for real. I think I’ll be in and out of legal crap for years to come.

I deleted my profiles but on one I specified I had an issue with all kinds of smoke. So many of these guys say they don’t smoke but they mean cigs only. They vape, smoke weed, and/or cigars!

Haha!!! when they’re cute to me they smoke or live really far. Or have 1 attractive photo out of 4. Is this the same guy?? my bf looked different in different photos. Longer beard in one. I took a risk lol but he had a perfect length beard and didn’t grow it out longer for me lol

The hive led me to Leslie Vernick and other resources and I started to see divorce as a possibility whereas before I thought there was no way out because of my Catholic upbringing.

And if there was any confusion, my bf officially broke it off not me. I don’t hold out much hope to find a guy I really like since it’s like Duck Dynasty profiles left and right and I’m not attracted to the long unkempt looking beards, hunting, etc.

To be fair I’ve mostly been single. Divorce papers were filed Oct 2020 and the only dating I’ve done was 2022, after divorce was finalized. But I get it.

Yeah I know. It doesn’t matter anyway, we canceled the dinner.

I’ve tried all that. I meet usually weekly with my trivia team to get out of the house. There aren’t a lot of options here.

My friend talked me into another dating app. I’m going out to dinner tonight with a guy but think it’s just friend vibes most likely and have made it clear I don’t even know where I’ll be living in the next several months. I have no real expectations and after this I might just delete the app again. Dating is such a pain lol

Well the bf and I broke up. Partly related to the inevitable obstacles with location/kids moving (he lives in opposite direction of where kids moved). We were both direct and cordial. I would have kept trying but he wasn’t able to commit as much, etc. So as far as breaks up go it wasn’t horrible. Now I still don’t know how the heck I’d afford to move so I’ll stay put and see if I can improve my résumé skills at all in the meantime.

The kids leaked to me in the past that dad would have moved to TX but “wasn’t allowed” so there are probably some legal consequences. Seems no one can actually provide me with specific rules though 🤦🏻‍♀️

Yeah I don’t know if moving near him is the equivalent of feeding a troll. I know the job market for him sucks — regardless of my job prospects. We discussed his job prospects in state many, many times. He would take a huge pay cut to stay in his field and I don’t know if his ego would agree to it. On top of that, those roles don’t come open often.

I already know we have to amend it regardless of whether I push for it as xh has already said so himself. Sadly, best I can come up with is giving me every spring break (we split Thanksgiving break and winter break) and extra summer. @ktgrok I did ask him this weekend what he suggested about visitation and he said he’d give me an answer Monday (today).

that is a fair point

It’s not a firm near him, either. And for actual court or face-to-face meetings it makes the most sense to have an attorney near where the case it was filed. Everything has been filed in my county. ———- The depression comment wasn’t just in reference to moving in with family. Just having to live in that part of the state again does not interest me. I lived there as a teen, young adult (with family) and again during my marriage (in a low-income subdivision once and another time living off xh’s student loan money/SNAP/my part time job). Even outside the district, housing options are not good. It won’t happen I’m sure but I really wanted for him to be forced to undo what he’s done. Move back toward me at least somewhat. But now the kids are enrolled etc.

I have applied to jobs that are closer in that direction but would maybe live here and just drive from the office to the drop off meeting place. At this point xh says we need to follow the settlement and meet halfway (funny, didn’t say how he made it impossible to follow the settlement in regards to my weekday time).

Ds only sees me when it’s mandated… so moving closer doesn’t really affect him. I see him holidays and summer.

I know. And it will be hard no matter where I live because I get weekends only indefinitely. I’m not breaking my lease now so it’s weekends only. If I move there I will just fall into a deep depression.

I followed up on the phone with the firm that does case reviews, but they don’t service my area and I doubt they will respond to the form I submitted online asking about number of miles you can move. The person that answered the phone has no idea. My lawyer hasn’t gotten back to me. My family is pressuring me to find work closer to them. I don’t want that kind of pressure or the daily/weekly pressure to visit if I live closer. I am trying to protect my mental health and I’m happiest not having a lot of interactions with certain family members as we don’t see eye-to-eye. I will speak with my therapist later this week but not sure she’ll offer any feedback. Might just listen.

Saturday dd and I met friends at the indoor pool and I was in the pool 99% of the time. I started to get chilly though! They had a door open to outside. I went down the giant slide. It was fun! We mostly stayed in the 3’6” area (lazy river and another area). I was basically walking in water for 2 hours. Somehow that made my rear sore haha.

So I see it has terrible reviews lol! But I think most trackers go more by wrist movement (one complaint) and I keep that in mind when I use mine. I’ve been using it for months (one user said theirs died after 2) and overall I’ve been satisfied. It is a bit bulky.

I don’t want to always be connected to wifi/Bluetooth either so I got a cheap one. The display messes up if it gets wet so cover in rain (under a sleeve), don’t wear in pool. BATAUU Fitness Tracker, 3D... https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09Z6M9YG9?ref=ppx_pop_mob_ap_share it shows time, steps, calories, miles For my needs it has been good. I wanted something budget friendly and don’t stress about it being stolen in locker rooms when I go swimming.

I’ll message you. The only one I found doesn’t do family law. It says personal injury law.

Just FYI, I don't qualify for legal aid because I make too much money. I don't get to claim the kids as dependents so I'm considered a one person household. Also, the legal aid for our state is for northern MS so I'm not 100% sure if they deal with people in my area. I think they do expand to my county, but the income alone would disqualify me. @*LC can you tell me the firm that does the free case reviews?

I'm pretty sure my dad's scale is "off" because I weighed 139.4 at my house and 136 here.