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  1. We adopted a child who was 4. He didn't want to be carried a lot--he was just too curious about looking around and exploring this huge wide world that had been mostly unseen! He was also enjoying his independence, and didn't want to be regressed in public, I think. However, quite a few years later, he still sometimes mentions a rocking chair we had at the time, and drinking warm, sweetened milk (I know, terrible for the teeth--but great for bonding ;) ) while I sang to him. At the time, I didn't realize it was making such a deep impression, but it obviously made him feel safe and loved.

    😊 We did the milk and singing in the rocking chair as well. And the teeth issue occurred to me, but I figured it was worth the risk. And as far as the singing, sometimes he told me to stop!! Ha! I'm not the best singer and he wasn't the first of my children to tell me to be quiet. ðŸ˜

  2. Lord Grantham will be called Donk by all the children and the Dowager. ðŸ˜

     

    Edith will go to the U.S. accompanied by Tom, but not romantically.

     

    Thomas will finally be caught in one of his schemes AND face the consequences. He will have set up Carson and Mary will initially fall for it. Later she will cry when she realizes the truth. Or he will frame a known criminal for the murder of the rapist.

     

    Cora will stop her diplomatic, simpering speech in public situations and begin to dispense useful wisdom.

     

    Rose will become the darling socialite and philanthropist of London.

     

    Lastly, Lord Granthm will get another dog and name it Donk in an effort to transfer the name. He will fail.

  3. Well, I am seeing a,similar situation from the other side. Our siblings have mostly stayed in our hometown area. The ones who struggle financially refuse to move in order to make more money. It is a constant stress and i have seen the wives working multiple part time jobs along with the husband's full time just to live a modest life style.

  4. (((Jvander)))

     

    I'm sorry. My DD went from the girls department to misses. We skipped over Juniors entirely, especially at Kohl's.

     

    She hated jeans, which was a good thing because it was really difficult to find jeans for a smaller curvy girl. Our best bets were pull on pants, pull on skirts and casual T-shirts.

     

    I've found that the worst is over after the first couple years. Her growth stopped by about 14 and by then she knew what she liked and was comfortable with.

    You know, my daughter hated jeans for a long time as well. She liked those little girl pull on pants until they got too tight really fast! We found her some jeans at Old Navy, but she kept looking at me with big eyes when she would pull try a pair on and they were skin tight on her legs. (And way too big around the waist.)

  5. I don't know if this would help her feel a bit better, or not...but this is my dd at the ripe old age of 12, with me. She was wearing heels, but yes, she is tall. I'm 5'7.5". She felt like a giant when she was that age. Now that her peers are finally hitting puberty, she says she doesn't feel that way any more. She is still tall, but not the TALLEST of every kid she knows.

     

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    That is a very nice picture of you both. So pretty! Thanks for sharing it.

  6. Lovinmomma, that is so frustrating. Your ex needs to use his brain! My dad used to call me Thunder Thighs. The funny thing is, I was quite slim. And he's a great father, just not thinking.

     

    It sounds like our girls are similar. Growing up can be so hard!

     

    Thanks to all for the continued advice and recommendations. I'm not sure where to go for a bra fitting around here, but I will look into it. She's been wearing athletic bras because the training bras were too small.

  7. Thank you, thank you! I appreciate each reply and the links. We will head right to petites next time. We did find jeans for her at Old Navy, so that was wonderful. I'll check into all the other recommendations as well.

     

    The replies about body image are also helpful. I'm going to look up those gymnasts and show her that they are built like her. I wonder if I can find a young equestrian built like that. It might encourage her as she starts lessons.

  8. I've been thinking about asking for advice and links for a while. Yesterday pushed me over the edge. My 10 yr old daughter has developed very early. (Could be because of FAS) Her chest is not just growing, it is quite large. Also, she no longer has a little girl figure because of puberty. She is totally a little girl in tastes, though. Also, she is muscular. She always has been solid and strong.

     

    Yesterday she was trying on a medium sized shirt in the junior department at Kohl's. The arms were too tight, She got mad and told me she hates how her body is and haven't I noticed she looks different than all the other girls? Poor baby. She is beautiful, just striking and people mention that. I think she knows, but that doesn't change the fact that she is so different than the other girls her age. I told her she always has had muscles and it is good to be strong, but she does not care at this point.

    So, I would love advice on what to say to help her. Also, can you think of some female athletes or stars who are stocky because of muscle? Lastly, please point me to any source of clothing that could properly fit a chesty 10 year old who just wants to be a little girl.

    PS. Her pediatrician mentioned concerns about wieght gain in front of her a few months ago. It was in reference to some medication she is on that increases appetite. Yeah, I was ticked. However, her therapist asked about her eating habits last week and mentioned that she was a good size and didn't think she looked overweight at all.

    She is overweight by the charts, but nobody would guess that looking at her. She just looks like the size of an average 15 yr old.

  9. That is ridiculous. Your mom should have more concern about your work load than his right now! I do understand, though. We have a similar dynamic with adult siblings.

     

    I wonder how your brother would feel about his laundry hanging out in your germ infested laundry room? Might be something to mention to him. I mean, I know it all comes out clean in the end, but what if a piece of his falls from the dryer to the floor? Are you expected to have disinfected the floor before you've even had time to wash all the clothes? What does your mom think about him catching this virus from his clothes being exposed to the infected air? 😉

  10. Yes, I would give him up. If he is not attached to the dog, but thinks it is his responsibility, maybe he will see the benefit in looking at other breeds that match his situation better. I think she should just be frank with him and let him know that his dog could save her life.

  11. In that case, I wouldn't try to satisfy it myself. I'd encourage him to help learn what I needed and suggest we work on it together since its an integral part of our marriage. If he were unwilling to try then I would insist on marital counseling to get to the root cause of why he isn't putting the effort he needs to in the marriage to make it a healthy one.

    I think this is unfair. A man or woman can be willing, but not wired to express love that way. A husband might feel loved through words of affirmation, but his wife (whom he chose) has always been very quiet and rarely verbally affirms anyone because it doesn't occur to her to do so. She loves her husband and does her best to show it. Perhaps he has even told her about his need for those words, but she can't figure out what she is supposed to say or when. She thinks about it and tries to make the words come out, but is tongue tied. She is a deep thinker about problems, but not people. Does she need marriage counseling or does he need to mature and understand she is incapable of showing love in that way? Intellectually he knows she loves him because of all she does for him and her extreme loyalty for him.

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