luuknam
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But our actions almost affect other people. His children aren't going to have a father anymore. Sure, they seem to accept it, but there is pain and hurt that they have to work through and heal from.
I think it's more important for kids to have loving, involved parents than to have parents of specific genders.
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Yes and some believe that believing something is wrong is minding others business. People not only want to do what they want but they want no one to disapprove of it.
You don't have to announce to everyone if you disapprove of something. If I disapproved of, say, your avatar, should I let you know? Or would the polite thing be to keep my mouth shut, since it's not hurting other people?
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Just curious based on some comment in another thread.
ETA: Okay, let's exclude performances on stage... those are different, in that pretty much anyone would wear makeup for those. Same with Halloween... let's exclude Halloween as well.
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Wayyyy overstepping for the school.
I am surprised that they took her to the ER for a double dose of those meds though.
I'm guessing she went back to school, the meds knocked her out, and the school freaked and took her to the ER. I probably would freak out too if I were a school.
Totally messed up in so many ways, btw.
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Not the title of a thread, but the first sentence:
"I'm 25 and 27 years older than my youngest siblings." (or something along those lines)
My first thought was "why are your youngest siblings -2yo?".
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Admittedly, I have NOT seen the interview (I am staying away from that family's TV shows on principle). There are a lot of headlines about how "genuine" Jenner is and how he is a "hero" etc to the LGBT community. I read that article you linked yesterday and I have to say that I am somewhat repelled by him - according to his second wife, he knowingly married her without disclosing his intention to transition into a woman. She even says that she would not have married him at all had she known about it. And she talks about her own personal heartbreak and devastation when she was forced to deal with his issues. And then, he walked out of his sons' lives and did not pay child support or alimony (however much Kris gets blamed, in the end, he has to take responsibility for his actions).
Not sounding heroic at all to me. (I have no problems with his transition, everyone has free will to do what they wish and I wish him well, and I am only commenting on the screw up that his relationship with his kids and his ex wife are and how he cheated them of a happy life)
I haven't seen the interview either. I think the problem lies in how we define "hero". Some people think a hero has to be a great role model in all ways. By that standard, there aren't any 'real' heroes, as everybody has their flaws and has done things that they shouldn't have done. I think it's easier to say that a specific action is heroic, than to say a person is a hero.
I wouldn't call Bruce a hero either, fwiw. I'm not even sure how heroic I think his coming out is. I mean, it's 2015. If he'd come out in 1980 my opinion would probably be different.
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I LOVED Lego Technic when I was a kid. They didn't really have robotics back then though. I think I got my first Lego Technic set for my 7th birthday and I was like "why didn't you get me this sooner!?" (I had regular Legos before then - the answer btw was that the box said 7+yo).
Back then, *every* Lego Technic set had 2-3 models to build. Lego has been on a bit of a downhill slide, imo. But it's still fun.
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Her sexual orientation has nothing to do with his sexual orientation. I am trying to figure out what you are trying to express because I have a feeling I am missing something.
I think she means "why didn't Bruce at least marry women who liked feminine men/who would be okay with him transitioning".
My guesses:
1) They're not as easy to find (I suspect)
2) He didn't really accept himself as trans and maybe wanted to have a wife who'd keep him masculine
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I think the essay question is funny because book 5 teaches a 4 paragraph essay and book 6 skips to the six paragraph essay. I guess CAP wants to be different.
I don't have CAP W&R, but I can say that IMO the 5-paragraph essay is (vastly) overrated. I'm from NL, and was never taught how to write a 5-paragraph essay. In secondary school we usually just were told to write an essay about x, and how many paragraphs we used was up to us. Also, we had a maximum word count more often than a minimum one. I've seen the writing of American college students who are used to minimum word counts and they often use a LOT of filler words just to get to that word count... more words isn't automatically better. In fact, I think being able to concisely present your idea is a useful skill in and of itself.
A good writer can learn to do a 5-paragraph essay without much specific instruction on 5-paragraph essays. Never having been taught how to write a 5-paragraph essay hasn't hindered me in college in America.
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Not Starbucks, but the pharmacy I go to seems to want to hear an uncommon Hispanic last name when I say my common Anglo last name. Other places often have trouble too, but usually just ask me to spell my last name. I get a lot of "oh, duh!" looks when I do that (now I tend to start spelling it right away after they ask for the name). I know I have an accent, but it's not a Hispanic accent, and people tend to understand me just fine with everything else I say, except "water"... waiters seem to have a really hard time with that one. It's like, sit down in restaurant, waiter asks "what do you want to drink?", "water, please" - puzzled look. Because there are so many beverages that sound similar to "water", no? I think it's the 'w' that trips up my last name and 'water', but people understand all the other 'w' words I say.
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Yes, and that second wife began a relationship with him in the spring of 79 while he was still married. He went back to his wife long enough to conceive baby #2.
And then after marriage number 2 ended effectively abandoned those children. He seems very scattered and irresponsible. I do feel for him...he has a lot of stuff going on.
Yes... LGBT people can be scattered and irresponsible too. They're not somehow automatically saints just by being attracted to the opposite sex or by feeling like they are the opposite sex.
There are a fair number of transpeople who try to suppress it by trying to live in a traditional masculine/feminine role. You know, thinking that if they just try hard enough, they can maybe fake it till they make it. It doesn't tend to work, from what I know.
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Honestly, I *highly* recommend teaching her dad to tutor her b/c he is with her daily. You are not.
Agreed with this.
Toe by Toe is also meant to be used by anyone, but I don't know the other programs mentioned, so I don't know which is best. I do know TbT is really easy to implement (the authors assume the parents tutoring dyslexic kids may not be the best readers in the world themselves, since apples often don't fall far from trees) and pretty cheap. It also uses a lot of nonsense words.
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Wow, so if you don't have medical insurance for your child to see a doctor, then parents could get fined or sent to jail for truancy because the child's absence wasn't excused by a medical professional. The parents have no authority with the school and yes, this practice targets those in poverty.
You don't *need* medical insurance to see a doctor, fwiw. The GP we saw in Texas cost $25 per visit and did not take insurance. Guess what... now that we live in NY and have insurance, our copay is $25 per sick visit. Gah!
Of course, what you really do if your kid has the flu or w/e and you need a doctor's note for every day missed, is to send the kid to school and have them send the kid home. That way, you don't need a note (nor a note for the day after, since they'll tell you to keep the kid home the next day). The day after that, you send the kid to school again, and repeat the getting kid sent home etc thing if the kid is still ill. Not ideal for the kid, certainly not ideal for everyone else in the school who gets exposed to sick kid, but it's free. :)
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How many bookcases do you have? Are you one of those people with only 2 bookcases and think that'll hold all the books? Unless you have at least (least) 10 bookcases, then don't stack the books. If you have less than 10 bookcases, then get thee to the store (or goodwill or yard sale) and get thee more bookcases!
I have only 1 bookcase. :leaving:
(I have no illusions that 1-2 bookcases will hold all the books though)
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I do hope she's able to get a NP eval. It seems strange to me that any neurotypical child would not progress past 2nd grade reading level without some underlying issues. I mean, I guess it's possible, but she's been in school two years now and still no real progress. I agree with others that that is a big red flag.
It's very unclear to me what has happened in the past couple of years at school, or wrt her home situation. Her mom is not in the picture anymore, but we don't know where she lives. We have no idea how she was treated by her mom, nor by the people she currently lives with. She's in middle school, which is tough socially, and being illiterate probably isn't really helping that much either. So, I see the potential for various issues other than LDs. She could easily have been struggling with things like depression etc, which could have been interfering with her learning over the past two years.
I second the suggestion to always have the subtitles on when the TV is on, btw.
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Donate your books to the library. Check them out when you miss them? :laugh:
It doesn't really work that way. The library is quite likely to just sell donated books if they don't fit into what they think they need in their collection.
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The floor is always an option. Or tables, desks, the couch, etc. Pretty much any flat surface area will do (even some surface areas that aren't altogether too flat). I just would avoid areas that are likely to get wet/dirty, like kitchen counters and the edge of the bathtub.
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I'm sorry, how is school the same as an adult prison?
No, I meant it like slang for prison. Similar to, say, "con college".
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Cause you know, nothing does a teenager good like some time in an adult jail. They learn so much and it really helps get them ready to function in the world.
There's a reason they call it "school".
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I obviously have more issues than resources. However, another shipment of resources arrives today! I will take a photo when all unboxed but so far, I have taken up an entire half of my two car garage with piles of books and manipulatives.
Just make sure you don't become the subject of a thread like this:
http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/549750-do-i-respect-privacy-or-intervene/
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I would be hesitant to clean up vermin droppings etc without protective gear. They can contain hanta virus, which you can get from inhaling particles while you sweep or w/e. Just wanted to throw that out there - the others have already said a bunch of useful things.
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I like Toe by Toe for phonics. But is it possible for someone to work with her for a little while every day? It'd be really helpful if whomever is her guardian at the moment could work with her 20 minutes a day, the 5 days a week you won't be working with her.
If she's willing to do homework on her own, you can find leveled book lists online. Our school used Fountas & Pinnell until recently (when the district suddenly decided to force the American Reading Company on them), and 2nd grade is about levels J-M (depending on whether we're talking about the start of the year or the end). I like F&P (except for levels A-D, which seem a little random). The library should have plenty of books at a 2nd grade level. They're mostly going to be childish, but if it helps, I read a lot of children's books whenever I learned a foreign language. Not the same thing, of course, but once she gets to 3rd or 4th grade level it should get much easier to find interesting books to read, so hopefully that won't take long. That assumes that the school is correct that she doesn't have any LDs. I don't know what the school has done since she started attending school, so I don't know. If she was getting a bunch of remediation in school for 2 years, she should be past 2nd grade level, but maybe the school dropped the ball for a while too (or she had behavioral issues or w/e). I'd suggest she reads on her own for at least half an hour a day (doesn't have to be in one chunk).
There are also workbooks you can buy at Barnes & Noble or Amazon or so (2nd grade reading, 2nd grade non-fiction reading, etc) she could work on on her own a little every day.
Like others have said, audiobooks as well, and documentary DVDs.
Is her pencil grip good? If it isn't, something like a C.L.A.W. pencil grip might be helpful (they come in adult sizes too, iirc... should be able to find them on Amazon).
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Oh, and I don't know how you're planning on financing the car (cash? credit?) and how you plan on paying for wherever you're going to live (buy a house with a mortgage? rent?), but it may be easier to buy the house before buying the car, if you're planning on getting a mortgage and using credit for the car. Of course, that assumes that you can backburner the car. If you *have* to replace it soon, then that may not be an option.
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If you're planning on moving I would not get a new dog until after the move. That way you'll know how much space you have for the dog etc. I don't know how far from your husband's work you currently live, but I'd maybe try to find that job for yourself before moving as well... that way you'll know your new income and job location, so you could live in between the two workplaces maybe or w/e. That said, if you live very far from your husband's workplace then maybe move first and worry about your job second.
I don't know if you *have* to replace your car or if you could backburner that, but if you don't want to backburner it I'd maybe make it a priority and get it done soon so you can get it off the list of things to worry about. It's not going to be the perfect car. It just needs to be a good-enough car.
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I feel for Bruce Jenner.
in The Chat Board
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In my example, I was actually talking about her specific avatar, rather than about avatars in general.
The title of this thread also isn't "let's discuss the pros and cons of trans people".
I have no idea what Scarlett does or doesn't do when wandering down the road. I do know that the school bus driver/classroom aide of my then 4yo son felt obligated by her religious beliefs to let me know that she believed our situation wouldn't improve unless we stopped living in sin (or something along those lines). At the time, my wife was unemployed and we were living in poverty. I think she thought we were a lesbian couple. We're not. My wife transitioned from male to female when C was about 6 months old.