Adults and children can stay asymptomatic and contagious. I'm not sure how her age plays into it.

The problem is that the law is unclear.

The law just says "regular". It doesn't say during the school year, or that high school students don't need PE every year, because HS students in public only take a year. I don't know if this guidance came from the state or not. I'm not the person to go into this with citations and make a point about state law vs local regulations. Someone else will need to tackle that. I'm not looking to invite attention to our homeschool.

Sorry, I thought this part was super clear. I guess not. I am not in the position to take this up with the state. I should note that I expect that there are people in our local homeschooling community who would argue that the school district is overstepping and that the law, that just says "regular" is being interpreted incorrectly. I think someone could make that argument, but that someone isn't me. Not this year.

A game called Zeus on the Loose has been a hit in our classroom with similar population but a little younger. We play with a hundred chart as a board, whereas the actual rules have you just remembering the numbers. The new UNO Flip is a lot of fun, and Hisss has been enjoyed as well. UNO Duo has been a dud, I do not suggest it.

Sounds like a reasonably safe plan then.

I thought about glueing it, but from my point of view, London is DS10's, and whatever he does with it is OK. I love London, and i've love to glue it together and put it up on a shelf. Some of my happiest memories of my son are of him playing with his brother, and if my youngest decided to take it apart, I'm sure I would be devastated, but I'd allow it. We do have a ton of pictures of it. We photographed each piece before each move, and we also took a lot of pictures and videos of the two boys building together. The reality is that we're all grieving really differently, and it's sort of a situation where we're all accidentally causing each other pain all the time, but there's only so much tiptoeing we can do. But while I feel that DS10 can do what he likes, I really don't want some other kid randomly playing with it, so a space with a door seems to make sense to me. DS10 can always open the door and invite friends in, and I'd allow that too. London is all set up. DS10 and i spent the morning at the house alone together, so he could arrange it just how he wants it. We are going to start sleeping here on Monday.

I thought you were in Boston. I was suggesting she join you in Boston, and you just stay at the AirBnB together and don't visit IL's for those two weeks. I like NY too, but being in NY and not being able to go anywhere but the park isn't exactly the NY experience.

Two weeks would be good enough for me, it's what we did when we added to our podd, and we had a lot of input from others. If I remember correctly and you're renting a separate house from your in laws, and no one in your family is high risk, I'd think about having her come stay at the house with you for 2 weeks, separate bedroom and bathroom and 6 foot distancing inside, and not seeing the in laws for two weeks. Have her tested during that time, and then recombine. Two weeks seems like a long time to ask someone to be isolated. We did a variation of that with the college student in our pod. When we added to the pod, we had two separate groups of people who combined for two weeks, and then joined the larger pod.

I hope you are traveling safely, still thinking of you.

Yeah, it's not ideal, but I need to bring in income, and there's a pandemic, so we'll muddle through. I think we're going to skip writing for him for a while. We knew that this year was going to be pretty disrupted so we homeschooled English throughout the summer. DS10 finished Treasured Conversations, and the fiction unit from The Creative Writer 1. If we get other things running smoothly, then maybe I'll add something in the spring, or I'll wait and add something in the summer. My youngest two got lego mindstorm kits for Christmas last year, when they were 9 and 10. I didn't buy them, but I know they were expensive. To be honest, I can't tell you much about it, because I haven't been really involved in homeschooling him since his brother went back to the hospital in May. I know he likes it, and he spends time with it, and shows me cool stuff he makes. Sorry, that is probably completely unhelpful. I posted a thread about what lego robotics stuff to get, but it would have been deleted when I left and came back. There was a lot of expertise.

I am glad you have a plan that takes you a step closer to home. I hope your little guy is feeling more comfortable and less scared.

Are my kids the only ones who play legos on the floor? They do lego robots at a table, but regular legos involve sprawling on the floor.

I'm sure things will change, the first six weeks have certainly been a roller coaster of emotionss. I just need a plan for this weekend. I think my kids will do better if things are put away and they're walking into a house that's got some sense of order.

Yeah, he definitely needs it. If it's in DS's room, he can open the doors and spread out into the living room in his play if he wants, and have company. That's part of why I don't want it up in his bedroom. I think he does need to play with it, and he shouldn't have to isolate himself to do that. He's always been my super social kid, who would prefer to be underfoot, so to speak, and if anything right now he's more needy of other people.

The medical stuff all went to the other house with us. A lot of it was rented, and has been picked up, and we donated a lot. There's a local equipment closet that came through for us when we needed a chair that could accommodate the vent to get us home from the hospital, so knowing where to donate stuff back was easy.

The play room is in the space between the living room and the kitchen. You need to walk through it to get from the front door to the kitchen or the bathroom or the back yard, so there's no way to make that space private. DS's room, isn't in the traffic flow. It's literally like 1/3 of the living room. If the doors are open, it feels like a part of the the living room, but it can also be closed off visually, if that makes sense. Although the living room is much more pleasant with the doors open, because most of the windows are there. I think I'm imagining it as mostly open, but closed off the kids want it, or something. Right now, the only people in our house are family, and I think I can tell the cousins it's off limits unless one of us is in there with them. To me, that's a much easier limit to follow than expecting them to remember which exact legos they can touch in a room that they're playing in. I'm going to go over and spend some time there by myself tomorrow, maybe that will give me more clarity. I've been there, but not since they moved out. At this point, I'm leaning towards bringing down a futon couch we have upstairs, and hanging some of the pictures from his room back up, and adding the legos and then waiting to see what else we decide to do.

How old is he? T The answer to this depends on which state you're in. According to federal law, it shouldn't, but in some places it does. In general though, I would say that services under SLI and SLD can be very similar, especially if they're considering phonological processing as part of the SLI.

Eventually, I assume we'll sort through his clothing and decide what to do with it. I've thought about whether we might want to make a t-shirt quilt, for example. But that can wait. He loved home made stuffed animals, so we have a collection of those. We buried a few with him, but we've still got a bunch.

I don't think I can do a "lego room" because there are two sets of legos to be kept separate. One is the lego creations that my two youngest kids made together. We have a whole bunch of Harry Potter legos, and a whole city they designed themselves which they call "London". They have been at my FIL's, because we moved them with us, and when we've been there since my son's death, my youngest plays with them a fair amount. He doesn't take them apart, but he rearranges the figures, or drives the Knight bus around, etc . . . I think it's been an important part of how he processes all this. At the same time, while he wants to play with them, he is also very uncomfortable with the idea of other kids touching them. When he heard that we were playing musical houses, and his cousins were going to Grandpa's, one of his first questions was whether they'd play with the legos. Maybe one day that will change and he'll want to do something else with them, but right now, I think they need to be accessible to him, but also in a space we can sort of walk away from. Right now they're in the middle of the common space of the house, where one would expect to walk, so clearly before we move in, they need to go somewhere else. And then we have a ton of other legos. Star wars legos, and super hero legos, and lego robots, that get played with normally and taken apart and rebuilt etc . . . . My guess is that those legos will return to and stay in the playroom where they were before we moved. But I don't think it's reasonable to expect that the two sets of legos will be in the same space, and that visiting kids will keep straight which legos they are allowed to touch, so I think having them in different rooms makes sense.

I think anything we do is going to be painful, and I fully expect that everyone's feelings will change. But I also don't think having a glaring empty space in the center of the house is going to work. Like how it is now, with part of the living room having pictures and furniture, and part empty with just an empty dresser, pretty much screams that something is missing. Plus when we were at my FIL (we're staying with my SIL for a little while) my youngest has clearly wanted to play with the legos, so getting them out of the boxes seems like a priority. Sorry, I'm not really arguing or disagreeing. Just thinking out loud.

I think the problem is that there has to be a decision, because of the move. Even if we decide to leave the room bare, and put his stuff in boxes, that's still a decision. Does that make sense? I think if his room was still set up as his room, we'd just leave it that way, and deal with it much later, but it's just got one dresser and is otherwise empty.

I think I'd go and see what he's like in person. It seems like he thinks you might be worried you'll turn him down, and he's nervous so he's trying to protect himself by telling you the downsides of the position. He could be an a-hole, or he could be a nice guy with not fantastic business skills. I think that in person will tell you more.

We are moving back to the house we own this weekend, and I'd like to figure out what to do with the space that used to be my middle son's bedroom. The room is basically 1/3 of the living room, that we closed off with a pair of barn style doors. I think we're going to put all the legos that my two youngest kids built together in there, so that my youngest can have access and play with them when he wants, but also can close them off if other kids are in the house (post-covid), so there's not temptation for them to take them apart. Other than that I'm not sure. I know that many people leave a child or other loved one's room as is, but right now, all his things are at my FIL's house where we were staying when he died. I want his things to come home with us, but of course that means I need to put them somewhere. Anyway, I'd love thoughts on what to do and what other people have done.

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