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Let's not even get started on his very sensitive skin! I can say though that his hair is so pretty. :001_wub:
Yes! Wow! Dd jokes about her sensitive skin, but it's so true. And even just leaning on things leaves marks that makes it looks like she's been beaten! lol
In the summer my redheads burn even with liberally applied amounts of SPF 70 *every hour*! We go to the beach in the early mornings or the evenings (had to learn that lesson the hard way -- poor kids!).
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Oh and I think allergy medicine is similar. Dd can take two Benedryls and feel absolutely no drowsiness. If I take *one* it knocks me out. Completely asleep. Done.
She used to take Claritin for her seasonal allergies, but it completely stopped working. Zyrtec works less well now, too. Thankfully Allegra still works for her. I wonder if this is connected to whatever the red-headed gene does to her diminished sensitivity to pain medications?
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So I do know there are some studies showing evidence that red heads don't respond to pain meds as well as others.
This is my experience with my ginger boy. I'm always at a loss when he is in pain but what I give him doesn't work.
What do you do with your kids? I'm also curious as to what your doctor says.
In the mean time suggestions for how to help decrease his pain from braces. He just got them 2 days ago and still says he can't chew because his teeth hurt too much. We are looking at 3 years so lots of adjustments = lots more headaches/pain.
Yes: my redheads need more anesthesia and Novocaine. Ds hasn't yet needed pain medications. Dd's experience is that if she gets the dose typical for her weight/age, she retains some sensation. Her most recent event, a few years ago, was at the oral surgeon. She didn't know how to tell him that she could still feel during the extraction, at the time, because she figured that was just how it was supposed to be (no experience). She was emotional afterwards and told me. That is NOT a pleasant memory for her. I have since showed her studies and articles about how redheads don't respond the same way others do and I have suggested she remember this and mention it to doctors/anesthesiologists in the future.
Oh and also, dd tells me that she doesn't get much effect from nitrous oxide, either. The dentist tells her it will make her loopy, happy, or sleepy and she says she feels no difference at all. (That stuff affects me HARD.) We will talk to them about this next time she needs it.
Thank you for bringing up this topic!
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Ds was working on a problem in Beast 4C today that *I* couldn't solve... and I don't think I would have imagined the solution if I hadn't looked it up in the answer key in the back of the book.
Now that we both know how to do it, though, we may try to create another similar problem and see if we can stump his dad! ;)
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I feel a little ridiculous going back to school at 42, and I may end up finding out that nursing isn't for me, but I figured that I would give it a shot. :)
I'm setting my own longer-term goals and planning to go back to school for my doctorate in audiology... I will be 45 then, so... same boat. (I'll have good company!)
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We are currently using the book in your second link. Got a great price on it used.
ETA: I use it with the younger ds. I would say it is definitely 3rd-6th grade level in our home. I wouldn't use it with my 9th grader: high school students benefit from more complicated language, more detail, and some deeper analysis.
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This year's goals:
ds(17) -- Primary goal is getting into the colleges he's applied to and getting a nice response to the scholarship applications. Additionally, he's applying for a summer internship -- so fingers crossed there. One more "primary" goal is to get his driver's license.
dd(14) - She's looking forward to her second solo-with-an-orchestra gig in a few months. Her primary goals are music related (specific scholarships, attending specific summer festivals, working with specific teachers, applying to a specific conservatory, and more solo engagements). Another one of her goals is to go to Paris, but that one is also music related and can wait a bit. I'd like dd to improve her French enough this year to attend a language immersion camp for a portion of the summer. She's helping her younger siblings write a sequel to Witch of Blackbird Pond -- it would be wonderful if we could get it published into book format (I think I've read about that possibility online somewhere?). Additional "experience" goals for this dd include a bunch of "field trips" related to marine biology. She also wants to learn to sail.
ds(11) -- He wants to join the swim team. He improved his swimming quite a bit over this last year and now looks forward to being able to keep up with "the big kids." He has also joined basketball and has discovered that he loves team ball sports. Doing basketball year round is another goal. Ds is likely dysgraphic (never tried for a diagnosis), and so my goal for him is to get him more comfortable with writing. I also want him to learn to type. He's doing really well with Latin (memorizes a long list of new vocab in minutes and retains it, follows the use of various conjugations/declensions with ease, and translates enthusiastically), so I'd like him to take the National Latin Exam in the spring. I should probably have a mathematics goal for him... Eh, we'll just continue using the curriculum/supplements we are using because I have no issues with them. He would love to join a rocketry club... I should add that to the list, too.
dd(7) -- Learned to swim in 2016 but needs more time in the water to improve. She wants to take a ballet class and an art class. She started Suzuki violin last spring and is rockin' right along. I'd like her to improve her sightreading enough, this year, to be able to join the orchestra at her music school in the fall. I'd also like her to take classes at the local Irish music school for exposure to other music genres. Perhaps another goal would be to "collect" enough tunes to join a slow session by the end of the year. I'd also like her to learn cursive this year, as her print is coming along nicely.
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I'm looking for last year's thread... Can somebody help me out? A link perhaps?
ETA: Scratch that. Duh. Saw the link. Thanks!
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My younger ds has always enjoyed math and it comes easily to him. He is just skipping through Singapore Primary Math 5B and everything we get to seems easy for him, like he already knows it. (I admit that I should probably be using something more challenging with him...) He is also doing Beast 4C/4D -- mostly on his own, with little help. We started Beast two years ago in 3A as a supplement to Singapore. Ds also likes to peek over his sister's shoulder and grasps her Alg and Geometry concepts with ease.
I think perhaps starting Beast Academy at a level that is low enough for your ds to be able to take the reigns will reinforce that it is fun. Try starting at 4A or even 3A (no judgment or expectations -- just fun). My ds LOVES Beast Academy and considers it his "fun school" even when things get challenging. Keeping that joy and willingness to tackle any challenge is my main priority.
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I think that depends on the kid. I didn't really have swim lessons until late, and I was super embarrassed to be with the little kids, to the point I didn't really try because I didn't want to try and do worse than the little kids, and so never learned to swim well. I see now it was ridiculous to feel that way, especially considering none of the other participants were anyone I knew or would ever see again, but at the time I was very aware. Maybe there's also a cutoff point. I think I was about twelve when I'm remembering, and it's possible that up to ten or so I wouldn't have cared, at least not as much? (I had had a few sporadic lessons before that, but don't really remember them, so even possible I did have a similar experience younger and didn't care much about the age differences.)
Perhaps it depends on the kid, but the situation you mention is very different from what I was referencing. Yours was one big kid with a bunch of littles. I can understand why one older kid might feel awkward there. However, the PP was talking about one little one in with a bunch of bigger kids. My experience has been that this kind of thing doesn't make the older kids feel bad.
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I do think it becomes more of an issue around adolescence.
I think you're right... Once they hit 12 or so, kids often prefer to be in their age group and want to fit in.
The experience I was sharing involved smaller kids... something like the ages the PP (about a young swimmer) mentioned. I wanted to share how a few 3-4 year olds fit in well with older kids (6-10). Because the older kids outnumbered the little ones, no one was comparing themselves to the little ones. It was no issue for the older kids that these little cuties were in the class.
Of course one 10 year old with an entire class of 3-4 year olds would probably not have gone over well...
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Oh, I know. When pushed she'd actually said it was because the older kids would feel bad.
Our experience was that the older kids (older than 3 and 4) were 6-9 (and then my 10 y.o.) and they all thought the younger boys were adorable. They didn't have any issues. I think the adults project. If the kids aren't encouraged to "feel bad," it's my experience that they just don't think that way.
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For dd I think it was 12...
She's WONDERFUL now!
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13-16 was the most challenging for mine.
SOOOO happy he's coming out the other side now!
Hoping ds#2 will be easier!
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It was a huge problem in swimming. She started baby swimming at 9 months, so she always hitting the age limits before the skill limits. Then when the age limits were 5-whatever. We got HUGE resistance to putting her at her right level because of her size. They actually said, "We can't put her in the same class as 8-year-olds".
My younger ds was a slower/older swimmer. Last fall, as a tall 10 y.o., he was in a level 3 class (level 4 is ready for swim team) with younger kids... There were three little boys in there who were 3 and 4 years old (and small for their age). Fabulous little swimmers! It worked out just fine. It CAN be done! (but looks awful funny from the parents' bleachers on the other side of the pool...LOL!)
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My kids are all in violin lessons. We currently rent instruments. They are all beginners. Like just started a few months ago.
Can you buy a decent violin on Ebay instead of renting one?
Something like this?
At that price you will *not* get good sound... Sound matters when you're starting out because that's when you learn to love the sound... and who wants to keep playing when you can't get a good sound out of your instrument? Better sound means more interest and that means more practice...
What sizes are you looking for? I have a couple of smaller ones that are very good quality and I would be willing to sell them to a good home...
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I have heard good things from great teachers about Gliga. If you are looking for a good-sounding student instrument, I would agree to look there.
If you have a larger budget, Scott Cao is even better sound.
Or Jay Haide instruments from Ifshin Violins: http://www.ifshinviolins.com/
And here's a good article about them: http://stringsmagazine.com/a-tale-of-two-makers-jay-ifshin-and-haide-lin/
Their student instruments are known for their good quality.
Good luck!
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Kids quit activities all the time because they don't like the coach/teacher. (You experienced that.) I experienced it growing up. My 14 y.o. dd nearly quit her instrument 5 years ago (she eats, sleeps, and breathes this instrument and this musical genre) because of issues a particular teacher was having. We switched teachers and within two weeks her passion and fire were back.
I would suggest talking candidly with your ds about the reasons for his change of heart. Make sure he knows that there'll be a coach change in six months and ask him if he's willing to hang in there until then to give it a chance. If he agrees, make sure he knows that if, during the summer, he feels the same way with a different coach, he can quit.
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That is VERY abstract. That's just not a fair set up to the child. It really isn't. I'm so sorry. I would tell him he's not the one in the wrong and they were playing a mean joke. Because basically, they were. If you want to have esoteric, metaphorical conversations about the similarities between Elijah and modern day superheroes, a NINE YEAR OLD is not who you do it with. (I mean, unless the 9 year old is the one who came up with it and all.) You don't try to explain it. When the kid is upset, you apologize and say you were wrong. That's what decent people do. I'm more inclined to think your kid is a normal kid in a family of autists than the other way around.
I dunno... my kids could definitely be involved and interested in a conversation comparing people from the Bible with modern-day superheroes (by 9 for sure)... IF they were in the proper emotional mood. If my child was upset about being "wrong" or had some other emotional hang-up about the conversation (or the people involved in the conversation), I can totally picture them stomping off in a huff or yelling at the adults. What I cannot picture in my own kids, though, (and I do have four of them with very different personalities) is still holding onto the upset a day later. That, more than anything else, makes me think there are some additional challenging social/emotional things happening in this boy's life that need parental involvement. Whether it's something that needs a diagnosis, I don't know... not enough info/experience for me to say... but whatever it is, it's too heavy for a young kid (it's dragging on him) and he needs help.
Good luck OP!
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Is your primary concern that he does not hear all of the words in a conversation (and therefore misunderstands the intention of the speaker)?
The fact that your ds "held onto" the hurt makes me wonder if he is generally sensitive (emotionally and socially). Or is this example isolated?
Could there be extenuating circumstances that led to him feeling like everyone is ganging up on him? (Does he have a difficult relationship with his father/siblings? Is he being bullied at school? Could depression be a factor?)
Socially -- Does he have a best friend? Or a group of really good friends? Are there other social factors involved?
This is like a can of worms, no? Heh. But you're opening it! (which makes you a really good mom, btw, and he's very blessed to have you)
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Okay, this is kind of embarrassing to admit but in our case it wasn't pride. It was more that to us our boys' achievements mostly seemed fairly normal and certainly not out of the realm of the expected.
**Same for us. I viewed my kids as totally normal (family of "gifted" cousins, you see -- many engineers, uncles/aunts and grandparents with patents, degrees from MIT, vice presidents in big law firms, working in government labs, teaching at universities... you get the picture). Still, I tried to convince myself that anything I *did* see that was different was due to... talking to them a lot, interacting with them a lot, spending hours a day reading to them... you know... My husband was adamant that all of the comments people were making about the kids being advanced and "so smart" was just small talk... complimentary nonsense people say just to have something to say... but I wasn't so sure. (He is from another culture where people regularly do just that.)
Talking in complete, adult like sentences before a year and holding logical, interesting conversations at 18 months? Well . . . we talk to them a lot.
Reading chapter books at four? Well, I was an early reader, as was my brother. And we read to them a lot and played with letters.
Oldest was identified as gifted when he was in elementary school, but there was no formal testing involved. He was identified as being in the top so-and-so percentage in his grade. DH and I had BTDT so it seemed more normal than unusual. He was invited to join Duke's TIP after fourth grade which was kind of cool but didn't seem like that big of a deal. A teacher informally tested youngest's reading when he was in kindy and it was around middle school level (may have been higher--she couldn't test beyond that level). He got lots of attention for that, but the school didn't label kids at that age so . . life just kind of went on. And then we started homeschooling (because they weren't being challenged in public school) and I didn't have much to compare them to, other than knowing the homeschool co-ops around here were a total waste of our time academically.
**Oldest was in school the year he was 10. I grade-skipped him (small, Catholic school) by filling out the paperwork simply saying he was a 6th grader... figured I could just claim "typo" if anyone objected. No one did. Near the end of the year all of the 6th graders took the CoGat. At the parent-teacher meeting following the test, dh and I were "double-teamed" by two of the teachers who took out ds's scores and started gushing like I've never seen a teacher do. (I had been a classroom teacher and I never saw a reaction like this.) It was definitely overkill and quite overwhelming at the time...
Until I started reading this forum it never occurred to me that anyone could view raising a gifted child as being a problem. It was actually reading here that made me wonder if mine needed a label and then to doubt it. Before coming here I just kind of thought, "Oh, they're pretty smart" and we provided as much challenge as we could and life went on. And then I started reading this forum and so many parents seemed to think having a gifted child was a constant problem to be dealt with, or presented one challenge after another and we'd certainly never experienced that. It was the lack of feeling like there was any special problem to deal with that made me doubt that they were gifted and hesitant to say so w/o proof.
**There are many "flavors"of giftedness. Many gifted kids just blend right in... but many stick out like sore thumbs... and it's not necessarily easily explained due to FSIQ differences.
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Me: a book about the Kennedy family as children, one of Hillary Clinton's biographies, and another book about notable moments in presidential campaigns in US history
Ds(17): re-reading Sherlock Holmes
Dd(14): a pile, including the 100th re-reading of Pride and Prejudice
Ds(10): a pile, including a re-reading of a dragon series by Chris D'Lacey
Dd(7): a pile of library books consisting mostly of Magic Tree House books
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Question for the moms of 2 or more: sharing
in The Chat Board
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Here, too.
And maybe a thank you.
Maybe.
Heh.