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One of the biggest things for me is to make sure that my family and children are around black adults that can help to guide them in things that I cannot. We are involved in a college group that does a playdate with the children of color in the community every week. When the children get into middle elementary age they do a big brother big sister thing, it is amazing. They make sure that they have black males at the activities almost every week. I love that my son sees intelligent, manly, men that are black because the stereotypes still active in the US is one in which black males are punks, disorderly or in poor Treyvon's case suspicious.
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We do both, if I can make it safe I will and many thing I just substitute butter and milk for earth balance and soy milk...but things that I can't sub like Mac and cheese I make something else similar so elbow noodles. I do require breakfast snack and lunch are safe always and dinner is the only thing I make 2 meals if necessary.
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Welcome to post racial America were a black young man is killed for walking in a white neighborhood while black and nothing is done.
This is an example of systematic racism in which the cops did not investigate because it appeared open and shut black man white neighborhood of course he was suspicious and self defense had to be used.
Not to mention it has taken a month to get into the media.
It is sad and scares me that many people think racism does not exist systematically in the us because we voted in a black president.
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I think a mix of apartment style with some individual homes would enable the best of what people would like. I also think that individual kitchens that are small and basic with a large communal kitchen would appeal to me. It think the advantage would be the private space can be smaller basically bedrooms bath kitchen maybe small family room so that people would want to use the communal space for interaction and their homes for privacy.
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So my ds has been doing the same thing!! The current solution is he is only allowed a 2 hour nap, which is occurring earlier in the day...then he is woken up. I also make sure he is woken up at 7 am everyday regardless of how little he slept the night before. This appears to be working!! He has not woken up multiple times at night for almost 2 weeks now...even while sick! So it might be something to try.
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A few links that made me wary of pinterest:
http://www.knoed.com/thewindowseat/pinterest-change-your-terms-or-were-leaving/
http://artists-bill-of-rights.org/news/campaign-news/pinterest-versus-ethics-and-the-law-%11-part-1/
I could be confused, but basically what they're saying is that legally, before pinning, pinterest members should get written permission from the owner of whatever they're pinning. Pinterest has the right to sell, use, or do whatever to any content uploaded to their site and any copyright lawsuits, etc will fall on the pinner, not pinterest. I hope I'm wrong and someone will tell me that's not really what it means. I really enjoyed pinterest but I just don't feel comfortable with it right now.
Pretty much! In order to use pinterest according to the TOU things pinned need permission from the original poster of the picture. That isn't such a big deal to me because a simple comment with response isn't to far out of the norm...the concerning part is the part where the TOU say they can sell or license material posted on pinterest which I feel is not fair to the original copyright owner and thus why I have stopped pinning :(
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a blogger and professional photographer wrote a similar post about deleting her boards because of copyright problems, she then wrote a follow-up post after having pinterest call her to talk about it.
here is her follow-up
http://ddkportraits.com/2012/02/my-date-with-ben-silbermann-following-up-and-drying-my-tears/
I'm hoping pinterest will hear the concerns and change their TOS- so far, I am still pinning, hopeful they will change things.
This sounds promising! I am really hoping that it will change soon and I can feel comfortable pinning and repinning again.
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So this and some other issues that's have read from other bloggers has made me stop pinning....until there is a more definitive decision made regarding the issues. I love pinterest but for now back to bookmarking old school.
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I would stop him and say did that make sense...no go back and say I slowly. He needs to start noticing for himself when what he says doesn't make sense and go back and sound it out correctly.
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Lds family history centers have free access to anscestory.com while using their computers in ther building and you do not have to be lds to go and use them.
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I sooo want to be a Beta tester! Please pick me!!! :lol:
Here's the update on the "My Well Planned Day" online planner.
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Frankly, I would assume that a black child raised by white parents would not ultimately "join" the black "community" as we think of it. He'd more likely be more or less accepted in the white culture.
The problem is that a black child regardless of their family make up will not be able to join the white culture, because they are black. There is a history in this country of racism, prejudice and white privilege that a black person, even raised by white people cannot overcome based merely on their parentage. While many advances have come and many more are coming this country is still very black and white with regard to race. There may be less overt racism but prejudice and institutional racism are still occurring...white parents are only good when they are around but when they are not their child is like any other black child in most people's eyes good or bad.
Reading books like the pursuit of happyness and the color of water and life is so good and other biographies I have noticed that black parents teach their children how to function so as to not draw attention to themselves because the culture just 30 years was highly dangerous for blacks, a white parent would not know how to do it unless they educate themselves and are willing to step outside their comfort zone.
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My dd still prefers not to wear undies...although she is finally wearing them more regularly now that she has boy brief cut undies. She potty trained naked and preferred that. She couldn't remember that she didn't have a diaper on when she was wearing panties because they landed in the same place but without panties she would run to the potty and go. I guess all this to say she just may not like panties so try other styles of underwear (I love the boy undies they fit dd perfectly! way better than girl undies) or just let her go commando.
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Is it really true that there are scads of healthy African-American or mixed-race infants in need of families in the U.S.? I hear this bandied about all of the time. I am pretty sure, however, that I read a reliable source once that said it is a myth, and that healthy infants under a year old are snatched up regardless of race.
Does anyone have reliable info confirming or denying this theory?
Terri
Last summer I was talking to a director of an adoption agency in Utah at a play group for transracially adopted children. At the time they had 2 or 3 harder to place babies (black, male, drug/alcohol use, mental illness) and while they were considered harder to place she told me that no baby that is placed for adoption does not get placed with a family. There are so many families searching for babies that are open to more than the perfect, white, female (the most sought after according to said director). So yes a myth but it is still harder to place African-American children then Caucasian babies.
I think the reason that transracial adoption is discouraged is because if a family hasn't really thought about what it means to be transracial, if they haven't actually considered the effect of a black child being raised outside of the black community by people who do not have even a small clue about what it is like to be black, it can be much much harder. You can't just adopt a black child and say they are in my family now so I will raise them like a white child because the rest of the world sees them as black. I have heard many stories of security guards following black teens in a store...but walking away as soon as white mom shows up to said teen. Teen wasn't doing anything wrong except shopping while black. Or the recent story of the black teen walking home from the store to his house in a gated white community that was shot dead by the neighborhood watch person for being suspicious...because black kids don't walk around that neighborhood. Black children getting put in the noncollege prep track in high school...until white parents show up.
These experiences are still happening and white parents have to be able to prepare their black child for racism when many white parents have never experienced racism. Black parents for the most part have and they pass on the things that they have learned ie from a friend of mine when a police officer pulls over her husband he makes sure to place his hands on top of the steering wheel at all times because he is black. I know that is not in my driving lessons. But they do that because it is safer for them because sadly people think that black men are more violent and may pull a gun on the officer.
All that said...I am a mom to 2 black children and we are in the process of doing it again. I will never ever want a white child to join my family (mostly because I never want to have a stupid person come up to my family and say Oh are they adopted while pointing to my black children when all of my children are adopted). I love my transracial family. I love the new world I have entered into where I am more aware of race and racism but also more open to knowing people of all cultures and races than ever before. It is an incredible thing but it is not and probably will not ever be the easiest thing in my life.
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I am just hoping that if one of the ladies on here gets the invite maybe they would be willing to invite me...I really want to try this software out! It looks really good. :)
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I also purchased something from her and haven't received my books, nor have I heard back from her. I PM'd her at the end of February, so it was well before the last time she logged in. Thankfully I didn't use the personal tab, so if I don't get my books soon, I'm filing a complaint. I do want to give her the benefit of the doubt, but the OP spoke with someone that was scammed a while back, but didn't leave negative feedback because she was scared it would be reciprocated. How does that work, btw? If I paid, can she leave negative feedback for me?
Yes she can give give retaliatory feedback....there is a report feedback button but I don't know if it gets looked at. It does appear that if a pattern is established retaliatory feedback will be removed but it might take a while.
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I think another piece of this puzzle is that while I do believe that discrimination, in particular curtailing of freedom of speech under the auspices of separation of church and state, is occuring. I think that being Christian still has a privilege related to its long standing history especially in the US. So for many non-Christians its hard to talk about Christian discrimination because many things are still based on the Judeo-Christian tradition of old when there are others, including but not limited to religions, that are experiencing major issues including injury and death as the direct result of discrimination (GLBT suicide as the result of bullying comes immediately to mind, or the black boy that was shot close to his gated white community home by the community watch leader who has not even had charges placed against him). Yes, it is harder to be Christian now and there are many who are prejudice and discriminatory to Christians but many Christians in many areas still have many privileges merely from being Christian in America.
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My 2.5 year isn't sleeping. He has occasionally slept completely through the night but it is off and on and has never been consistent. Last night he woke up at 1 am and did not go back to sleep, regardless of what we did.
We have a very consistent bedtime routine that starts at 7, lights are out by 8....most nights around 9 we hear a little voice out in the hall playing. Then he wakes up anytime between 1 and 7 am and WILL NOT go back to bed. We have laid with him, we have let him scream, nothing worked.
He does take naps anywhere from 2 hours to 4 hours 5 days a week. The days he misses naps are awful he is cranky, whiny and his sleep seems to be worse at night.
What can we do to help ds get a good nights sleep consistently?
And before family bed is recommended the problem is that once the child is awake he will not go back to sleep. This will still be a problem with a family bed except instead of 2 people losing out on sleep the whole family would.
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Era level 16 is the most common expectation for the end of first grade. So your child is more than good :)
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Contact paypal!!! Of course if they sent it media mail it could take up to 6 weeks to show up...but if they are not answering emails or pm's then I would be super super concerned.
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Yes and I hate it. Wish I could figure out a way not to.
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I am also looking for HWOT kindergarten or Pre-K, the mats, slate, wooden pieces ect...it is the program dd's OT recommends for her.
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I am loving Book Crawler...it is easy to use and simple to search. I love that I can put multiple tags on a book so that I can use it for multiple thing...something excel made very difficult
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From a former ps 1st grade teacher I would be impressed with what he did. He is hearing multiple sounds in words, which is not common in 4 yrs usually expected mid kinder. He knows long and short vowels and for the most part is using them. He also hears constant blends and vowel diagram
PBS. That said I would be concerned about ending sounds in multi syballic words. He has some odd ending sounds that he is hearing. But that could be language or the act of saying a word slowly that is tricky without lots of practice. Personally I feel his writing indicated a high level of phonemic and phonic awareness that in public school would be middle kinder to early 1st grade. You also have a great platform built to really teach the spelling rules because he is already trying them out.
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I have an android but I really want an iphone!