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    THIS is why people make fun of Christians!!!

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    Because it makes them look ridiculous. On the one hand, they work themselves into a tizzy over non-Christians celebrating Christmas without the religious component, declaring a "war on Christmas" every time someone wishes them a Happy Holiday. Then, on the other, they decide they want to get in on the fun on Halloween, and so celebrate the holiday stripped of its Pagan origins.

     

    Wee bit hypocritical, this Pagan thinks.

     

    (Though I don't think I could resist the temptation to attend a "Holy Ghost weenie roast" just so that when people asked what I did for Halloween, I could say I was at a "Holy Ghost weenie roast." :D)

     

     

    OMG THIS! Totally THIS!!

     

    And now I SO want to have a Holy Ghost Weenie Roast! I can just imagine the fun I'd have creating the invitations!! And the food possibilities!!!

     

    astrid

    I'm about to lose my mind-puppy related..

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    I would do as a PP suggested and push them back to two feedings at this point, otherwise just keep doing what you are doing. Puppies are hard, and unfortunately when you agree to take on that responsibility it also come with some sleepless nights. :( Eventually they will get it and will potty train.

     

    With our dogs I went by the schedule of 1hr per month of age. Meaning, at 12 weeks old they can only hold it for 3 hours at a time, and each week you can add about 15 minutes. I had to set my alarm each night to get up to let them out when they were training. It was hard (and I didn't have little ones nor was I home schooling at the time), but it didn't last forever. We live very rural, and our grocery shopping trips last longer than 3 hours, so we just had to deal with accidents when they were younger, so I went through a lot of odor cleaner and wash cloths, and they got lots of baths at that age. lol

     

    Good luck! They'll get eventually!! I don't envy you, I hate that stage.

     

    I disagree; I'd keep those puppies on three meals for a while yet. 10 and 12 weeks are young--- those tummies are used to being full. If you don't put down acceptable items to fill those tummies, they might find something else-- like shoes, socks, stuffed animals, etc. And that could be life-threatening.

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

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    Meaning--- if you read MY post to be a proclamation of the Secret To Wedded Bliss........ then why did you (collective "you") not feel that others who stated the opposite viewpoint, and much more strongly than I did, by the way, to be touting THEIR marriages as The Secret To Wedded Bliss?

     

    If

     

    ME: "dh and I can't be apart...just doesn't work for us" = The Secret to Happily Ever After, Everyone Should Live Like *I* Do

     

    then why not

     

    ANOTHER POSTER: "dh and I do very well apart, I keep the home fires burning, he provides for us, we make the most of the time we have together" = The Secret To Happily Ever After, Everyone Should Live Like *I* Do

     

    I don't see the difference between what I said and what others have said.

     

    Sorry about your headache. I'll share my drugs. :grouphug:

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

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    Okay, cool. I'm not arguing. If you don't see it, okay. We've been around long enough to know "tone" and all that. I just pointed out that it could be read differently by some people.

     

    Well now..... I just don't understand, then, why those who have said that people who cannot be apart from their spouse are not being accused also of stating that they have the Secret To Happily Ever After? Just me? I didn't know I was nearly that profound.

     

    And really-- i'm heavily medicated, struggling through a day at work with two bulging discs--- so no one has ANY business listening to ANYTHING I say. Trust me on that one. So at least today, "Happy Ever After" it aint.

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

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    I think it is comments that can be taken in more than one way that sometimes feel insulting to the other side. You said that you and your dh "were meant to be together always, no matter what". That is great. Wonderful even. But it doesn't mean that those wives who have traveling husbands aren't meant to be together always, not matter what.

     

    Their together always is different from other people's together always.

     

    Without clarification it reads like your model for marriage is the type that will lead to happily ever after but not the other model for marriage. It becomes an us v. them situation - our marriages are better than your marriages.

     

    Hmmm...... i don't see my comments that way at all. I see them as a personal response to the OP's question-- "....would it freak you out?" Yes, in MY marriage, it would. MINE. Not anyone else's. I didn't make any sort of judgements about anyone else's model for marriage. Just mine...... so I really (honestly) am surprised that it was taken as "Mine is the ONLY kind of marriage that will lead to happily ever after." Seriously....I dont' get it. Here's what I said:

     

    This is us, too. We are not good apart, either one of us. I know so many of you will scoff and think us to be weenies, but we just. can't. be. apart. Not for very long, anyway. Oh, I have "big girl panties." Trust me on that one. But DH and I know in our cores that we were meant to be together always, no matter what.

     

    astrid

     

    Don't see where I spoke about anyone else, or even implied anything other than an agreement with the PP and a personal response to the OP. In fact, in a later post, I said this:

     

    Everyone is different. Every marriage is different. There is no one formula that's right for everyone. Who CARES what anyone else thinks of your marriage? If it works, keep on keepin' on, you know? Life's too short.

     

    So again, I do think I've tried pretty hard not to make any sort of judgements on anyone else--- but then again, I've been wrong before. And I have an only child, think cupcakes in school are fine, and use a crockpot with wild abandon. :D

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

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    I in no way want to sound like I'm insulting the marriages of people who say they cannot be apart - but I do think that those people need to understand a bit better those of us who do live that life.

     

    I dont' think anyone called military marriages "tenuous" or "unstable." I used those words referring to those who admit (like myself) that we wouldn't be up for a long-distance marriage. Our choice not to be apart does not mean that our marriage is not strong, as the implication here has been.

     

    I also don't think that it's a lack of understanding, at least on my part. I get it. You are able to be in a marriage that involves long separations. I would not be. Doesn't make you better or me wimpier, or vice versa. Just means we are in different marriages. And that's a good thing.

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

    in General Education Discussion Board

    Posted · Edited by astrid

    It's ok to admit you're "wimpy" because you know you couldn't deal with it. What is offensive is implying that people who deal with separations have "unstable" or "tenuous" marriages. Like you said above, each marriage is different. My marriage was pretty stable and solid the whole time dh was in the Navy.

     

    HUH? I did not admit that I am "wimpy," I said in OUR marriage, we would not be separated. Period. The implication of "wimpiness" came from others.

     

    Nor did I ever imply that people who DO deal with separations in their marriage have "unstable" or "tenuous" marriages.

     

    I'm glad your marriage was stable during your husband's naval service. That's a choice you made, and I'm saying that for my husband and myself, we chose not to have careers that would cause separation. We fell in love in high school, went to different colleges, married at 24, and have always, since our first date junior year of high school, been completely faithful and devoted.

     

    OUR marriage looks different than yours. Not better or worse, and CERTAINLY not unstable.

     

    But I *will* be able to sleep tonight even if Wendilouwho thinks I'm wimpy. Shrug.

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    It's the, "I could nevers," that I have a hard time with, and I too left the thread feeling defensive, and that somehow my marriage was less because we can & do survive time apart. I hate when he's away. My heart hurts (and I can't sleep). But it just isn't a deal breaker. I get that marriages are different, but time apart being a deal breaker? I guess I just can't fathom *that as a deal breaker. Perhaps just as some can't imagine surviving time apart.

     

    Maybe those of us who have admitted that we could not/would not be in a marriage that involved long periods of separation feel, after reading this thread, that we're wimps, aren't able to "pull up our big girl panties" or have marriages that are unstable or tenuous. And of course there's the old standby-- that I'm somehow unpatriotic because I wouldn't marry a guy in the military? :001_huh: huh? I know that's how some of the posts here have made me feel.

     

    Everyone is different. Every marriage is different. There is no one formula that's right for everyone. Who CARES what anyone else thinks of your marriage? If it works, keep on keepin' on, you know? Life's too short.

     

    astrid

    2 month separation from your DH, would you freak out?

    in General Education Discussion Board

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    That's a deal breaker for me. There has to be an alternative or I'll make an alternative. I made that very clear before we married. When we first married, my dh was doing some trucking. It was nearly all short haul, but there were a few where he was gone two or three days. He understood that those longer ones couldn't be a regular occurrence and he stuck to his word on that. Together, we worked to make an alternative to the trucking as a source of income.

     

    All respect to Mrs. Mungo and other military wives, but FOR ME I soundly resolved never to marry anyone in the military, and firmly hold that if my spouse joined the military, that, too, would be a deal breaker.

     

    I was a military kid. My dad came back from a deployment. I was very young -- not yet in school -- but, as much as the adults liked to say that "the kids are young, they won't even remember" they were blowing smoke out their heinies. I never forgot what happened, what we and my mom went through. I would never let that happen to me again, nor will I ever take even the slightest chance of inflicting that on my kid. It just ain't happening. Ever.

     

    This is us, too. We are not good apart, either one of us. I know so many of you will scoff and think us to be weenies, but we just. can't. be. apart. Not for very long, anyway. Oh, I have "big girl panties." Trust me on that one. But DH and I know in our cores that we were meant to be together always, no matter what.

     

    astrid

    Homecoming

    in General Education Discussion Board

    Posted · Edited by astrid
    just checked a pic and I had the color wrong-- not khakis!

    Last year here in Connecticut, Molly's date wore dark dress pants, a white button down shirt and a tie that matched her dress. She said that was pretty much the norm. Not sure about this year-- we ordered her dress tonight but no date yet! ;)

     

    astrid

    Update on Oh My Achin' Back

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    Well thanks to the urging of you sweet ladies, I actually broke down and went to the Urgent Care Walk In. The doctor took one look at me-- didn't even examine me other than check my leg reflexes, and sent me for an MRI of my lower back, which was excruciatingly painful to endure, though I"m not claustrophobic so the tube didn't bother me-- the flat, hard surface did.

     

    So results show a bulging disc on the right side, and arthritis which dr. said is probably due to years of competitive riding (hunter/jumpers) and softball (catcher.) Sent me home with lots of good drugs, a work note to stay out for a WEEK (!!!) and a referral to a spinal orthopedist. Dr. thinks it's "non-surgical." Um, yeah-- it's definitely "non-surgical" if I have anything to say about it! :001_smile:

     

    Anyway, thanks for your support and concern. I was lying there on the MRI table today thinking about how we don't even know each other, but it's like we have our own support system, to whom we turn to celebrate, mourn, cry, laugh, and seek advice. How truly blessed I feel to have each one of you. (and no, that's not the meds talking!)

     

    astrid

    Sacral Pain in Lower Back-- help, I am in AGONY

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    Went to an urgent care walk-in. Dr is worried about discs Sending me for an MRI. Dr says,"I never order an MRI unless I have a very strong hunch it's a disc. And I have a VERY strong hunch that the MRI is goin to find something". Got lots of drug scrips tho. :-)

     

    Receptionist is Trying to contact ins for authorization of MRI and I'm about to cry if they don't hurry I up! Ugh

     

    Wish me luck.

     

    Astrid

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