Tabrett Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 All my dc and my dh fell asleep from 4:30-6:30. My only dc who takes a nap is my 1yo. All my dc have dropped their afternoon naps at 2yo. My house was so peaceful. I felt like I had taken a nap. If my dc could only realize how much I crave quiet and how much better a mom I would be if they would just be a little calmer and quieter. I think noise is one of my "triggers". Any suggestion on how to get a 1yo, 3yo and a very active 5yo to be more calm, quiet, not ask so many question and not fight?:001_huh: I imagine dc sitting on the floor playing nicely with toys, but IRL it is mostly screaming, running around in circles and jumping up and down. Right now the peace is gone. They are running with their stuffed animals making the animals sound very loudly.:glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The Governess Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 I have noticed with my girls that if I put on some (calm) music that they like or an audio book while they are playing/coloring that they are much quieter and that they don't fight as much. Have you tried that? :grouphug: I'm glad that you got some quiet in today, at least!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 "Quiet time" If they don't want to take a nap, then they play quietly in their rooms. If they get noisy, they have to stay on their beds, if they stay noisy, they lose their toys and it's 'nap' time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Mommyof4ks Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 "Quiet time" If they don't want to take a nap, then they play quietly in their rooms. If they get noisy, they have to stay on their beds, if they stay noisy, they lose their toys and it's 'nap' time. Everyday we have 30 mins to 1 hour of quiet time so Mommy does not lose her sanity. :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lovedtodeath Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 Well, you have to wear them out first. Make sure that they get plenty of outdoor play, or some continuous aerobic exercise indoors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 (edited) I just don't tolerate a lot of yelling and running around--the place for that is outside. ITA lovedtodeath--wear them out a bit (but not too much--overtired is overwired!). I think a lot of it is expectations. Just like I wouldn't allow dumping toys or throwing things, I don't allow rude and obnoxious behaviour. Not saying it's quiet all the time around here (well, it is, but I mean when family with noisy kids are around), but there's a time and a place for the level of noise you are talking about. I have a friend who just won't say NO and Time to Be Quiet! at her house, and she always has a headache and is harried. It's a boundary issue, I think. Another thing that helps is "Divide and Conquer." Do you have space to put one or two in a separate place for a while? Make a quiet time in your day. It doesn't have to be total isolation, but the olders could probably handle a book on cd or tape alone, and the youngest will nap, right? Give them a snack and send them off for 20 minutes at first, then go to 30, then...and so on. A good hour of quiet works wonders. As long as you don't expect quiet and calm ALL the time, you can train your kids to respect your boundary and needs. IMO. Edited February 9, 2009 by Chris in VA Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lionfamily1999 Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 Well, you have to wear them out first. Make sure that they get plenty of outdoor play, or some continuous aerobic exercise indoors. My youngest ds has the opposite reaction to activity that dd and older ds have. The harder we play, the more energy he has, the less he wants to sit, be quiet, or rest. Lol, mil thought she'd show me how easy it is to get him to sit still... she had him climbing the walls in no time ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WTMindy Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 Room time!!! I started this when they were babies/toddlers in their cribs. I would set a timer and put them in their rooms with toys and books. Even when they outgrew naps, they continued to have room time. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tree House Academy Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 When naps stopped around here, I instituted "quiet time." At that time, both kids went to their rooms and played quietly alone. If they fell asleep, great. If not, they could play QUIETLY with toys and my oldest could read or play quietly...just not with nintendo games. It worked well. Now my older son is 9.5 and my younger is 5.5. While I do not make them do quiet time anymore on a daily basis, I do often keep that in my arsenal should things get out of hand. I often separate them when they are fighting too much or screaming too much. I think THEY need that time apart as much as I need for them to have it. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tutor Posted February 9, 2009 Share Posted February 9, 2009 We have a one hour Quiet Time every day (1.5 hours on Sunday). It is so nice, and as you observed, even if I don't nap I feel rested because of all the quiet. My 5yo and 12yo usually nap, but my 8yo and 10yo usually just read. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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