPD involved too. That said the discipline has been so hard everything that people says works doesn't work. No matter how many times she was sent to her room with the option to have the door open if she doesn't hit or hit and get the door closed she hit and got the door closed. EVERY SINGLE TIME! For over a year of consistent consistent discipline...she truly did not get it. She also has potential for oppositional defiance (leaning towards the disorder) and will purposely say she does not want something if she can't control the situation. I have spent the last 2 years crying about what an awful mother I must be because my 3 year old was so out of control and no matter what I did nothing worked....Now she is on nonstimulant medication and life has taken a 360. She has been slowed just enough that she can process things and discipline is actually starting to work.
So yes he very well could have ADHD, he could some oppositional issues going on (its comorbid). Mom probably tries but doesn't know what to do and is at the will of the ADHD. When you spend 5+ years thinking you suck because your kid is out of control it is hard to want to keep trying and pushing when really life is much easier when the child gets his way that trying to discipline consistently and always being pushed against or attacked...its rough. I recommend giving the mother a bit of support and encouraging her to keep trying.
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Ours is free but over 1/2 the slots are for special needs children, including my daughter, the other 1/2 is by lottery.
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Full day here....and I HATE it...I am scared to death that my ADHD/SPD sensory seeker is going to have it rough in all day Kinder...which is why I want to homeschool...but because we have an IEP in a high regulated state I am worried that we won't be approved :(
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I honestly think that there is not a logical way to answer your questions...but I do believe that you can pray for the right answer for *you*. Then its just a matter on acting on your belief and ignoring the tugs that ask you to keep reevaluating.
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So I just did this to my one of my dd's pants. I used this tutorial http://stitch7.com/?p=751. I used fabric in the middle and had to change the back a bit...my gal has a booty that needed a little extra room. It turned out adorable and perfect fit!
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Another mama of a nekkid kiddo...she does have sensory issues but even with those under control her preference is nothing on her body. We do have a rule about standing in front of the window she must have her bits covered or beneath the window sill. Also if someone is over or we are leaving she must be totally clothed. Mind you that usually means going commando because panties are just overrated in our house to her. So we let her go...my son usually runs around in a onesie...because we need to make the diaper not accessible but he seems like we won't have all the nekkid issues with him.
We do start the day dressed we just don't always end the day that way.
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I just want to say that as a twin I LOVED the Sweet Valley books although I didn't really get into the High. So it was fun to identify with the twin thing. The kid books are like Babysitter's Club Little Sister books, easy little reads for late 1st, 2nd grade reading from what I remember.
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For us testing was completed and SpEd services started for like 2 weeks...then we started meds and even the SpEd teachers are amazing at how well she is doing and the fact that she is able to answer and do things that she was completely unable to do just a few weeks before. I know the meds are why she is doing so much better.
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We have FREE public transportation...and I have never used it. Mostly it is inconvenient to get to the places I want to go with 2 small children...especially one that is very very impulsive. I have been thinking lately maybe we will try it but looking at routes and times it is still really hard...things like getting the library for story hour 30 mins early but also having to wait 30 mins after for the bus and with a busy little girl that is recipe for disaster.
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We got a gift subscription and my kids LOVE it. I have seen my daughter pick up some of the concepts which is exciting and my son enjoys likes to listen to the songs and books. I do it with them most of the time.
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The RAST is one part of the puzzle. It needs to be taken into account with skin tests and reactions. Sadly the only way to know about reactions is to remove everything and just give 1 thing at a time. I know that we were given an epi-pen based on a 3 skin test, a positive (but not extremely high) RAST, and increasing in reactions that stopped when milk was removed from her diet and returned immediately when reintroduced. That was how our allergist made the choice. I do recommend talking with the allergist they are more experienced with this.
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I don't know where you live vs where your uncle is...but when my nephew was diagnosed with Leukemia a month ago a group of ladies came to her house and scrubbed it down. They committed to coming every week so that the family (mom) could focus on my nephew instead of having to clean the house.
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:iagree:Before medicating my son, I couldn't PARENT him. He was so hyperactive & inattentive that I couldn't get through to him. Once he was medicated he could HEAR what I was saying & pause enough to think about his actions. He spent alot of his young life (Prior to age 4, when he was dx'd) getting in trouble & getting yelled at. I spent that time being angry. I did not want that to be his memories of me or his childhood. I've never been sorry that I decided to medicate.
:Iagree: ADHD meds have been a miracle for us...our daughter is now the amazing person that she always has been but there is a lot less of the raging, from both of us. The meds have helped put her in a place to learn...that said I strongly feel that you can't medicate a child and then think that's it. Meds are 1 way to help the child but there are behavior modifications, learning modifications and other things that are necessary to help them organize themselves with the meds helping them focus to do and learn these tasks.
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Due to adoption tax credits we have not had a tax liability for a few years...so that's been great but now we will start paying and I don't know how much that will be. That said I am all for paying taxes if it is going to a good cause..IE NH has no state tax, VT has a state tax but it also has one of the strongest PS SpEd inclusive programs I have ever seen. Children get aids in the classroom instead of being shipped out...I don't mind paying for that. They also have high medical aid, food stamps, day care aid...I can't partake of it we make just over the limit but I am ok with helping to pay for it because it really is helping children out.
But I look at the federal government and the fact that they are literally wasting the money I have given them and it makes me sick.
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Because I know what happens in public school...I know the politics behind it, I know the teachers that are close to retiring and don't care, I know about the parents who don't care what their kids is doing because it is free babysitting.
Because they teach to the lowest denominator...and even good teachers are limited in time, energy and knowledge
Because who knows my kids better than me, why waste my time teaching 30 other kids while my kids sit in daycare or someone else's classroom.
That is why I will homeschool.
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2 Chicken breasts
8 oz of salsa (we like to puree it)
On low for 6 hours...
Last hour shred chicken and add 1/2 cup sour cream.
Serve with tortillas, cheese, lettuce and other burrito fixings.
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I LOVE Word Their Way...I have already purchased the first book for my PreK dd. I think the ideas in it are great...that said I feel it is more of a phonics/spelling program and needs to be used in conjunction with phonics reading instruction and spelling instruction. I think it really helps kids visual words within the rules and start to see how the rules work outside of reading.
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We just got rid of our cable and DVR. We bought PlayOn which offers Hulu and CBS.com through the PS3. Between that and Netflix I am more than entertained for the bit that I watch TV and my kids are happy with the cartoon selection on Netflix.
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My daughter was in my sister's wedding...she was the only child allowed at the wedding...my son not invited. My sister did find a sitter for both children with the understanding that I would take my daughter back to the house after the ceremony then on the reception. While a pain I understand why she did it and she did set up and pay for the babysitter because she did want my daughter in her wedding otherwise I would not have been able to come at all.
I also know that she kind of set up a "prudes" go home time for my family (non drinkers, not really into the party scene ect) and had all the official stuff before 10 and then we went home (not forced but implied) while she and her friends had a "real" party lol. She did it because she knew we would be uncomfortable with the drinking/partying side of the reception.
ETA: of course the wedding and the location where my children where was no more than 15 mins away so it was easy to take my daughter back to the house.
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I have been a sewing machine...I wanted to make things for my children to wear at Disney next week. I just finished up a cute Tiana shirt and pants, a Tiana dress, a Rapunzel dress (basically the shirred fabric with ribbon for sleeves, and a 2 pairs of Mickey Mouse shorts.
Next up is 4 appliqued Mickeys on white shirts for our family to wear for our big picture in front of the castle. Plus I still have Buzz fabric to make my son something cute, not sure what yet. I have 4 more days so I will be busy.