Mom2legomaniacs Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Where and who you are now. How does this differ from where you were before kids? How have you evolved in your journey? Do you like who you are now? Did you like who you were then? Does this surprise you? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom2legomaniacs Posted April 11, 2008 Author Share Posted April 11, 2008 I'll start. I did not like myself much. I tried too hard to find my way and fit in. I wasn't comfortable with myself so how could I make real friends? Now, I am more secure with myself. I do what I feel I am led to do for my family regardless of what others or society might feel. I am liking myself more over time. I am trying to be better about that. I am definitely feeling like I am more of who I should have been all along. I do not wish to go back in time. I did not like me then. I cringe. Where I am now: Yes, I am surprised at what I have turned out to be doing. I nursed my children (for a long time!), we slept with out children when they needed us too, and we educate them at home. I never would have envisioned this for my life. But I am totally at ease with our decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jenny in Atl Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 Before kids; I was scared, selfish, and had no real direction. After kids; my children taught me to be brave, they showed me that there were things far greater than myself, and I am no longer scared. I don't know if I would have grown up as much as I did if I had not had children, but in watching my brothers, who don't have kids, I somehow think not. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcconnellboys Posted April 11, 2008 Share Posted April 11, 2008 I am different than I was before kids. I don't like who I was before. I have evolved and am continuing to evolve. I still have a long, long.... long way to go. I have undergone (last nine years) and still undergo a huge amount of introspection. I have come to terms with my upbringing and the person it created. I am working to make myself the person I would prefer to be, instead. I am not surprised by my adult self as I do believe that we are a product of both nature and nurture. I am trying to accept that my parents were likewise a product of nature and nurture. I seek spiritual growth at this point in my life. I hope that I'm achieving at least a little of that, although somedays I wonder about that.... I am beginning to change my mind about what I want from my life when my children are grown up and on their own. Maybe that's just a part of some mid-life crisis, or the beginnings of menopause, etc., LOL. I vacillate between being interested in returning to school and work, trying to write and/or have my own business (like a book store), and joining the Peace Corp on any given day..... What shall I be when I grow up? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mamagistra Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 I'll start. I did not like myself much. I tried too hard to find my way and fit in. I wasn't comfortable with myself so how could I make real friends? Now, I am more secure with myself. I do what I feel I am led to do for my family regardless of what others or society might feel. I am liking myself more over time. I am trying to be better about that. I am definitely feeling like I am more of who I should have been all along. I do not wish to go back in time. I did not like me then. I cringe. Where I am now: Yes, I am surprised at what I have turned out to be doing. I nursed my children (for a long time!), we slept with out children when they needed us too, and we educate them at home. I never would have envisioned this for my life. But I am totally at ease with our decisions. I don't have much to add beyond that for myself, so I'll just say...:iagree: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
j.griff Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 Before kids and even when oldest was young, I thought I knew lots more than I really did. :D I was sure that if *I* ruled the world, and people just did what *I* thought they should do, then the world would be a much better place. Now I know that I really don't know much, and that what's right for *me*, is not what's right for someone else. Thank GOD that *I* do NOT rule the world, LOL. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quiver0f10 Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 Gosh, pre-DH and kids I was sooo young. I wasn't raised a chrisitan and lived a very non-christian life. I made a lot of mistakes as a teen, but alot of stuff happened that makes me the person I am today, if that makes sense? I never wanted to get maried or have kids, yet I got married at 18 ( met DH at 16) Today I am strong and independent. I love being a mother and couldn't imagine having chosen a different path. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
elegantlion Posted April 12, 2008 Share Posted April 12, 2008 Ironically, I feel like the song I am listening to at the moment about sums up how I have changed. Here's a link. http://www.myspace.com/jaredandersonmusic Click on the song "This is life" I'll let that speak for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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