We too are finding with our DS 10 (ADHD) that clear lists are much more likely to be done than a verbal general request. I've started using a mini whiteboard and I'll list three chores on it at a time. We have a couple of chore sessions during the day so it breaks things up and he doesn't get overwhelmed. I don't have specific help for the FAS but what's been helping for the ADHD here is: Minimal electronics/screen time M-F Lots of exercise Gluten Free Diet- Minimal Dairy Vitamins; Multi, Probiotic, Veggie Supplement, Barleans FIsh Oil I have heard that making sure the child gets a good amount of protein is key. We've tried several medications over the years and always go off of them because of the side effects. You may also try getting a little log of the day so you can notice triggers. Is she tired, having trouble focusing around a meal time, etc. I wish I had more to offer! Blessings & Best wishes, Melissa

Hi! If your open to it, I would suggest having a Neuro Psych workup done just to get a full picture. My ds who'll be 5 in March went through the testing in December and we found it helpful. My son also will often say he doesn't know things that we are certain he knows and later will demonstrate that he knows. The Psych said she was curious about this behavior but he was to young to further explore a diagnosis for that issue and she wants him retested in 2 years. They did however show me that his processing speed is slower than average and gave us the official diagnosis of ADHD as well as his speech/language processing delays. The Psych suggested that we are firm with him when he gives a wrong answer or tells us he doesn't know and we are sure that he does. I think it has helped and my son has realized that by not answering or giving wrong answers the work takes much longer! Best of luck! Blessings, Melissa

Keep on going, you can do this and be her biggest cheerleader! My DS 10 struggles with similar challenges. We did try public school and for us it was a horrible experience for many reasons. Doing homework with him for hours a night, reteaching concepts that he missed and dealing with his breakdowns because he was frustrated and exhausted from so much time spent on school. We finally realized we were reteaching him every night anyway and able to tailor the teaching style to one that he would get. Since pulling him from school this past fall it hasn't been a smooth road. But our nights are no longer filled with tantrums and I can focus on him and any school stuff during the day when he is at his best. I like the other ladies ideas of making sure she gets enough exercise or at least breaks and If possible really limit electronics. One thing that has seemed to be a motivator for my son is to give him for example his entire weeks work of Math assignments on Monday. For some reason when I gave him sheets daily, all he did was whine about it. Now he gets his Math Binder and I tell him he can work at it as he wishes but come Friday it all must be done or no weekend activities until it is finished. He is LOVING feeling like he has the control of when he wants to do his math and I find him showing pride that he works ahead and gets it done. Best of luck! Blessings, Melissa

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Hi! I have a 10 year old son with ADHD and I am pretty sure he has some processing delays as well. He enjoys video/computer games so I thought curriculum online or videos to watch would be perfect. It turns out the two online programs I got for him Wordlywise 3000 he loathes! I also got Explode the Code online. He is in the upper age range for Explode the Code but he needs some work in phonics. He does Explode the code but he doesn't like it and feels like it's babyish. I've tried showing him other online programs and he says he really just prefers I teach him. For math we're using Math Mammoth but we are reviewing 3rd grade materials so I can find all of his gaps. He doesn't like doing math but he can easily work through the Math Mammoth. I guess what I've found to be most helpful is to show them the curriculum sample I'm considering and get his input. Also trying to find curriculum that is studying things they are interested in. So our next study will be Winter Promise Sea & Sky (at least I think that's what it's called) When I went over the sample with him he was thrilled. Winter promise wasn't my top pick but he's excited and has a desire to learn so we're going with it! Best of luck! And don't be afraid to switch things up if something isn't working! Blessings, Melissa

This sounds like something that may work for us. I love the idea of AAS but need something less teacher intensive.

My ds 10 has ADHD that was significantly impacting all areas of life. We did try medications on/off over the last three years. We tried 4 different types of meds all with significant side effects. So we are again trying the natural route. Heres the protocol our doctor has us doing: No screen time/electronics Monday-Friday or school days. Physical Activity in bursts to help increase focus and get out extra energy. Gluten Free/Dye Free and minimize processed food Animal Parade Multi Animal Parade Kids Greens (basically green veggies) Natures Made CoQ10 Gummies. Natures made is the only company I could find that made this in a gummy and my ds refuses to swallow pills. Natures Way Primadophilus Kids (Probiotic) Barleans Omega Swirl Flax oil - Our doc was very specific to get this one as she said kids with adhd need this particular high level of fish oil As I said these recommendations came from our Doctor for our son & his specific requirements. In talking to your doctor and/or doing your own research you may find other options that work well. We've been doing this for about 6 weeks now. I do see improvement (and I was skeptical)! We've put in some effort towards dietary changes in the past and felt we didn't see results and frankly it's an adjustment to eat this way. But it can be done! For us a big improvement we've noticed is he's not nearly as silly. It was to the point when any time we asked him a question his answers were just....well unusual and just plan silly. We really couldn't have a conversation with him that had any substance. Now he is calmer and can carry conversations with us and others typically without being silly. Blessings, Melissa

I'm a newbie but here's what's been working well for me. Granted my ds is 10 but he is reading below grade level and does't have a ton of enthusiasm for reading. I pull booklists from many places on the web (blogs, etc.) as well as I view the books that several different curriculum companies use along side the time period we are studying. If I want more info on a book I will often look at it on Amazon. You can often read a few pages and get a feel for the book to decide if it's a good fit or not. I really try to have him read independently 20 minutes every day....I'd say he actually does it about 3X a week. We have our required reading for our studies which I mostly read aloud. Then his independent reading is from a group of books I've selected that fit his interests. Best of Luck! Melissa