FaithManor Posted June 5, 2017 Author Share Posted June 5, 2017 I know Faith has mentioned this before, but I'm still astounded that there is a location where a grieving family is expected to cater a meal. That's just wrong. Hold a funeral, say goodbye, then go your separate ways. If you are close to the family drop by wherever the family is gathering with a covered dish. Help where you can, then skedaddle if you're not directly tending to a member of the grieving family. It's always been my experience that the grieving family receives more food than they can handle and they have enough to feed themselves and to offer to any visitors over the next few days. Once a friend had a death and had to leave town. We asked how we could help. Her house was a mess, the funeral was out of town, and some relatives were coming back to stay with her. She allowed a team of 4 or 5 of us went in and had her company-ready in less than two hours. Another time we set up an online meal delivery rotation so she wouldn't have too much food at once. If I just lost someone I'm not going to CARE how people get fed. That's nuts. I need to be clear though. In our case because we are in a county that does not require the church kitchen to be licensed, we did not pay a caterer. We paid for all of the supplies except for desserts, the church ladies cooked the food, baked the cakes, and put it all out. We also did not have to clean up. But even without paying the labor and profit for a licensed caterer, the expense of all the food since the funeral was huge was a lot of money mom did not really have to spend. The running theme for the entire funeral! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted June 6, 2017 Share Posted June 6, 2017 I need to be clear though. In our case because we are in a county that does not require the church kitchen to be licensed, we did not pay a caterer. We paid for all of the supplies except for desserts, the church ladies cooked the food, baked the cakes, and put it all out. We also did not have to clean up. But even without paying the labor and profit for a licensed caterer, the expense of all the food since the funeral was huge was a lot of money mom did not really have to spend. The running theme for the entire funeral! I understood that, but for some reason it really annoys me that the bereaved are providing a meal at all. That's just backwards and until you told us I had no idea that it worked like that anywhere. I've lived all over the country and it's always been . . . someone dies, you bring food. I thought it was a common, national tradition. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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