Clarita
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5 hours ago, wilrunner said:
Eventually, I just started creating my own smaller books for the kids to fill out and put together however they wanted. There's a lot of info online.
Hopefully in a few years they'll create their own. I've seen the info online, but I jsut want some real experience because some of the stuff online is a bit elaborate or those people and their kids are more artistic than my family.
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Thank you for this post. My kids are not first time obedience kids either. Today was especially hard with my eldest.
Thanks for reminding me about all the times my kids internalized rules and no matter what anyone else is presuring them to do they stick to their guns and what they think is right.
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What you did is fine, it doesn't even matter your intent. In a normal functioning family SIL and your brother would have talked about it amoungst themselves and figured it out themselves. While some anger might have happened between them for a short time in the long term at most the feelings would be disappointment and blame put squarely on a global pandemic.
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I just discovered lapbooking. We have tried it for 3 weeks now with science (the science curriculum comes wih something) and history (I wing this one). My kids (3 and 5) really enjoy it and of course it looks nothing like the ones I see on Google. For us it's a piece of folded construction paper (I didn't want to invest too much) and my kids glue and doodle things that I plan out.
Anyways just looking for thoughts, experiences, resources on this whole notebooking/lapbooking thing.
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No changes. There is nothing to change. We'll hang out with the grandparents on Christmas because they are part of the 12 people we made a pod with since 2020. Well, we've been unable to visit my mom since 2019 and that status hasn't changed any for the past few years; the reasons have changed, but it's never been fully opened.
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2 hours ago, Pawz4me said:
We're an all adult household with two calm 15(ish) pound dogs. It's been a long time since there's been any serious launching and leaping going on around here. 😉
This is the reason I never put grippy stuff under the couch, because I like to launch into the couch too. I'm afraid with grippiness the couch would just tip over.... My kids get their launching from somewhere. The sock slide down the hallway is from my husband.
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2 hours ago, Hilltopmom said:
I don’t like sitting on a hardwood floor 🙂 I still have little kids and sit on the floor with them.
Oh also my furniture is in the middle of a big open room, not against any walls, and without an area rug, it slides all over the place.
I ended up getting a large blanket and large cushions for us to sit on the hardwood floor. Way easier to clean than any rug.
Yes, our furniture slides all over the place we just adjust them when they are too misaligned. The rug under the kids art and crafts table keeps the table from moving around. That rug is there to protect the floors, how? It's a < $50 rug, I will toss when it's too gross. It keeps the playdoh and crayon bits from gettting smooshed into my hardwood floor. The crayon bits and playdoh bits do get smooshed on it which will destroy it, but I don't care in this case. I put a tarp down before but the tarp doesn't stay put well enough to be a long term solution.
I can see wanting a rug to break up the barren hardwood. I'm just too lazy.
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1 hour ago, HomeAgain said:
The kid was in absolute tears the weekend before last. It's a big issue. He wants to drop the activity forever. I wanted him to hang on so he can have the really, really good adult next year. And the issue isn't one of those that has ambiguity. There's always video evidence available on recall 24/7 to anyone who can log in.
Drop the class. Here is my devil's advocate and many may think I'm overreacting (which may be), but I have too much personal experience and too much friend experience to ignore. If your kid thinks it's a big issue and wants to drop the activity forever follow his instincts and yours. I've heard too many experiences where a kid tells their parents I don't want to do this anymore a big issue is happening, then later everyone finds out something abusive is happening.
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19 minutes ago, Mrs Tiggywinkle said:
My kids need something normal. New house, new town, new school, missing their grandmother, parents who are mentally and physically spent…We’re going to do all of our fun stuff in the week after Christmas and call it good enough. I know my kids struggle with flexibility, and this is really hard, but this year we have to change traditions. I’m going to ask them tonight which tradition is most important to them individually and make those three traditions my top priority.
Maybe make a whole new tradition with them. That's what my mom did because my parents couldn't afford to give me presents all the time. My mom made a tradition with me when I was in middle school to go shopping after Dec. 26th. When I was young we didn't buy much, but she let me go into any store I wanted and try on whatever I wanted. When I was in my 20s then we started buying each other presents.
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No area rugs here. Except one under the kids "arts and crafts" table. For me it boils down to laziness. I don't need yet another thing to maintain. Plus we got Hickory as our flooring and it's quite striking. Of course I do cover it up with laundry and toys.
Ditto on the wait 6 months thing. I got that instruction for both the hardwood floors and some hardwood furniture that I got. With the furniture the makerr said if we accidentally left something there and had discoloration it can be fixed by just leaving that spot bare for a while.
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11 minutes ago, Carol in Cal. said:
I wasn't sure whether to believe this or not, and along came a snoo equivalent with studies that showed better and more lengthy sleep in a contraption that projected mom body sounds and responded somewhat to baby's stirring. This did not convince me to buy the contraption; rather it convinced me that the folks who advocated for co-sleeping had a point.
When my husband saw the ad for the snoo he wanted one, for himself.
I fall asleep at the drop of a hat, so it had less of an appeal to us. Plus I didn't want my kids to get used to the snoo and be disappointed with me.
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2 hours ago, sheryl said:
BUT, in my family we talk about a lot of topics. It would not be unusual for my sister and I to share budget for house (we've done that). Now, that's very personal. How much can you afford, Sheryl? Or, Sheryl, what is your budget? I do NOT take offense to that b/c my sister is trying to help us out be researching properties for sale. And, vice versa. So, in "my" extended family it's a topic of conversation to learn about cost of hospital bill.
FYI it wasn't a problem in my family either until we all realized people were making judgement calls and getting upset over the financial pieces they saw. and note the word pieces because it's always going to be pieces because they only see what the person has shared. Even if the person isn't trying to hide financial details from others in the household there are a lot of moving parts to a financial picture. After a near falling out with family members my mom and I decided to stop sharing/questioning and that this was unhealthy (even when everyone has the best of intentions).
Top it off hospital bills are the worst; if something went wrong there it may be fog for quite some time. I finally finished dealing with the hospital bills from giving birth to my 2 kids when my youngest daughter turned 3. My big mistake was to decide to put my kids on my husband's insurance instead of mine or having a fulltime job before my youngest. My immediate bill for my son's birth was in the 80k range for a non-emergency, pretty healthy baby vaginal birth. Then it was a lot of phone calls that only I could make and a lot of back and forth with hospital billing and insurance. A whole lot of waiting on bills and adjusted bills; and a lot of hospital billing people asking me why I'm so disorganized and taking so long with it (it takes them at least 3months to come back with each bill, all of which look identical to one of five types). I would not have acted appropriately if someone asked about my hospital bill.
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This is what we used last fire season. It doesn't look fancy but it works, better than any expensive filter. It comes out of the physics; this video has a great explanation. We do put the hefty filter on our central air unit, but when it gets bad this configuration is what we have to use.
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I don't know if this will be encouraging but if you don't have the capacity to seek out or get presents (I can understand it's not always convienient and you may nott have the time). I rarely got presents as a kid, while other people always felt bad for me, I never felt bad about it myself. I knew my parents loved me. They were there for me on those special occasions and on most days of my life. As I got older (somewhere in middle school and high school) I liked the fact my parents never got me presents because on special occasions I just got to have their company. They had nothing on their mind except to spend time with me.
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On 12/17/2021 at 3:23 AM, Carrie12345 said:
I’ve heard comedians from multiple backgrounds talk about the cultural differences of time, and it’s almost appealing to me. The idea of less rush-rush and more relaxed enjoyment sounds nice.
I love this. I feel like in my family when we plan a party or get together we slate the whole day for it. Yes I say lunch but we are happy if you stay for dinner. I think it's less stress all around; no one has to get all the food out, we aren't waiting for the person that ends up being super late. As the host, I like that I don't have to be a slave to the schedule; I can enjoy the company of my guests instead of looking at the clock and go "Oh it's present/dessert/dinner time!" As a guest I like being able to chip in to making the event happen, putting the food out, setting the activity out, etc.
For a long time people showing up early to events I'm hosting would offend me unless they come in and help. I learned to deal with the fact that people do that. My in-laws thought have learned not to show up early and show up 1-5 min late if they don't want to help. My MIL will show up early to help though but we discuss that ahead of time.
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This is my first year of actual school (I don't really thing preschool counts for us we weren't that intentional about it) and oldest is in K4 everyone thinks he is ridiculously smart, but who knows.
I struggled for a little bit in the early school months of figuring out a routine, what we even want/need school to look like.We've finally got to a point where we are checking the boxes.
My overall goals moving forward is I want more than just checking off the boxes. I want to be more flexible to exploration and perhaps even foster some of that exploration. I am currently reading Brave Learner and I want more of that.
The only specific subject related thing is I had plans to seriously teach my kids Chinese (fluent reading, writing, and speaking). So, I'm not doing that anymore. We had so much fun just doing our Chinese Music Class and my kids are totally learning to recognize words and stuff. The few vocabulary we know we talk about and my kids aren't shy about saying them. Could we have done more and my kids have gone further? Sure, but this feels right.
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3 hours ago, Lori D. said:
Because different students respond better to different curricula, AND because students change so much over the years, I think it's not the best idea to lay out a K-12 plan of what specific programs or resources you will use. Also, because students vary so widely in their developmental timetables, a very broad guideline of the different LA topics and when they are generally best touched on for the typical student is often more helpful. And then from year to year: research and readjust as needed for each individual student.
I'm glad you resurrected this. I'm going to save this for my reference. Such a good list.
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Both choices are great. For my kids it would be basketball hoop and extra balls, my son would need a 12 pack and my daughter would be fine with 1.
Although in preparation for warmer months for a 2 year old balance bikes will be more than well loved (either money towards or a used one, they can get pricey). My kids used them from 2 - 4 years old (at 4 they transitioned into a regular pedal bike, no training wheels necessary). Especially with twins I think the parents would appreciate.
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Wait I thought everyone's car is like this. This is a favorite in my car with my kids, along with Rockin Robin by Micheal Jackson, and Mr. Roboto by Styx. We are not good or talented singers, but if you put it together with cheesy terrible dancing it becomes a great time had by all. Except for my son who gets a little frustrated that his little sister (3.5) never sings the right lyrics.
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My first kid. LA is probably my worst subject.
Learn to read. AAR seems like a good fit so far. I just have to be sure between levels that my kids are fluent enough for the next stage. Even though I think reading can come easily to both my kids I need all the hand-holding.
Seriously after that I could easily be convinced to outsource. Spelling I suppose I could do AAS. Grammar and literature, it's a shame it isn't rocket science, because then it would be less daunting.
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I have a Californian accent. I immigrated here before first grade so I did not retain my previous accent - I don't know if my imitation of it is any good. However if I meet someone with an accent and interact with them for more than 2 hours I start to sound like them. I went to a conference where a British man was my lab partner, the next day he says to me "Are you making fun of me?!" I looked back confused and he tells me I started using a British accent and saying things like "Cheers". I had to apologize and tell him I didn't mean to. My husband has told me he can tell exactly who I hang out with at my girls events because of what I sound like when I get home.
Edit: I moved across the Pacific Ocean from China.
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With math worksheets I've skipped problems if I see that my son has already mastered the concept. I made him number cards so he has used that to complete the worksheet work and the worksheet left blank. I don't know if your math has some coloring stuff/crossing out pictures involved and for that I got some dot markers and stamps. I leave it up to him how he wants to complete the days work (written, or otherwise).
For writing practice we do HWOT, but there are a few other activities that has made his finger muscles stronger too (that don't seem handwriting related). I got him a little plastic screw and screw driver set - you can use the real thing too. I let him thread things, think making neclaces with beads), because he wouldn't do beads I let him tie knots on things (anything that require putting a string/ribbon through a small opening). I also got some stencils and sometimes he just practices with tracing a stencil and coloring it in. Some of the non-handwriting work is nice because he can focus on building up the muscle without having to do other thinking.
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Thank you everyone. I have some reccomendations from a friend (her son, same age as mine, is in therapy for ADHD stuff). I'll give them a call and see who thinks they would be a good fit.
What is SSRI @Terabith?
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I feel like some of you have experience in this so I'm asking. I'm struggling with tantrums with one of my children. I've read a lot of parenting books and implemented the suggestions which have made things better but still not good enough (hard to sustain). I've made the decision to seek professional help for this. What type of person do I pick (MFT, psychologist), what's the difference? What does professional help even look like for a little kid?
Details: DC has no trouble doing school stuff and makes friends easily. The issue is sometimes stuff sets him off and he can't leave the angry/fight feeling (we've improved this from 4 hours 1.5 years ago to 2 hours). If I were to self-diagnos I would say depression is the problem (COVID coincided with one of his super close friends moving far away).
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I need to do this if we have to utilize ours again!