My husband was told three weeks ago to relocate or be unemployed. Since unemployment is not a good thing, we looked into our relocation options and... We are moving to Sunnyvale, CA. So are there WTWers in Sunnyvale? We would love to meet up with some of you. My kids are not excited about the move, so I would love to meet up with some kids so that they aren't feeling quite so unsettled. We will probably be arriving some time mid November. It is taking time for all the paperwork to happen and we just missed the VP meeting agenda for today. The VP has to approve the transfer. And then the actual packing and moving part. It just takes time. And the weather looks fantastic! I am looking forward to being there. Jenne in AZ (but not for much longer!)

I'm not Catholic. I'm not even close. But I would suggest you talk to your priest and tell them about your concerns. Maybe they could help ease your fears or at least provide some support for your decision. I hope that you have peace in whatever you decide to do.

She's gone. My husband and SIL were there. She isn't hurting anymore. This is so hard. He is 1000 miles away and hurting and I can't help.

My husband flew to see his mom yesterday. He is there now. They just switched her to "comfort care". Her doctors don't expect that she will last the day. My husband was supposed to be on a plane later tonight so that he could get home to have a break before having to fly to the interviews on Monday. That isn't going to happen. He will get in tomorrow afternoon instead. This isn't fair!!!!! This isn't supposed to sound selfish. He needs to be there I am just incredibly sad and angry and everything that he is hurting and far away and I can't do anything.

He came home early today. He is uninterested in everything. He is just sitting and looking at a computer doing nothing. Thankfully we got my son some new dvds for his birthday. It is today. He turned 8. I can put them on in a little while and keep the kids entertained. I think the tv as babysitter never looked so good. Thank you for the prayers. We definitely need them. His flight leaves tomorrow at about 8:00 am. He should be with his Mom just after noon. I just want to make it all better. And I can't!!!

A few days ago I posted that my husband's mother had liver cancer and he didn't want to go see her. Last night he told me again that he didn't want to go. About half an hour ago, he was told she might not have 48 hours. He is flying out tomorrow morning to see her. His sister will be there at the same time. Their planes get down about half an hour from each other. If you can spare prayers or kind thoughts or whatever for his Mom, please send them. Her name is Kelly. He is flying back Saturday. And then leaving to go to CA for job interviews Monday morning. He is a total wreck at the moment. He needs all the positive thoughts you can find. Thank you.

Yep. That is me.

I think I am going to have to wait until SIL gets there on Friday. Maybe she will have a better read on the situation than we have now. She will tell him if his time is short. I don't know that I have much choice other than to wait. I know that is a real risk to doing nothing, but in this time of everything being so out of control, I can't tell him what to do. He is hanging on with a thread as it is. I can only support him in what he thinks he should do. He already knows that I think he should go. He still doesn't want to be there.

Ladies, You all agreed that he should go. I agree with you. I told him to buy the tickets before we got this latest news. I wanted him to leave on Friday then he could be back and still get to his interviews. This isn't about money. He just doesn't want to go. About regrets, he hasn't seen her in four plus years. She didn't want to travel with the dogs. We offered to pay for the airplane ticket but she wouldn't leave the dogs. He feels that he wasn't important enough for her to visit him before. He was really hurt and it shows now. I don't know if I can convince him to go. How do I tell him he needs to see someone he believes doesn't care about him?

A week and a half ago (Thursday) we found out that the Phoenix office my husband works at was closing. We need to either relocate or be unemployed. That was hard. A few days after that (Saturday) we found out that my MIL has liver cancer. She has been dealing with various tests since then. Today we found out that the cancer has spread to her spinal column, lungs and bones. We are stressed. My husband is incredibly stressed. He needs to go to California for a job interview next week. And maybe to Colorado and Washington too. It is my older son's birthday Thursday and my birthday on Friday. He doesn't want to be gone for any of this. His sister is traveling to be with his mom on Friday. My husband doesn't want to go. I know this sounds awful but he really doesn't want to see her. He wants to stay here with us and not deal with his mom. They have a distant but not bad relationship. Do I need to convince him to go see his mom? Or do I need to tell him it is okay not to go? I just want to hold him and make it all better. But I just can't fix this.

Hi We are currently in Arizona but may end up moving to California soonish. We won't know where we are going for another couple of weeks. If we end up in California would I need to file this form after we get there? Or something else? I was looking and it said the form was only filed until October 15. Does that mean we wouldn't file anything if we arrived after October 15? Thank you

And Now Miguel? by Joseph Krumgold It is about a boy who wants to be part of his family's sheep drive.

I feel old. The events of the past two years have aged me far beyond the two calendar years they represent. I guess that happens sometimes.

I see frustration and perfectionism. I see an incredible desire to do everything correct. I see a need to not make mistakes EVER. And I see a lot of sadness and anger when mistakes happen anyway. I see a desire to fit in and be normal. I see hiding of abilities to fit in. I see much confusion and frustration when the fitting in doesn't work. I wish I saw more hope and persistence, but right now that isn't happening.

Really bad doesn't describe how really bad this past week has been... Last Thursday we were told that the office my husband works at is closing and we need to relocate or find a new job. He is busy looking at the other offices to find a new position. We are talking to real estate agents to sell our house. On Saturday the car refused to start. After dealing with AAA we replaced the battery. On Sunday we found out that my MIL has liver cancer. She lives far away and we can't exactly visit right now. I have had a cold and no voice. It has been that time of the month. Blinky's due date would have been Monday. My older son's birthday is next Thursday. My birthday is next Friday. And I need to be positive and calm. And celebrate birthdays but not all of them. It is hard. Here is a hug for you. :grouphug: Jenne in AZ

When pressed I have used, "I do not know what the word ________ means." It gets a good laugh.

I can't say what has happened before and I can't tell you what happens in other places. BUT because of the circumstances with my miscarriages, I ended up at an abortion clinic to have a D and E. Three times. It is probably the worst experience in my life and no, doing it a second and then third time does not make it any better. The doctors and other staff were absolutely professionals. They assured me that my child was not going to be put in the trash. They are the ones who told me what was going to happen. They are also the ones who sent some of the remains to get the genetic studies. I know this because it happened to me. "Getting rid of the evidence" was not even remotely on their minds. That evidence is what is treated with as much respect at possible. Please try to believe these people are not evil. They are doing an extremely emotionally draining job. They were there to counsel women both before and after. And they DID. They counseled me that there were other options (like adoption). This was insanely painful to hear. My baby had died. That was not an option. But they didn't deviate from the script. (After the first time when I complained to my OB about that particular line they did not tell me that again. They honestly cared about my well-being and my emotional state!) They called and checked up on me several days later. They were genuinely concerned about the people they saw. I wish I had never ever had the need to be there. I wish that none of the people who were there had needed to. But regardless of how much I wish that were the case, I am glad that when I needed to be there, it was there for me. (The short version of my story: no heartbeat at 16 weeks, no heartbeat at 19 weeks and no heartbeat at 17 weeks. My choices were to give birth in a hospital to a dead baby and be apart from my kids while in the hospital or have a D and E which is an outpatient procedure. I chose the D and E. The only person my OB felt was qualified to do that was the people at the abortion clinic.)

Not that you really expected an answer to your question but... they cremate the remains. And they are treated with as much respect and dignity as possible. They are then placed in an unmarked grave. At no time are they thrown in the trash.

This morning I was ready to take ds4 to his music class that he missed last week because he was sick and the car didn't start. Why? Why now? I did call AAA. The car has been started and is now on its way to the repair place to get fixed but.... the money that we are going to use on this should be used on selling the house. What else is going to go wrong??? Wait don't answer that! I don't really want to know. Think good thoughts about Boulder on Monday morning. We really really need that to work.

Thank you for the hugs. After I am sure about where we are going, I'll post asking for information for there.

Yes, Boulder. :001_smile: Actually Boulder is the top contender at the moment. Mostly because they agreed to an interview Monday. I have no idea where exactly we would be. The job is in Boulder. We would ideally be close enough so that we could keep the one car and not buy a second one. I am trying to be positive. I am trying to be adventurous. It is just the prospect of getting this house sold that is so daunting.

Yes, we have a choice where to go. We can go to anywhere they have an office and he can get a position there. Right now, the likely places look like: Colorado near Boulder, California in the San Francisco Area or the Los Angeles Area and Washington near Seattle. He already has an interview set up for Monday with the Colorado people. They were very encouraging in the email. I'll know more from them on Monday. The other guys we are waiting for responses from, we will probably know more later today. It is the selling the house part that is going to be hard... and the leaving the people and activities we love.

After an incredibly stressful couple of years I was ready to spend some time doing silly crafts with my little guy and cub scout projects and girl scout projects with my bigger kids. The plan crashed and burned yesterday. The big company my husband works for has decided to close their Phoenix office. We can either choose to relocate (paid by the company) or look for a new job. Since my husband likes working for this company and the job options for computer geeks are limited in Phoenix we are probably looking at moving. The kids don't want to move. They want to stay in their activities and this house. They want to stay near their grandparents. But that just isn't possible. I feel like a I have been hit by a 2 by 4. This isn't the PLAN!!! I think I need a hug....

Thank you! Amazon has lost my copy of Writing With Ease and the new one should be here soon. I am so happy that WWE might be able to help her. I bought it for ideas for my ds7. And I did think the brownie paragraph was pretty good. I think we will try editing this paragraph this week and another paragraph next week.

This paragraph was written by my daughter this morning. She is nine, and will be ten in October. She did Wordsmith Apprentice and Wordsmith previously, but Wordsmith Craftsman is too high-schooly. Can you give me some ideas about what kind of writing program will work for her? I know there is a really excellent paragraph hiding in there, but I don't know how to find it. The assignment was to write a descriptive paragraph about brownies using all the senses. Brownies I like Mom's brownies. In a rectangular pan, the brittle crust that will break if you touch it and the stiff edges hide the soft body... the heart of the brownie. That heart of the brownie smells sweet and delicious. It is light and warm and sticky, but slippery. They taste like sugar and chocolate. And with ice cream they are simply sublime. Brownies are good.