Clarita
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Going to go back and read the posts. I agree with close friend. My mom thought I didn't amount to much either. A little different because I went to public school, so she wasn't intimately involved in my education. She always just felt I wasn't very studious and she felt I had huge gaps in my education and that public school was too easy on me. All of which was true.
Her first shock was when I was accepted to college for a "difficult" major. Second shock for her came when I graduated and in 4 years. (She said I didn't think you were going to stick with it and graduate. Apparently had a reprimanding speech prepared for when I would ultimately switch majors.) I learned all of this when I was 30 and my boss at the time was talking to her about how proud he was of me and what an amazing engineer I was. She made a dismissive comment about "Oh well it's really thanks to you for giving her a chance..." She cried when my boss said "They don't give out patents as participation trophies, your daughter is smart and a hard worker. We are the ones grateful to have her." When he left she told me what she had thought this whole time of me.
All this to say I'm glad she kept her all feelings about how inadequate I was mostly to herself. Had she told me I think 1) it may have kept me from accomplishing what I did, and 2) been really hard on our relationship when someone finally told me what I could have been capable of. If the world says he is good enough for it he probably is. Honestly a lot of academic gaps can easily be filled in later. One of my big gaps is grammar, when I needed it for work and college, I got a book of all the rules and just refer to that as needed, or I have to ask for other people's help to edit. It's not like after 20 suddenly you can't learn anything new. In my experience most things aren't even harder to learn when you get older.
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2 hours ago, Catwoman said:
But he’s a practical guy, and he is also financially motivated, so marrying young was never something he was even remotely interested in doing. He has other priorities right now, and I’m so glad that he does! 🙂
Interesting financially speaking we would have been better off had my husband and I gotten married a few years earlier than we did. Having kids is a money drain for sure, but having a spouse shouldn't be a financial drain. It's funny that we usually associate having a spouse also limiting finances.
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I may have been decent at academics during my high school and college years but I was stupid in dating through college. In fact I would say when I first met my husband when I graduated from college, I was still stupid and not really ready for a seriously relationship. (I also knew he was the man of my dreams so maybe that's part of my problem.) So, I would discourage my children from getting too serious before college.
I don't think the "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" philosophy is healthy at all. I mean even the author thinks it's a bad idea after he matured for a bit. I think the only date/get romantic with someone only when you are ready to marry puts a lot of pressure on people. Especially in a society where you have to find your own mate.
In my experience having your teenage boyfriend break your teenage heart is less hurtful than a lot of other things in your life now or in the future. My heart breaks during those years braced me for the things to come.
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2 hours ago, Shelydon said:
I have a full set of stainless steel, but eggs stick like crazy, even with a large amount of oil or butter.
Sounds weird but once the pan and oil is hot enough then drop in the eggs (should hear a big sizzle when the eggs hit the pan like you are in a diner). Leave for a while before any flipping. I get impatient so I don't wait for the pan to be hot enough so I do have to wash off egg bits from the pan (never need a soak though). My husband is better about not touching them for a while so he can slide the eggs right off and the only thing to wash off the pans is the oil.
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I was going to say FURMINATOR but you said that didn't work. Just throwing things at the problem they make pet hair attachments on vacuum cleaners... I've seen the demo on a dog essentially, it's a brush that you attach to your vacuum so your vacuum sucks while you brush the animal.
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4 hours ago, SKL said:
I think one possible issue is the "need" for two-deep adult supervision. With each child following his/her individual biological clock, how is that supposed to be staffed?
One way a private school I looked at did this is a bathroom in the kindergarten classroom (2 stales and a few sinks with a divided door to the area). So, kids did not have to be escorted out of the classroom down the hall to the bathroom. I believe at that school they strategically located the first-grade classrooms close to the communal hall bathroom.
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4 hours ago, itsheresomewhere said:
So now we are wondering- would any of you on here think it wasn’t ok or would you think nothing of it?
Not OK. I would drop a dance studio over it even if I see it happen to another child/person. I would not want my child in an environment that did not support positive body image.
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2 hours ago, SKL said:
I also think we can't generalize what studies show for adults to what works for little kids.
I believe they have studied these things for adults and kids. Bladder issues are also a big issue in potty training, a significant number of kids get constipated during potty training because they are toying with holding etc. I mean there are more serious issues, but constipation is one common and not totally life-threatening issue. It can escalate to UTI's, problems holding/eliminating, etc.
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Just now, gardenmom5 said:
also known as: deglazing.
Yes, deglaze just sounds so fancy especially for stuff you may not use in your dish.
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Some other tricks to avoiding non-stick pans. Or to using stainless steel with out things sticking.
1) Use enough oil and heat. Foods don't always soak up the oil so you aren't really ingesting it unless you sit and drink the oil on the bottom of your pan.
2) Make a pan sauce after cooking. Essentially keep the pan hot and put some water/alcohol in while scraping up the frond (bits of food on the bottom of the pan). You don't have to use the "sauce" if you don't want to.
3) Don't stir your food so much. Let it sit in the heat a bit to form that cooked food crust which also prevents sticking.
Essentially the oil is your non-stick surface. Once your food like eggs are more solidified it won't as readily get stick in the small/miniscule bumpiness of your pan.
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3 hours ago, Indigo Blue said:
Your grandmother’s well-seasoned cast iron skillet, lol. I joke, but it’s really the truth. If you take care of it properly, that is. 🙃
By properly take care, it means you use it with at least a little bit of oil and don't leave acidic stuff sitting in it. Seriously easy maintenance and after a few years of routine use nothing sticks to that cast iron skillet.
The glazed cast irons are also non-stick, and can handle acidic foods.
Downside is cast iron is heavy.
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31 minutes ago, rebcoola said:
Lol I do not belong in this conversation. My routine is put leftovers in fridge. Throw away takeout containers or cardboard box food came in. Plates in sink maybe dishwasher if feeling industrious.
Years ago I learned housework is not something I'm good at and I do outsource this once a month. (Pandemic meant that I had to pause it for sometime now.) Seriously it takes my cleaning ladies (2) 3 hours to clean what would take my husband and me a weekend to do. And they do a better job than I do.
So to be clear maybe someone has cleaned my stove grates in the past 8 years but that person wasn't me and it hadn't been cleaned for at least a year when I discovered it's a thing.
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14 minutes ago, heartlikealion said:
I've never heard of those. I rent and this oven was put in when I got here, around 6 months ago. I'm not really sure what I should be using to clean the grates to be be honest.
So mine pull off completely grates and the things that goes on top of the gas outlet. I learned a few months ago I'm supposed to clean them but it's not hard actually. Literally all I do is run them under hot water in the sink and use a nylon brush on it and it's clean (enough for me anyway). Even after not cleaning it for years it didn't require elbow grease.
Once the grates and things are removed the smooth portion is pretty easy to clean. I like my Swedish dishcloth for this if there is tough stuff I use a little dish soap; otherwise just water or kitchen spray works too.
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3 hours ago, Scarlett said:
When you use a bowl to mix up ingredients, you rinse that bowl and put it straight into the dishwasher. And so on….
Oh maybe my first problem would be having an empty dishwasher to put things in in the first place. I do try to do this when there is an extended wait time for the food to be done like I mixed/prepped some stuff and they went into the oven. More often though I find there isn't much time between me finishing prepping one food item to having to take care of another food item or plating.
2 hours ago, cjzimmer1 said:Several hours later (and by later I mean anywhere from 4-6 hours later because I'm a night owl), I return to the kitchen. Load up whatever dishes fit in the dishwasher. Pile whatever is left into the sinks. If I'm not too tired, I will wipe down the counters and stove but if I'm exhausted those will wait till the morning and get wiped down while I'm waiting for my morning tea to heat up in the microwave. There is zero expectations that the kitchen will be clean before going to bed or any other time of the day. I just keep working at it as I have time around everything else. The dishwasher gets run 2-3 times a day (I cook mostly from scratch so I generate a lot of dishes and EVERYTHING gets washed in the dishwasher) and the counter gets wiped down at least that often but cleaning never correlates to a specific meal time.
This is more like what I do minus the dishes in the sink because I think that's gross, especially when people are also using the sink. The dishes stay where they are or on the counter next to the dishwasher until it can fit in the dishwasher or to wait for the dishwasher to be unloaded. Our dishwasher gets run 1-2 times a day full. Usually there is also a few bulky items that could go in the dishwasher but I just handwash them because there isn't space for it before I have to use it again.
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3 hours ago, Danae said:
?? I do this with my kids at home too. Don’t most people have their kids potty before getting into the car or putting on snowsuits or pulling out the finger paints? Learning to think ahead and go at a break instead of having to urgently go in the middle of something is an appropriate skill to be teaching at that age.
I have my kids "try" to go before leaving the house etc, but I also encourage them to listen to their bodies and not worry about what we are in the middle of to take care of their needs. I do and can hold it as an adult but I am having to unlearn this behavior as an adult because it's not good for me. I'm not going to start training it in my kids.
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16 minutes ago, Ellie said:
I clean as I cook, so by the time we finish eating, there's not much to do.
I'm super dense when it comes to cleaning. People say this a lot and I don't even know what it looks like or how it can be achieved.
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We are a no jumping on furniture family. I think it's a reasonable rule, both for the safety of the children and the furniture.
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12 hours ago, hordol said:
My kids are interested when I brought it up to them, but I am concerned we will feel really isolated. From my research, I am seeing that perhaps a more secular curriculum combined with separate bible study might be the way to go. However, my oldest son is an extrovert and will need time with other kids, possibly daily. That is the part that feels the hardest for me taking him out of school, especially since we don't have the best experience with coops.
So far (my kids are K and below) I like using secular curriculum and adding in Biblical portions (like scripture and Bible stories/reading) separately. When reading through some of the curriculum I felt a lot of Biblical stuff was wedged into the lessons anyways, which I didn't like from a religious perspective or an academic perspective. Like, I don't like story of Noah's Arc being wedged into a lesson about the number 2. I want Biblical stories and scripture to be a little more sacred/special than a silly story to illustrate the number 2. As for teaching the math itself, I want that to be more demonstrative of things they could really relate to and see in daily life.
Where we live there are a lot of extracurricular classes my kids can be a part of, or play groups (for younger kids) to be a part of that isn't tied to schooling. A nearby private school in my area also offers a hybrid (homeschool or independent study) program so that it's cheaper than full time private school, but your homeschool child(ren) can enjoy some classes in a brick and mortar or sports programs.
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Economy because it's cheap but if I had the points I would upgrade to business. I've ridden in first class before (unaccompanied minor on an international flight, so they stuck me there for 15 min), to me it didn't seem too different to me compared to business class. I did not get the first class food and I'm short so, maybe I'm missing something.
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2 hours ago, Sneezyone said:
That practical work /orientation is important, I think, as an industry professional. I’m not sure I’d mandate it but it needs to be a pathway.
I agree. People who do the technician to school to engineer, I have IMMENSE respect for and they are usually the best of the best. Seriously finishing Calculus in the 12th grade and going to a 4 year university is the easy route.
MY first company made me mainly work under the technician for a few months before gradually assigning me more designing tasks. I think interaction with the factory is also really important for engineers whose products eventually go into mass production.
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4 hours ago, Sebastian (a lady) said:
This is an article about engineering education in the US. It touches on the role of calculus as a gatekeeper course. https://issues.org/engineering-education-change-sorby-fortenberry-bertoline/
In the article, they even state a way for one to pursue engineering without having been tracked into the correct math program in 7th grade. I mean the knowledge dump has to happen at some time and 4 yr universities don't want to have a significant amount of their students taking 6+ years to graduate with a BS from their school.
In addition, my dad actually got into electrical engineering by being an apprentice then getting his bachelor's while he was working. One of my old colleagues did the same thing. They don't really have apprenticeships now but, in theory one could become a technician first then pursue a college education to become an engineer. It's a lot of work and yes tracking yourself for it in 7th grade is a lot easier. It's not an impossible plan to becoming an engineer.
Don't get me started on projects and exams being so hard. Yes it sucks when you are in college and your projects and exams are so hard. It's not character building but, when you get a job you realize your job is to solve problems. In real life there's no guarantee problems are solvable. So yea you need to learn how to fail and be OK.
I do see the problem where advance math aren't available to every student as a problem.
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12 hours ago, Forget-Me-Not said:
I didn't even realize drop-in shower basins were a thing. But oof. . . a brief Googling search does show they're expensive and it would appear ours is not a standard size so. . . probably back to tile.
This was us too. We did find a drop-in shower basin that could be custom sized but $$$$. So we went with ceramic tile, and I told the contractor as little grout as possible. He cut our matte floor tiles to 2" by 4" and tiled the shower.
Although we did do a slab porcelain marble look alike for the shower and a matching man-made quartz countertop. So maybe I'm not the most discerning.
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On 2/15/2022 at 5:42 AM, Sebastian (a lady) said:
And yet, the decision about who gets to study to become and engineer is often based in a math tracking choice made in middle school. That should not be the pivotal moment, imho.
I think the problem with that is an engineering degree often requires 190-200+ units to graduate based on the classes they have to take. Potentially you will need some calculus for your intro courses especially if you are going into a physics heavy engineering major (or at least I can only speak to physics heavy engineering major).
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On 2/14/2022 at 7:36 PM, daijobu said:
Unwritten Rules of Friendship
Ooo this looks like just the book I'm looking for, for my two little kiddos.
The Unequipped Young Adult - Homeschool Version GOOD UPDATE pg. 3
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Maybe the transcript thing can be done differently (or maybe thought about differently) so you don't have to be signing off on "high-school level" English or whatever. In public school they usually will have several levels (3) of work for English or Math. You have your AP/Honors/extra, regular, and remedial, where students can pass any of those levels and graduate high-school.
I do get the extra guilt because of the homeschooling. Reading the rest of this post you did a great job. He would probably have known less had he been a part of public school instead of educated by you.