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Cin,
Try this link http://www.rocketlawyer.com/documents/legal-form-Complete+Will.aspx
It says it is for a free will. You get a free membership that I'm guessing you need to quickly cancel to keep from being billed.
You probably will need to check your state to see who needs to witness you signing your will. I know in our state you need two witnesses; one notary will not be enough.
Have a great trip.
LC
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Elaine,
I just wanted to chime in & add that having a psychologist that doesn't support homeschooling may not be a deal-killer. If this Dr. comes highly recommended, I wouldn't necessarily let his/her answers to your questions make you change gears. I don't want you to waste your visits either, but I just don't think you can know until you get there.
Some of my kids have seen a psychologist since my husband died last year. Folks all recommended a man, who admitted that he was not in favor of homeschooling. (His wife is a school principal, so I figure he has to be that way.) Having said that I was nervous when he asked my 12 DD and I to meet with him together last summer. She has never liked homeschooling and does not like things related to homeschooling. She is very vocal on this issue, but I've always said it is not up to her. Anyway, he just had us talk about some things -- such as where she sits in car. Finally, he asked, "Do you always talk so well together?" We replied, "yes, unless it is about homeschooling." He laughed, but didn't recommend I stop homeschooling her just to make her happy. I think that disappointed her, and she hasn't been back. She is doing fine in handling everything, and we talk all the time.
He has recommended putting one of my younger boys in school, because he think that child senses when I'm upset and it makes him upset & mad. This is my high-energy kid, and he does admit not every teacher would be a good fit for him. The kids were basically finished seeing the doctor until this son started acting up again.
He has been helpful with their grief and this son's acting out.
Good luck.
LC
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I make this a lot to bring to folks, and we eat or freeze the second one. (I've been asked by families to bring it, and I'm not a particularly good cook.) You could bring both to feed the whole family.
LC
Ingredients
1 lb ground beef
1 lb mild pork sausage
1 onion, chopped
1 small green pepper, chopped
1 (3 1/2 ounce) package pepperoni slice, chopped
1 (28 ounce) can crushed tomatoes
1 (26 1/2 ounce) jar spaghetti sauce
1 (16 ounce) jar mild salsa
1 (4 ounce) can sliced mushroom, drained
10 ounces pepperoncini peppers, drained and sliced
16 ounces shell pasta, cooked
1 cup grated parmesan cheese
4 cups shredded mozzarella cheese Directions
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Cook the beef, sausage, onion and green pepper until brown.
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Drain and set aside.
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Mix the pepperoni, tomatoes, spaghetti sauce, salsa, mushrooms and salad peppers.
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Stir into the meat mixture.
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Add the cooked pasta shells.
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Spoon 1/2 of the mixture into 2 greased 11x7 inch baking dishes.
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Combine the two cheeses and divide the amount in half.
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Take one half of the cheese and sprinkle on top of the meat in each dish.
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Take the remaining 1/2 of the meat mixture and cover the cheese in the two dishes.
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Bake at 350 degrees for 30 minutes.
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Top each dish with the remaining 1/2 of the cheese.
- Bake 5 more minutes or until cheese is bubbly.
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Cook the beef, sausage, onion and green pepper until brown.
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When our oldest child was born 13 years ago, my husband and I got life insurance. His was as a supplement to the insurance he had at work. Anyway, a two years later he quit his job to become an independent, computer consultant. In the craziness of starting a business and adding to our family, we didn't change the amount of this supplemental life insurance. I can't remember why, because I'm guessing we had to have discussed it. We had applied for disability insurance for him, but for some reason, he couldn't get it as start-up, self-employed businessman.
Five years later, he was diagnosed with a benign brain tumor out of the blue. So, he talks to the agent about adding more life insurance. He is told he has to wait two years after surgery. It turns out he needs a second surgery to remove some tumor that was missed in the first surgery. That restarts the clock.
The two years goes by and he applies for a good bit of life insurance, since we now have five children and we have seen how quick things can change. Months go by and we hear nothing. Finally, one day he receives a short "rejection" letter; we understand, who insures brain tumor patients. Some time goes by and he re-reads the "rejection" letter. It turns out someone, somewhere didn't file all the paperwork needed, and he hadn't been rejected just put in the holding pen. So, he gets the agent to figure out what needs to happen to get him out of the holding pen. They accept him, but are going to charge him a bunch of money for the first five years. We talk about it, and we just can't see spending that much for insurance when the chances we'll ever need it are slim. Then, he asks if he can get less insurance for less money. Yes. So we do that and keep the original policy, which is with the same company. So, he ends up with around the amount of coverage he had wanted for basically half the charge. This is around Thanksgiving of 2006.
After that Christmas, he begins noticing some weird symptoms with his hands and mouth. He was scheduled to have a routine, follow-up MRI in January. the news he had a new tumoHe moved it up a few weeks to Dec. 30, 2006 On January 2, he got the news, he had a new tumor, and he died three months later. Even though the insurance company knew his history, I knew they were going to balk about paying his claim less than six months after he got the new policy.
Anyway, the estate attorney mailed the life insurance claim forms out to the midwest on June 12. I got the check in my mailbox on June 22. That was my husband's birthday. Even if they didn't question the claim, I find it amazing it was able to get all the way out there, be processed, and sent all the way back here in less than two weeks.
I had been worried his birthday would be a tough day. Instead, I spent the whole rest of the day laughing and thanking God for His care ans His timing.
LC
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I have one for me, one for my parents, and one for my husband.
Mine: When I was a senior in college, I was in Bern, Switzerland, looking at the bears with my family. I saw a girl that I knew I had worked with at Wendy's in our hometown in Louisiana. My family didn't know her, and they told me "No way." I moved closer to her, and she, at least, is speaking English. It was her & she remembered me also from when we worked together four years earlier.
My parents: Five or six years ago my parents are eaing in a restaurant in California, all the away across the country from their home in Georgia. They decided the father of a family standing outside the restaurant's front window looks like the son of some good friends. They haven't seen the son since they went to California for his wedding five to six years earlier. The family comes inside and it is him. A few weeks ago this same family flew to Atlanta for his sister's wedding, and they ran into my father, who was there picking up my sister from NC for the same wedding.
My husband's: When he was around six years old, my husband's dad was a marine and stationed at The Pentagon, I think. Anyway, they moved to Virginia for this assignment. The first day in the new house, my husband rode his bike around the block. He came home saying, "Did you know Uncle Pete lives around the corner and is outside washing his car?" I don't know if he just didnt' remember he been told they would be moving near the uncle, who was in the army, or if the families didn't know. Knowing all parties, either explanation could work.
LC
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Praying for them and you.
I'm guessing that J & L are older than our kids. They never thought anything about it being their dad's birthday after he died. They also didn't think about it being the anniversary of his death yesterday; I didn't bring it up to them. Two had slumber party/sleepovers to attend, so I didn't want to make them they needed to be extra sad yesterday. It has only been a year & we still talk about him all the time.
LC
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RC,
I am going to go out on a limb and disagree with all the other responders. I'm doing so, because of my personal experience and what you wrote in your note.
I have read APDL, but I have not read The Power of a Praying Wife. I have read the Power of a Praying Parent, which is by the same author as The Power of a Praying Wife. I did both of these as part of women's bible study at my church.
Without a doubt, even after reading the other comments, I would recommend APDL. We ended up adopting another child as a response to the book. I fully admit that I didn't agree with everything in the book. It has been a number of years since I read APDL, so I don't remember if I thought it was overly simplistic. However, I personally believe everyone needs some "milk" in their diets from time to time.
Plus, it sounds to me like you are the perfect candidates for re-examining the basics since you are trying to renew your relationship with God. From your post, it seems to me you are searching for God's direction for your family, and I think this book can help you in that search. I believe it will help you know where God needs you to be and to see life is all about Him not us.
Like I said I never read TPPW. The poster who said it was mainly the author's opinion with good prayers sums up what I thought of the author's book about praying parents. To me the book seemed to indicate that if kids had praying parents nothing bad would happen to them. And, in my opinion that is malarkey. Prayer should be used to communicate with God, not to seek a guarantee that bad things will not happen.
I have to admit that I am probably too sensitive on this issue, because of things that have happened in my life and my friends' lives. I was deeply bothered by the chapter on praying for a child's health, because I had 4 close church friends, who had children experience cancer, brain tumors, and near-death accidents, in the four to six years before I read the book. Two children had recovered, but the other two will never be what they were before the tumor/accident. Because of my husband's tumor, I also had online friends that had children dying of recurrent brain tumors while I was doing this study. Since I did that study two years ago, I have watched as 2 more church friends struggled with the deaths of their daughters in separate accidents. I also watched my husband develop a new tumor, become paralyzed, and die within three months last year. So, I can't imagine how bothered I would be by her books and opinions right now.
I hope you will find the book that helps you find where God wants you to be.
LC
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Hi,
I have mainly given anonymously with gift cards or food or gifts for Christmas.
I'm sure the family's church will be glad to send the money (or gift cards) to them for you. In fact, I'm guessing they do things like this pretty regularly. I know when we have left over gift cards at angel tree time, we give them to the church financial secretary to give to who she knows needs them. Since my husband died, people want to help. We were given a check by our church at Christmastime, because someone gave money to the church for us. (You know, until now, I never even thought that it could have been from someone outside our church.) I felt guilty, since we don't truly need financial help at this time. A friend counseled me that I couldn't give it back, because word might get back to the person that was trying to be helpful. A few weeks later some friends were collecting money to give to a family in which the father had lost his new job after months of unemployment, I cashed the church's check and gave that cash for that fund.
Audrey wrote, "someone has sent us anon money orders twice. I agree, I'd like to send a thank you, but it's also much easier to accept that way, kwim? I don't worry about whether or not the giver could really afford it as much as I would otherwise."
Last year, a dear friend, who had moved to another state, sent me a generous check for me to do something for myself, because she couldn't be here to help like she wanted. I knew in reality her family couldn't afford this, so I never cashed the check. I did appreciate the gesture, and I let them know their thinking and praying for us was all the gift we needed.
If you didn't choose to give anonymously, you could give the help as being from the group. I've done that before, because in my mind the group did give it...I just happened to finance it. Of course, you would have to make the decision on whether this would make her uncomfortable being around the group.
I guess I'd vote anonymously through her church.
LC
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Susie,
I'm glad you are having your son tested. I hope you will soon have an answer to the problem , and the problem is quickly resolved.
There is no more reason to be scared now than yesterday. Testing is a good thing; knowing is a good thing.
I know I can't take away your anxiety, but if the doctor was thinking brain tumor then a CT scan and/or a MRI would be scheduled. Those are needed to diagnose brain tumors.
Praying for good news quickly.
LC
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Mary,
I'm sorry to hear about your dad. I personally think probate process is a ripoff especially in a case such as yours when there are no other heirs or complicating issues.
There is a online forum where lawyers answer questions.
http://forum.freeadvice.com/search.php?searchid=1825846 You could double check the Arkansas requirement of a lawyer on this site. There might be another one also.
If you find out you do need attorney, shop around to make sure you get the best price...unless it is a straight percentage you mentioned. When my husband died, his will left everything to me but the attorney charged a ton. We even had to have another attorney appointed to make sure I could be guardian to our kids.
LC
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So if you consider yourself a Christian and feel the bumper sticker was wrong, then how *as a Christian* would you state your case to allow abortion as a moral, protected choice?
I do understand that sometimes "the choice" to become pregnant was taken away. i still think that's a tough sentence: to execute another human because someone's choice was taken away. Two wrongs and all that.
I do no want abortion outlawed. I am not entering into a debate about abortion or even about what Christians believe or should believe. I am genuinely answering your question as to how I as a Christian can be pro-choice, pro-abortion, or whatever you would like to call it. The phrase doesn't matter to me. I do not have any scripture to back up my beliefs. I have never read the term abortion or life begins at conception in Bible.
So, there are two main "reasons/arguments" that lead me to feel as I do. They both boil down to it is an imperfect world, and that leads to imperfect/impossible choices/consequences.
I didn't know which reason to lead with until I read this statement about two wrongs and all. One reason I don't want the access to abortions more limited is I would never want a teenage girl that had been raped to have to go before a court/judge to get permission to have an abortion. Wonder if she hadn't reported the rape, how would she prove it? Wonder if the judge felt as you and that "to execute another human because someone's choice was taken away. Two wrongs and all that?" So, this judge could block this girl's access to an abortion, because he doesn't believe abortion should be legal and she was in the wrong place at the wrong time. I can't imagine the shame she would "feel" as she had to spend the remaining part of pregnancy on display to the world. To teens the world revolves around them. I'm pretty sure she would either imagine everyone that saw her was thinking either "She's pregnant! I thought she was a good Christian girl; I can't believe she ...." or "I heard she was raped, but why is she pregnant? You can get an abortion if you were raped? Maybe she wasn't really raped."
And, what would she do with the baby?
Adoption? We have some kids that are adopted. They were suppose to be adopted by other families at birth, but after birth, doctors suspected health problems the adopting families were not willing to risk. So, they went into the huge pool of children waiting for families and there they waited until we came along down the road. Also, in this pool of waiting kids are children whose genetic backgrounds included schizophrenia, brain tumors and mental retardation. There are even babies that wait, because their mothers smoke and drank during pregnancy. People are not going to waiting in line to adopt the child of a rapist.
This is my second reason for supporting the continued legalization of abortion. My husband always said, "If you aren't willing to do something about a problem, then don't complain." In my opinion, there are too many living "orphans" already that Christians are not taking care of as the Bible instructs us. So, what are we going to do with even more parentless kids? I know not all babies that were not aborted would be put up for adoption. Some would be loved by their parents that would be appalled that they had ever "not wanted" the child; others would be abused/killed by parents that never wanted them in the first place.
Again not a debate, just an explanation.
I have never had an abortion. I don't even think I know anyone who has ever had an abortion. I have never supported any group that was promoting abortion; I just won't support a group that's purpose is to make abortion illegal. My thoughts on this are just the way I have felt about abortion ever since I really knew about abortion. God has never indicated to me that I should to rethink my thoughts on this. I suspect "one day" when I have to give an accounting of my life, my thoughts on this won't even come up. If it does, knowing me and my sins, it will be way down the list of everything else that God will forgive.
LC
P.S. Back to our pregnant teen. What does the judge say to her parents if she happens to die in childbirth? While not common, it still happens.
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Michelle,
My husband's laptop has that Google toolbar also. I just typed in a letter to see what would come up. Then, I tried it a few more times with different letters. Almost all of them had searches that I know I did 10-12 months ago. There is no doubt in my mine about when those searches were done, because they would not have been necessary except in a very small window of time last winter/spring. I also checked the internet options screen, and this computer's history is to delete every 20 days also.
I would suggest typing in some letters to see if find some searches that you know you did & when.
LC
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My husband took it for nearly five years without any trouble at all.
I had night terrors from taking it. I never took it regularly, so I don't know if I would have adjusted to it at some point.
My nightmares had someone breaking into the room. I called 911 numerous times, and I freaked my husband out a few times. I never knew what was causing the nightmares until I read about melatonin/nightmares on this board. I've stopped and no more nightmares.
LC
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Janna,
Sometimes that peace doesn't come when we want it or when we think we need it. Sometimes we have to step out in faith to do what we feel is the right thing to do even if there isn't a peace.
I would suggest that you re-examine your decision/conviction one more time. Listen/look at what the other Christians are telling you to make sure God isn't speaking to you through them. Pray again for God to lead you into what you are to do. Set a deadline; it sounds like a quick deadline would be good in this case. Then make the decision about what it is you think God says you should do.
If that decision is the same as you have previously made, then it is time to have faith in God and yourself and follow through with the decision. Together you have made the decision; that is it. Do not worry/think about it any more. Every morning, turn it over to God and don't think about it anymore. If you still worry or hear from others that you should do differently, just ask God to be obvious if HE feels you have made a mistake.
When we were adopting our youngest child, we kept praying for God to let you know that we were doing the right thing and it is what He wanted us to do this. We never got that message, but we never felt that He was telling us no either. A lot of things led us to believe that God wanted us to go ahead even though God's voice wasn't as clear as it was with our first adoption. Continuing to wait wasn't an option, so we went ahead with the adoption. A few months after our son was home, we received the "sign" that yes he was meant to be our son. And, it was a strange "sign" that wouldn't have meant anything to any one else.
When we were struggling with this, a Casting Crowns song always seemed to come on the radio just when I need a gentle reminder that sometimes it is okay to step out in faith.
Here are the lines of the song. "But the waves are calling out my name And they laugh at me Reminding me of all the times I've tried before and failed The waves they keep on telling me Time and time again. "Boy, you'll never win!" "You'll never win! But the voice of truth tells me a different story The voice of truth says, "Do not be afraid!" The voice of truth says, "This is for My glory" Out of all the voices calling out to me I will choose to listen and believe the voice of truth
Praying that you receive peace sooner than later.
LC
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Molly,
I've used vrbo.org to rent vacation places numerous times and places. I just went there and put in creeper trail in the search term and it came up with a list of houses/cabins with creeper trail in their descriptions.
Have fun.
LC
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I've got a swamp tour for you. I grew up in the Honey Island Swamp, which is in Slidell across the lake from New Orleans. Paul Wagner, who was a neighbor of ours, has been giving tours for more than 20 years.
Here is a website with phone numbers
http://www.neworleansnorthshore.com/listings/moreinfo.php?ZID23=28512&page=attr&ClassID=3
Here is one with photos and a video.
Here is a website on kids and New Orleans. It is small, but it might have some info that you want to read.
Have a great trip.
LC
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Jean,
I am so sorry to hear about your son. I'm glad to hear his appointment went well, and that the follow-up appointments and tests will be happening so quickly. That will help you get back to letting him sleep.
Like everyone says, please do not be mad at yourself. You did the right thing as soon as you knew there was a problem. Even if your Mommy instinct had told you the first episode was a seizure, what could you have done? All you could have told the doctor was that Nathan woke up in the night and was groggy and that you "knew" it was seizure. That probably wouldn't have gotten you very far.
My youngest daughter had a similar seizure at age two, where she stopped breathing and turning blue. It was scary even though I had witnessed my husband have a grand mal seizure a couple of years before that. His happened while we were asleep, and it took me a long time to be able to go to sleep without worrying what might happen. With my daughter, she had another a few months later, but nothing in the nearly three years since then.
Praying for no more problems and good test results.
LC
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Thanks for sharing this good twist in the story. I pray that the addition of a three-year-old is nice and boring. I also pray that your son continues to do well on the steriods.
LC
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Kay,
Praying that the test goes well and you hear good news soon.
LC
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Mama Bear
Thanks for the hug. We have had a rough few weeks, so it felt good.
I didn't mean to sound so dramatic, and I do hope to be able to handle it all in another year or so. Right now, though it just isn't possible.
You wrote "nothing compares to not having that primary relationship to fall back on -- the one that made the punkins, provided tender care, adult interaction, emotional support, humor and more." That is so true. My husband travelled fulltime for 10 years, so I was use to being alone with the kids and handling the homefront. I do think that has helped us adjust, but it is still hard. From your comments, I guess you are going through something similar. Here is a hug for you. I hope the windshield wipers work.
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Jeanne,
I already wrote a book, but it dawned on me last night that we didn't address something from your post. You mentioned the family had been struggling financially. One thing she should do right away is to call social security for benefits for the kids. She won't need any documents when she makes that call; it is simply for setting up an appointment. The appointment can be over the phone or at the office. They will tell her or send her a letter about what documents she needs for the appointment. Our appointment was about a month after I made the call. It was over the phone. If she has been home with the kids, she should qualify for benefits also.
Also, once she knows how much money they will be getting each month, she may need help seeing if they can pay all their montly bills on this. If not, then she may need help finding a job. With such a young child, she will need to see if they money she would make would cover the daycare costs. She may want to look into providing in-home childcare or some kind of work at home. Working through all these options may be something she needs help with. I know my thought processing still isn't right; plus talking through things seems to make them clearer. I really miss having my husband to talk to about decisions even though I always made most of the decisions. Crazy right.
If she is online, there is a single parent homeschooling forum with a number of widows at homeschoolchristian.com
LC
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We got an cellular internet card/service for my husband's laptop, so he could get internet at the hospital last year. It was expensive. I think around $70+ a month.
We had Sprint. It would only work on my husband's laptop, because the "card" would only fit in that laptop, which was very new. Sprint was the only provider that had a card that would work with his laptop.
There was no limit on how much you could use it. It would sometimes just sign you out, so you had to go back and sign in. This wasnt' that big or common a problem.
LC
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Cathy,
I'm sorry. I'm praying that your son's fever and cough are not the start of the flu or pneumonia. Also, praying that the doctor/social worker visit for your little lady will be productive.
LC
I'm getting together info for my appointment regarding state services.......
in General Education Discussion Board
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Joanne,
I'm sorry that you are having to go through this at all; I'm sorry that the process itself is causing even more stress.
Does the paperwork you fill out require weekly, monthly or yearly income amounts. If it is monthly, I would suggest taking the amount he is paid as a school bus driver and divide it by 12. That way the system will process the application appropriately. He hasn't made anything from extra trips, so you don't need to worry about that on the application.
I also wouldn't factor the fireworks stand in for this year, since it is not a sure thing. Of course, it will show up from the New Year's one.
I am hoping that tomorrow goes as painlessly as possible and that the process doesn't take too much out of you.
LC