Giraffe Posted January 14, 2011 Share Posted January 14, 2011 Since y'all were so helpful with my meal plan question, I'll go ahead and drop the sleep one on you and see what the Hive can do: I love my DD. She's spirited, funny, perceptive, and sensitive. She's always been a tough child to get to sleep. As a baby I had to rock her to sleep and not put her down until she was fully out. No putting her down sleepy to drift off on her own. No way, no how. Cry it out didnâ€™t work, only made things worse. Before she was 18 months she gave up naps unless I held her the entire time. She would wake up if I set her down. Every. Single. Time. (I watched a lot of TV during that time since I couldn't hold a book and her!) She gave them up completely before she was two. She has always slept better if I was in the room. As a newborn she wasnâ€™t content to just be next to me in her bassinet â€“ she wanted to be in the bed. When she was a little older (still less than a year old), there was a twin mattress in her room and often I would end up sleeping in there because she was frantic and crying without me there. Now she's three. She still wants someone in her room until she's asleep, which I don't mind. I figure eventually she'll grow out of it. But in the night she wakes up and if I'm not in there, she panics. She doesn't want DH, she wants me. She says "Watch me sleep. I'm scared." Sometimes sheâ€™s calm, but usually sheâ€™s crying. Iâ€™m bleary-eyed, half asleep myself, and not coherent. For months I slept in a chair in her room. Now I've set up another mattress in her room specifically for me. I'll put her to sleep, leave to sleep a few hours in my own bed, and then return when she wakes. Not if, when. She wakes anywhere between one and six times a night. If Iâ€™m there, she just lies back down and goes back to sleep. If Iâ€™m not â€“ crying, sometimes screaming, and coming to get me. I donâ€™t know if this is relevant or not, but this is our fourth residence since she was born. We started on the west coast, moved overseas, moved back to the east coast, and now live in Texas. Sheâ€™s never seemed to have an issue with the moves (the first was when she was a whopping 3 months old) and Iâ€™ve always tried to make her room or her space â€œhersâ€ and special right away. Her room here was set up before she and I ever set foot in the house, thanks to DH (who preceded us) and MIL (whoâ€™s local). Iâ€™ve never met a child with such demanding sleep habits. My nieces just go to bed and go to sleep. My family worries that she needs a counselor. Iâ€™m beginning to wonder myself. Some think itâ€™s a power struggle â€“ maybe, but I donâ€™t think so. Then again, Iâ€™m in the weeds, canâ€™t see out. DH understands, but obviously prefers I sleep with him, not our daughter. I am chronically sleep deprived because of the interruptions (DD goes back to sleep much more readily than I do). What sayeth the Hive? Gently, please. Sleep deprivation can make a person touchyâ€¦ ;) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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