GoVanGogh Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 There is absolutely cases of neglect out there. THose people are generally not the ones out looking for help and seeking assessments. Exactly. In our case, I was thinking - Do you really think I didn't take my child to a doctor for 10+ years, then suddenly decided one day to take him to a neurologist? (And, as a friend pointed out, even if I had just walked out of a cave with my child and was requesting help - why would the doctor decide to charge us with negligence instead of first trying to help us out?) The illogical thing with this doctor - and I tried to point it out to her and was escorted to the door - how could a child who has never seen a doctor have had multiple surgeries? (She knew about the surgeries and was using them as the basis of her dx.) I love a good DIY project, but I really can't take credit for my son's wonderful hernia surgery with a whisper thin scar, you know?! :lol: The point is - she didn't have a leg to stand on, she knew it, yet she still charged us with negligence. They tried to jump on that my youngest was no vaxed, until the public health nurse jumped up on my defense because my other kids were and the CDC said not to vax dd at that time due to severe reaction to her 2 month shots, and that the decision was made medically sound not just willy nilly thing (though they should have never tried that route at all, plenty of people do not vax and it is not neglect). The vax issue is especially troublesome, as so many special needs kids and premature babies have issues with vaccines. In our son's case, he needed to be vaccinated monthly against RSV so doctors decided to push out all other shots way out. Then he reacted to some and was unable to have others due to egg allergies. His shot record is a hot mess. When I was looking back over his medical records, I was shocked how many times "mother declined vax" was written on his charts, like it was my decision not to vaccinate. Ex: He was due for shots at his last well-child exam, but the doctor told me to come back later this summer as DS had recently been dx with asthma and was on new several medications for that. He didn't get vax at the well-child visit right after his hernia surgery, either, as they wanted him to come back. In that case, they recorded that he was vax two months later, but they still recorded "mother declined vax" on the chart for well-child visit. :confused1: Just reading DS's medical charts, you would assume we don't vax. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thescrappyhomeschooler Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 When my son was evaluated for an IEP after we had already pulled him from school, they did want to observe him in his learning environment, so they did make a home visit. They stayed for about an hour. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teeniebeenie6 Posted June 17, 2013 Share Posted June 17, 2013 Encouraging people to refuse the help they need for their children because of your own paranoia about public school employees is repulsive. Sorry. And I've gone through life trusting people until they give me a good reason not to. It's worked out pretty well so far. I've had quite a few "officials" in my home- everyone from public health nurses to school therapists- and never had a peep from CPS. No one encouraged people to refuse help. Your hateful responses repulse me! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergath Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 No one encouraged people to refuse help. Your hateful responses repulse me! No, they just implore people to refuse to let any kind of official into the home, ever, no matter what. Or to at least obtain legal counsel beforehand. Because apparently, any public official is going to instantly call CPS the second they set foot in someone's house. :rolleyes: Out of all the people posting here, there's one person who had to deal with an unwarranted CPS investigation. And how many dozens more have had multiple officials in and out on various occasions with no problems? It's stuff like this that makes the rest of the country think all of us homeschoolers are radical libertarians, clutching our tinfoil hats as we run to our underground bunkers every time the mailman stops by. But if you have something to hide, by all means, slam your door in the face of any public official who stops. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WishboneDawn Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 No, they just implore people to refuse to let any kind of official into the home, ever, no matter what. Or to at least obtain legal counsel beforehand. Because apparently, any public official is going to instantly call CPS the second they set foot in someone's house. :rolleyes: Out of all the people posting here, there's one person who had to deal with an unwarranted CPS investigation. And how many dozens more have had multiple officials in and out on various occasions with no problems? It's stuff like this that makes the rest of the country think all of us homeschoolers are radical libertarians, clutching our tinfoil hats as we run to our underground bunkers every time the mailman stops by. But if you have something to hide, by all means, slam your door in the face of any public official who stops. Honestly, I'm not concerned with what the rest of the country thinks. I'm just tired of these threads that turn into shouting matches. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
redsquirrel Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 My son has been receiving services since he was 16 months old. At first it was through Early Intervention and all evaluations and therapies were done in my home. It was great. I really liked the therapists. Once he was old enough to be enrolled in Kindergarten I had to take him to the school for all services. It's not a big deal because the school is around the corner from my house. According to NY educational law, every three years my son must be evaluated by a school psychologist for learning disabilities, etc. The school psychologist has always come to my house for the evaluation instead of making me bring him to the school. I see this as a favour that she is doing for us. She is allowing him to be tested in the educational setting he is most used to. He is comfortable at home, and she gets to see him in his 'school setting'. She has always been very helpful and has been a great advocate for my son. She was able to go to the IEP meeting and say that she had seen him have trouble physically navigating the house, he fell out of his chair during testing etc. I wouldn't think twice about an educational eval at home. It isn't unusual and it can be much easier for the child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
beaners Posted June 18, 2013 Share Posted June 18, 2013 No, they just implore people to refuse to let any kind of official into the home, ever, no matter what. Or to at least obtain legal counsel beforehand. Because apparently, any public official is going to instantly call CPS the second they set foot in someone's house. :rolleyes: Out of all the people posting here, there's one person who had to deal with an unwarranted CPS investigation. And how many dozens more have had multiple officials in and out on various occasions with no problems? It's stuff like this that makes the rest of the country think all of us homeschoolers are radical libertarians, clutching our tinfoil hats as we run to our underground bunkers every time the mailman stops by. But if you have something to hide, by all means, slam your door in the face of any public official who stops. Heck, I am a radical libertarian and I still invited the people into my home! Not that everyone has to of course. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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