Signed up temporarily with a premium account on care.com so I could apply to a full time nanny job near the kids. The children are all school age (which is my preference) and they need you Mon-Thursday long hours but then you'd have Fri-Sun off. And I'm guessing some of those hours the kids are in school and you are doing meal prep or light housekeeping or something? Oh well it can't hurt to apply. None of the sitter jobs pay much... most families are asking 10-12/hr. Some are closer to 15. This family's range goes up to $17. I currently make more than that when I babysit. I'd definitely ask for the high end if they want to meet with me. In my favor I have the reference of the agency and I can help with homework. They want the person to start in Aug. And I got that recent CPR/First Aid/AED training plus my CPST certification. So I think I'm a good candidate.

Apparently you have to pay $12/mo minimum to read messages on the Roomster app. 🙄 I received a message but I can’t read it.

I’ll think about it. I have a ton of pending job apps I’ll be following up with and a job interview Monday. I just really want something new started soon. The second shift sounds a lot like the casino job I didn’t pursue further (3-11 pm). They did not say what hours they refer to as second shift. They made it clear in the details on the Bank job that you shouldn’t have kids home during your shift blah blah. I can see how that would be hard if it’s a day I have kids. In summer it’s week on/week off with the kids. Which would be an issue no matter what shift I guess. ——————- I’m so frustrated about my new orthotics being held captive. The podiatrist’s office apparently filed June 14 (service date was 5/31). Ins says they received the claim June 23 and it will be pending 15-30 business days. I asked the podiatrist’s office could I please just pick them up and you bill me the difference? We already calculated that it should he roughly $10. They said the only way to release them is to charge me the OOP fee. So I just pray that ins processes soon and correctly and I get the things next week when I drive back to my house to check on kitty. I’m wondering if I can try again with kitty and boyfriend when I know she’s calmer and see if he could cat sit soon. My landlords ignored my last text. I think they are just ready for me to get out. I asked could I use their W/D that I used when I first moved in (it stays on the property) but I see their dryer is stored like 5 feet in the air on a shelf. I’m going to see if I can get cash back at the grocery store now so I can do laundry. The laundromat can convert bills to coins but I don’t have bills right now. I don’t want to pay an ATM fee lol Dollar stores charge $1 fee for cash back. I can always do that.

Ohh I missed that. But when I began to apply it defaults to second shift without another option.

Maybe she needs a chaser… something yummy after (although that’s clearly not the root cause. She was taking it fine before). No ____ til after your medicine? (Screens or something)

I don’t know the requirements for that. Or who’s hiring. I’ll look.

They want second shift workers. I don’t know if I can do those hours.

Oh I just assumed once in a while they needed you in the office lol but that’s probably not always the case.

I know your spouse is against the medication -- have you asked him what he wants to do (pointing out that the therapy alone doesn't seem to be helping)? I'm just curious what he has to say and if he'd reconsider. In general, I'm against medication (like see it as a last resort), but I struggled for years with OCD and can see both sides. It was horrible. I had the germ thing (excessive hand washing, etc) and recurring thoughts (sometimes the spiritual OCD). My current medication is a catch all of anxiety/depression/OCD and helps keep things at bay. I remember feeling so helpless because of my OCD when I was younger. I didn't know the name or what it was but I can remember issues as far back as elem school. I hope you get some relief for everyone. I don't know if therapy would have helped me at that time or not. Not all therapy is the same and not all patients gravitate toward the same style.

I've applied to some remote jobs and a couple jobs in Louisiana (though I never got a clear answer on if I'm "allowed" to live out of the state. It's closer to my kids than my current residence). I'm surprised I ran across so many remote jobs that specify what state you must live in. They literally say, "remote in Florida" and "remote in Wisconsin" etc.

@maize I applied at an orthodontist office and some other receptionist jobs but I’m not sure about the pay on several. I do plan to go follow up with more or call and ask the status. I need to follow up on these jobs: medical support asst , escrow asst, and finance asst. Other casino jobs I applied for include hotel clerk and spa asst. A few I didn’t follow up on yet because the apps were less than a week old/ran out of time. The staffing agency said data entry would pay more than receptionist but they didn’t have any matches. I have limited experience with data entry. It was online on a website, not with spreadsheets.

Yes, I did start opening my search to remote work. In general I think I get anxiety from having to solve problems on the phone dealing with topics that aren’t up my alley (ins claims, being yelled at by angry cell phone users etc lol). Or having to sell products/services and having to do cold calls and/or massive persuading. This is just how I envision it. It may not be that bad lol just thinking about it makes me feel drained. Places that take the time to train you — they might be ok. The main reason I gave upthread for not being keen on remote work was I have worked remotely since Feb 2020. It’s isolating at times. And prior to that I was a stay-at-home mom that was home a lot due to gas/drive time to go out. I did work at the library and that was pretty peaceful. The phone didn’t ring constantly. We didn’t have a ton of patrons. I kept myself busy with other tasks. My aunt retired from an airline. I asked her if she had any links or advise and she just directed me to the airlines that fly out of the airport near my dad. I saw no jobs. I know she worked remotely but I didn’t see any remote options at all.

Have you personally done the surveys? I’m registered with one called Focus Group which was disguised as a job on a job board. Now I get random emails with potential survey opportunities but it hasn’t worked out. Like I signed up for a McCormick one but got rejected because I have a dairy sensitivity (I don’t even think their products usually have dairy). I used to do swagbucks for gift cards in the past but they asked for more & more and rewarded less and less. I didn’t do the surveys but I did other things like rebates/searches/online shopping links/trials for points.

A friend has been inside the home at one point as well as seen the other properties (due to the nature of their job had to go there). Not good. I did inquire about the seated cashier position at ALDI. Well they glossed over my salary inquiry but said all employees must do all tasks (stocking etc) so you would not be seated all shifts. If I can’t land a decent job soonish in that area I’ll have no choice but to move further or get a roommate (I was told don’t do that by a friend that’s convinced judges will look down on it). And we’ll do the halfway meetups all the time or alternate pick up/drop off. A couple women on a local Facebook group were talking to another woman job hunting and said don’t go to the casinos. It’s terrible if you have young kids. Can’t miss when they get sick etc. That’s what I’ve been telling people for months — that only few shifts at the casino would work for a parent. And even then, they might be quick to give you the ax because you are replaceable and they operate 24/7.

I also don’t want to set the bar too low and have my attorney saying no way, you can’t move there. He already told me no to a trailer park in the city before xh moved away… It’s a balancing act to find affordable and “not gonna make you look bad in court.”

Oh no! That stinks. when I sent this image to my sister she said it reminded her of the game with shack, house and mansion 😆 MASH I guess… I am fine with apartment but the ones closest to my budget look sketchy or the online reviews send you running (bed bugs, roaches, no upkeep, etc).

This is what I can afford now. I haven’t seen inside but it doesn’t look promising 😕

The issue is even if I said I was ok spending more than 30% they (leasing offices, landlords) often require you make 2.5-3x the rent. I literally would not meet that requirement. $15/hr x 40 hours = $2400/mo (gross) Rent for a typical 2 bed just outside the expensive city - at least $900. Inside the expensive city is easily over $1000/mo for a 1 BD. Then tack on pet fee which is either one lump sum or monthly or both. Typical pet deposit is $250-300. If there’s a monthly fee it’s ~$25 IIRC. Some realtors would need proof of monthly income to be $2250 while others would need it to be $2700. It’s very restrictive. The low-income housing place was asking $699 for a 2 bedroom in May. It went up and now it’s $774. And you may not make more than a certain amount to live there. So you’re really restricted. Eta: I’m not sure about snap. On the magazine salary (FT) I did not qualify when I tried. But as I transition to other work (FT elsewhere with better benefits) I might. I might not. I usually don’t qualify because I’m listed as a one person household. My kids aren’t on my taxes as dependents.

I did try the pal site mentioned unthread, too. No openings.

Yeah it could be me but some others on a local Facebook group have also had lousy luck. When I went in person to businesses on Monday some were very disconnected from the openings. Like that’s handled by another office, etc. A few said the position has been filled but we’d like to keep your résumé on file. I said ok. Secretly thinking don’t waste my nice resume paper then 🤣 When I see people post asking for jobs I read the comments and most are low paying jobs, fine for entry level/high school age. Not for a single mom to cover rent and bills. I don’t know if I can refer to myself as single mom but you know what I mean. I run from commission-based jobs. I like the stability of a consistent check and lack of pressure to persuade/upsell. I will do the upselling if I must but I hate it. I did it with store credit cards, protection plans, etc. Some of my friends seem really out of touch because they send job links and rental links that I can’t make work. It’s basic math! If I say I can’t afford an $850 home why are you sending me a link for a $925 home? They think it’s a bargain because so many in the area are $1200+. It’s not a matter of cutting out that daily Starbuck’s trip (I don’t even drink coffee but people say things like this all the time).

Oh and xh tried to offer a settlement in the 11th hour. We told them previously we would not be entertaining last second offers. I will get my day in court. No offer of money for my travel reimbursement of course. An offer to drop the charges (lol… ). GTHOH!!

I have a job interview at a casino on Monday. I told them in an email that I am seeking days and need every other weekend off due to child custody and they scheduled me anyway so I am hoping that’s not a big obstacle for this job. Glassdoor does not have salary for this particular position (it’s a weird name but a desk job in a hotel). I am not sure on pay as several pay ranges start at $15 and Glassdoor might be comparing it to other states. Which leads me to believe we’re on the low end. I’ll just see how it goes. The airlines didn’t let me actually apply for anything. They just said we’ll email you job opportunities as they arise. Now I get emails about the company 🙄😆 Delta had a misleading Facebook post ($30/hr - no lol) circulating but no where to apply and I couldn’t find the position on their site. They also are not hiring at the airport closest to my home, at least not with that airline. I asked my landlord if he could hook up his washer/dryer (he did that when I first moved in because he has a set for this house). Otherwise I can’t do laundry here without traveling to a laundromat. I offered to pay him, too. I got a stack of boxes the other night at Walmart when they were getting ready to close and employees were stocking. I can’t do that as easily where I live but my dad lives close to a store so I just went there late.

I signed up for the airline thing. They sent me a FAQ. This is a bummer: Will I be eligible for Southwest benefits as a HireGenics contract employee? No, you will not be eligible for Southwest Airlines Employee benefits or have non-revenue flight privileges as a contractor. As a HireGenics employee, you will have the option to opt-in to benefits offered by HireGenics (Medical, Dental, Vision).

I just went to the site and picked a few categories and my state. No matches were found for the ones I tried. But, I think that even if a match had been found, it would just redirect me to local job postings, right? They don't pay enough in my state, unfortunately. Like library clerk, office worker, etc. I applied for ISI instructor a month or so ago but they didn't follow up with me. The pay wasn't great on that one, either.

Kitty did not attack any of us. I think she's happy we are here.