Slipper Posted February 9, 2012 Share Posted February 9, 2012 I have three daughters, but for the purpose of this discussion, only focusing on two - DD10 and DD7 (just turned 7). DD10 was identified as gifted through PS. As a general rule, DD10 succeeds at just about everything she does. I'm proud of her, but I find myself down-playing a bit her accomplishments because there are a lot of them. Even her PS teacher is in awe of her and has told me numerous times that she has never taught a child like DD10. (DD10 also has Celiac Disease which leads to follow up comments about how amazing it is that she can accomplish so much in spite of having a disease.) The students in her class look to her to solve disputes and follow her lead/suggestions for academics. Meanwhile, DD7 finds herself in the shadows quite a bit. They are both in Children's Theatre - DD7 was with a group of kids, DD10 had a part. They both took karate, DD7 dropped out when DD10 passed her yellow belt. They both love soccer but are on separate teams. DD10 has a lot of certificates, trophies, ribbons, etc. DD7 doesn't have as many simply because she isn't as old. To make matters worse, my sister asked if I would let DD10 come live with her and go to a school for gifted kids (and of course I said no but DD7 heard many of the conversations). (My sister is in awe of DD10). I want ideas on how to help DD7 be her own person. At this point, she doesn't want to try any new activities. The shame of it is that DD7 is very bright and would probably be identified as gifted herself if she were attending PS. We live in a small community and extra-curriculars are not easy to come by. Should I force her into some new activities (without DD10) and see if that helps? If I ask what she is interested in, she will give me things, but then change her mind a week later. She loved karate until DD10 joined and passed her. Academically, she is on target or a bit ahead - she just finished The Adventures of Tom Sawyer and loves reading. We're working on double digit addition/subtraction and are about to introduce carrying/borrowing. She enjoys her other subjects and is easy to work with. She's a great person in her own way, but people don't seem to notice her because they are too busy staring at DD10. Suggestions? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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