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Hi,
My almost 17yo daughter is interested in becoming a child life specialist. I would like her to read several books this fall about the field of pediatrics. Biographies, compilations of children's stories, and even textbooks would be helpful. So far I have found "No Small Miracles", "Gifted Hands", and "Getting it Right for Children". Any suggestions?
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I think the web add. is Mollypiper.com. On the righthand side she has a bunch of posts under the heading, "How to help your grieving friend". She might have even more good suggestions than you are getting here and you could share her blog with others from your church.
I'm pretty sure Molly was full-term when they lost their daughter. It's just heartbreaking.
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I bet she was very serious.
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I remember you writing about him before and he sounded like a really great boy. I will pray for you all.
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I bet your children will remember that for the rest of their lives.
As an aside, I am a longtime lurker(hate that word) and am wondering if you changed your name on purpose. I keep thinking, "Shouldn't it be Sarah BC?"
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Are you the adoptive parent? Are you doing a private adoption through an agency or an attorney? The reason I ask is that lawyers advise you to follow the law and agencies often go beyond that in order to respect the rights of all parties.
In general it is not a good idea to send anything of worth to a birth parent. It could be seen as bribery or payment. At the very least it could be seen as coercion. A letter would be fine.
We adopted privately using agencies twice, but only in-state. We took the birth moms out for a meal, but didn't give gifts. The agency handled giving them what they needed. That way the ethics of the situation are clear. It is hard as an adoptive parent, because you care about the birth parent and want to express that.
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Is this dealer offering it at $3000 more than the listed retail value? Wow, something is off there. Make sure you look at all three categories of pricing on Kelly and go from there.
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I just wrote a huge post telling you how we just did this and it is gone! ARGH.
Okay, long story short. Use Kelly Blue Book online. Find out the trade-in value of the car you want and be willing to offer $500 to $1000 over that. You may have to shop around. But the thing is, you can probably afford a much newer, nicer car than you would think than by looking at the prices on a dealer's lot.
If the dealer paid someone $4,000 trade-in for a car and is offering it for $6,900, you can easily offer $5,000 or less for it- taxes and all costs included. Always tell them your offer includes all costs. They can soak you with those extra costs. Anyway, you just have to be willing to walk away. We have walked away twice after a dealer saying they could go no lower for us. Both times they contacted us and offered the car for our price. Do not sit down in an office with them and let them haggle it out with you. Tell them the price you are willing to pay and do not waver.
By looking at Kelly Blue book value for the car at trade-in, private party, and retail value, you can get a good idea of its actual worth. That way you can give a fair offer and walk away with confidence. Just leave your e-mail or phone number, but do walk away. When you are offering much less than the asking they don't usually go down that far for you right away. Go on your way and look at similar vans at other dealers. Make more low offers on solid vehicles and wait. Someone will bite and you will spend much less.
I agree that a Carfax report is a must. We got one on the van we just bought and it gave us confidence in the car looking at that maintenance record. They took much better care of it than we ever would! We also spent money to have a mechanic look at it and the dealer was aware we were doing that.
Using Kelly Blue Book online and Carfax we got a wonderful van for about $3000 less than Kelly Blue Book said it was worth at retail value.
Good luck.
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Thank you very much. I've added many that you all have suggested to my favorites. The one I was thinking of cost a small fee per student and I thought it was a drill type program that helped students solidify the basics of algebra. My son is going into Algebra 1 with a tutor once a week and I think this would help him get ready in the next few weeks and help him maintain his knowledge.
Thanks again.
Jvander
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I am sure I read about an online service for algebra practice, but I cannot find that post. Maybe I am searching the wrong threads, but if anyone knows what this was, I would appreciate the info. Thank you.
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I heard the opposite. And I wasn't overweight.
We were advised by doctors to stop having biological children because I was unable to give birth naturally due to having large babies. And when the doctors went in surgically to get my son whose head was stuck (very scary,horrible situation) in the birth canal, they found quite a mess from my first c-section. So they said no more c-sections.
We talked to our mid wife, prayed about it, and ordered the surgery report. After reading the details of my condition it was clear that we had to stop having children. (We even wonder if the condition of my uterus was the cause of a miscarriage I had.)
Anyway, after relaying this information to one of my friends she told me I should just be careful about what I ate while pregnant. Then the baby would be small enough and I could give birth naturally! O... KAY! :glare:
This was very sweet, good friend. People just want to provide answers and solve the problem. Life is not so simple.
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I tried to edit my other post, but was unsuccessful. The little girl I mentioned has been matched with a family.
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have almost finished our home study for an Ethiopian adoption. We live in a small city that is a mix of ethnicities, but predominately white.
I highly recommend the book, "In Their Own Voices". Adult AA adoptees are interviewed about their experiences in white families. Some are from areas as you described yours. The book should give you a good idea of what the issues are for these children. Do keep in mind that the people interviewed were adopted mostly around the late 60's and early 70's. Some factors are different now, but overall the concerns would be the same. It was encouraging for me.
As far as special needs, you might want to check out the site Positively Orphaned to see what the true concerns of raising an HIV+ child are. Also, the mom at Fullhousehandshearts.typepad.com posted about a little girl in China that is waiting and is HIV+. I'll tell you how to find that post if I find it again.
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People reacted very positively to that. She still did the basics, but we let her explore interests like house design and candle making. I don't think we got any negative reactions and she is doing very well now academically and socially.
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I have two covers, so I will always have one available. :001_smile: Anyway, I fill a bucket with the cleaning solution (Mr. Clean or vinegar) and water. Then I dip the cloth in, wring it out a bit, put it on the mop(it has elastic edges, so it is easy-on and easy-off) and get started. As soon as it starts to slow down because it is collecting dirt or grime, I take it off, rinse it in the bucket and then put it back on. I do the bad spots and corners by hand, but not every time.
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But it was true. It was one of the worst days of my young life. Our friend/classmate that died was loved by all and the grief was immediate and very real. What a painful time. I cannot fathom putting someone else through what we went through that day.
Our school staff was sensitive and handled it so well, even while they grieved.
The administration that approved the scare tactics of this stunt ought to be fired. No matter how jaded they believe the students to be, they are human beings, with real feelings. And they love their friends deeply.
This just makes me sick.
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We have two adopted children. They are both African American and people are always asking if they are brother and sister. You know, real siblings. :rolleyes: Drives me nuts! I have the exact same feelings as you. Gee, people, thanks a lot for planting doubts in their heads! :glare:
I don't mind the interest, but not in front of my children. Think, people, think! If I can't answer what they are really asking without the kids hearing, I just say yes. Because they are brother and sister.
Of course my adopted kids make assumptions as well. One night my son, at 5yrs old, asked our bio daughter (13yrs old) who her birth mom was. She pointed to me and he laughed and said, "No, that's your mom, who is your birthmom?":lol:
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Yes, that is what she wants to be, a Child Life Specialist. There are few universities that actually offer a degree in the field, so we plan to speak with the local Child Life Specialties supervisor to get some recommendations.
I was hoping that along with that information she might read some books that would give her a good picture of what it is like to work with children who are ill in a hospital setting. She is gifted with a love for children and an ability to relate to them on their level. She is also calm in the midst of stressful situations. I really think she would be a blessing to children and their families.
The child development book is a really great idea. She would enjoy reading that. She likes to check on her siblings' development and report their progress to me!