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3 hours ago, SKL said:
I do not even own 100% of my one house, LOL.
I barely have what it takes to keep up the house I live in. Plus, when I travel, it's fun and convenient to stay in hotels or b&bs. Different every time, and less work.
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What does this mean, exactly? Are they allowing J@sh to question how the police investigation was done? As in he may not be held accountable on a technicality?
I just read the link. 🤢
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I voted south, but I'm from Oklahoma so maybe I skewed the results. I've heard it. It means showing out or acting up.
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4 minutes ago, Faith-manor said:
A crap ton of virgin newlyweds have received STI's from their new spouse if my OBGYN is to be believed
That is so sad.
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On 8/16/2021 at 7:55 AM, WildflowerMom said:
Around here it is mostly only “Church of Christ” folks who get married young or it’s kids who seem like they want to escape home and grow up as fast as possible—definitely not a religious thing. So it’s one end of the spectrum or the other. I don’t notice it at all among any organized groups except Church or Christ, so I wouldn’t say it’s a religious thing.
Curious as to what you mean. Full disclaimer we attend a Church of Christ and while they are all autonomous we don't attend a mainstream one. I can discuss in another thread or private message what that means, but don't want to derail this one.
I got married at 20 and it was much too young for me. For most people mid-twenties is a better choice. Your frontal lobe isn't fully developed until then and early adulthood life milestones like finishing your college education and starting a career are usually completed by then.
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40 minutes ago, Slache said:
That would be me, but I actually have evidence of it my post history. I believe they are quite often inaccurate.
Same here.
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9 hours ago, Terabith said:
My oldest kid is non-binary. When I refer to them, I am always very careful to use they/ them pronouns and terms like, "my kid" or "my child." Their name is Lyrium or Lyr (pronounced like King Lear). I find it interesting that every single time other people respond with he/ him or "your son."
Disclaimer: I have not read the entire thread, but I wonder if it's because of tradition. Traditionally if one did not know the gender of a person one would refer to masculine pronouns. Example: Mankind, etc.
9 hours ago, Tiberia said:I would say most people I know are unaware of they/them as pronouns of choice. Most of my people are confused when "they" is used as singular because we've had grammar rules drilled into our heads. The only people I know who have awareness are those who have non-binary kids/friends, or people in college (where it is becoming standard to state your preferred pronouns).
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Editing, mine. Yes! Using they for a singular person is a new concept.
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My mother was concerned about having Parkinson's. The doctor told her to hold her hands out in front of her with arms outstretched. Because her hands didn't tremor when she did, the doctor ruled out Parkinson's. I'm not sure of the science behind it, but you might try it and see. Just because tremors continue whilst holding out your arms and hands, that doesn't necessarily mean Parkinson's is present.
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That was really neat! Thank you for sharing!!
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I ended up watching Rear Window. My older teens are housesitting so we all watched it at the same time and texted back and forth. It was pretty fun. Grace Kelly's character needed more self respect! To be as confident and put together as she was, she was certainly blind to the main character's treatment of her. I loved the plot and wavered between wondering if the person in question was innocent or guilty. Thank you for the recommend! I am adding the rest to my watch list. It looks like we may be entering another phase of lock downs this winter.
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2 hours ago, kbutton said:
I have one of these sorts of dreams, but I knew even as a kid that it wasn't quite right and must've been from multiple memories smooshed. I was two, and I think I was able to get confirmation that part of it was true.
Yes! And don't underestimate what little kids picked up from big kids who were trying to have one over on them. I can't tell you how many times big kids told me crazy stuff, and my parents had no idea and didn't realize how that fed into other stuff that was inconsistent with how they remember it. I was fortunate to often be able to connect those dots later to explain. Bigger kids can be stinkers, lol!
I also think that people who tend to warp memories tend to do it quite often and people who don't are typically spot on in their memories. When they are not, there is usually some kind of misunderstanding vs. the memory being totally warped. There are certain people in our family that we basically do not count as reliable narrators, but we do take what they say and try to glean *why* they might think what they do because it can sometimes be helpful.
Don't give up, lol!!!
I had a memory of being at an A frame house when I was a kid. Shortly after that, a relative had an A frame house built. I knew these were different houses, and I knew that my fascination with the one being built had been fueled by seeing that first house. I remember being at the build and eating a meal there, and I remember what we ate. The build and meal were readily confirmed by my family (and they were astonished I remembered all the details because I was about 3). I spent decades remembering this house and trying to figure out where I'd seen it. I would ask people if they remembered, and they didn't.
Well, fast forward until about 3 years ago. We were with extended family, including a few relatives no one had seen since I was about three. See where this is going, lol? Well, someone had pictures out, and there was no A frame in the picture (which was of several people who are now all dead sitting in picnic chairs in front of a barn that looks like every other barn in the county), but I KNEW when I saw that picture that I had seen the A frame at that event. I started asking if there was an A frame on the property. No, there wasn't, etc. But then the couple who hadn't been around for 40 or so years said, "We lived in an A frame just down the road from that farm." Lol!!! Apparently we'd briefly either walked or driven to their house, or maybe parked there and walked over the main event.
What's funny is that my parents knew I remembered stuff correctly from that age in vivid detail, but everyone doubted this particular memory. I had been proven right multiple times over the years with things I pulled out of my brain, but they were sure this one was someone wrong.
Anyway, I remember all kinds of things that I "shouldn't," and those memories are scarily reliable. One of my kids is like this as well. He does forget things now and then from very early on, but he has clear and accurate memories from way back when he was in diapers!
I chalk some of the memory thing up to the fact that I never moved until I moved into my college dorm, so I had a lot of visual support to reinforce memories. My parents still live in that same house. We also pulled out photos all the time and looked at them when I was growing up, which reinforced a lot of stuff.I forget a LOT more now than I ever did. It's kind of scary after remembering details all my life.
I am very much like this. I used to have scarily crazy detailed memories that others didn't remember then I was proven correct.
Now, not so much. Maybe mom brain? Maybe age? I forget silly things now, like the color of a spine on a book. I can send a kiddo to the bookshelf for a tall, skinny, green book and the child will look and look. Then I go find the red, short, thick book of the same title. It's annoying!
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15 minutes ago, AmandaVT said:
I just saw that Amazon has Rear Window - love that movie! Also, Life in Pieces is a fun, easy to watch show.
I haven't heard of either. I'll check them out! Thanks!!
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59 minutes ago, Kakids said:
Amazon has Ramona and Beezus. Have you already watched The Marvelous Mrs. Maizel series?
I haven't seen the it. Thank you for the recommend!
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On 8/6/2021 at 2:26 PM, mommyoffive said:
Argh. I was all set for the normal teen years. Dating, driving, high school, jobs.... Covid complicates everything just a bit.
So if you have a teen or tween how are you navigating these times?
Is your child going to in-person school?
Is your child working an in-person job?
Doing in-person activities?
How is your child getting social time with other teens right now?
How are you navigating this time? What hurdles have you/are you facing?
I hear you!
We are just doing what feels safe and cutting back on activities.
Yes. Last year they were masked or distance learning. I expect more of the same.
Yes. Masked.
Yes. With a small group of people. So small that we tease we practically quarantined together.
Yes. See above.
As an extrovert I am enjoying fewer commitments. As a planner, I am tired of plans being thwarted. Our cancelled Christmas trip to visit family in another state. It *was* our Christmas, and then it wasn't.
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Dh has decided to stay at the hospital overnight with his dad who just had a major surgery. Covid cases are spiking and dh is afraid if he leaves, he may not get to see his dad again for the duration of the hospital stay. I don't sleep well when dh isn't home so I want to binge watch a tv series or have a movie marathon. I tend to prefer pg-13 movies or less. I don't mind romance, but don't like gratuitous s@x. Action and drama are okay. I only have YouTube and Amazon prime. Any suggestions?
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I've recently noticed this too. Unless something has changed, they all get minimum wage or slightly above. When I worked at a regional ice cream and burger place during college, all of the staff were paid at least $1 above minimum wage. I don't like the shift to tip everyone all the time. In the middle of 2020 when everyone was locked down, yes. Now, not so much.
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Thank you to all who answered. This is fascinating. I enjoy learning how other countries and cultures work.
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This board has expanded my horizons many times. I have only lived in the US and as such am only familiar with US employment and leave culture. Many of you have shared about job leave availability in other countries, like month long holidays and extended maternity leave. How does that work? Do the companies hire more employees? Do goods cost more to absorb the cost of paying employees while they are on leave?
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2 hours ago, GracieJane said:
Interesting! Which qualities would you choose in his future spouse?
Sharing children. I ultimately don't care who he marries, but I'll be &*%$ if he chooses someone awful to parent my minor children.
Edited: I misread the question the first time and thought you were asking why not which.
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Someone who would be a good mother to my children and not bring lots of drama, yet be willing to deal with my family's. Also, someone who parents similarly to us. All of our current decisions have been made with lots of background information, thought and prayer. I would really dislike someone coming in an switching things up. I get it's not a totally fair thing to ask of someone, but ghosts aren't particularly known for their logic in whom and what they choose to haunt.
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36 minutes ago, GracieJane said:
I‘m curious: would you want your spouse to remarry if you died?
The thought of this used to make me physically ill, now I'd say yes. If given a choice (obviously I wouldn't be given one) I would like to choose next spouse for dh after my death. I don't believe in ghosts, but this may be enough of a reason to come back and haunt someone until they get it right. 👻
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I am a Christian and believe that s@x should be saved for marriage. Before I was a Christian I felt the same way. If both persons wait, not only would they not know they weren't suited for one another, but they also would learn about s@x together. Not having anyone to compare to, and not having the emotional baggage that comes with previous relationships seems like a plus to me.
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